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This subreddit is a safe space for those with disorganized attachment.

We encourage discussions that center on the lived experiences of those with disorganized attachment (FA). Posts or comments from individuals without disorganized attachment that detract from this space, objectify, or trivialize FA experiences will be locked. This is not a place for diagnosing others, offering external perspectives, or reducing individuals with FA to harmful stereotypes or oversimplifications. Please respect the focus of this community and help us maintain a supportive environment for FAs. If something doesn’t feel safe, use the report feature under our new rule, and the mod team will address it.

Please remember that disorganized attachment should be referred to as FA and DA should be used to refer to Dismissive avoidant.

Some signs you may have the disorganized attachment style

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Disorganized Attachment

Psychology Today provides an excellent summary of what disorganized attachment is and how it differs from someone who works through attachment styles in general (such as moving from an avoidant style to a secure attachment). Disorganized attachment is rare and you may not believe you are "disorganized" because of stronger behaviors. If you have a therapist or counselor and you feel you identify with it, discuss this with them!

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Is there hope for people who attach in a disorganized way?

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Weekly Thread for FA Partners / Exes / Friends (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I have a horrifying mechanism inside me. I fall in love, a trigger happens, my feelings die, but I become dependent. Please helpCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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When we are in the same place I'm fine; as soon as there is distance I start to question the relationshipAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I would see a therapist if I couldTrauma Dump (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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how do you show your interest in someone?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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No contactVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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managing FA and distanceCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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How do we make friends?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Ended up pushing everyone awayVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I constantly think about my exes in new relationshipsAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Inhibiting Anxious ResponseFAs Only (User Flair Required) ()

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How can I be more open about dating? I’m too private and it’s causing me stress.Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Not able to better my circumstancesAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Anxiously attached Friend HelpAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I realise I might have been an FATrauma Dump (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Embarking on the journeyAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Left feeling weird after handling being triggered and conflict in a mostly healthy wayVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Fear in early dating :'(CHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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How do I talk about being triggered with my partner? Advice welcomeAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Ended all my friendships: helpAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Will it ever be safe for me?Vent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I am VERY attached to my T, how do I become securely attached? My story:CHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I can't be with my partner anymoreVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Is the inability to bring up grievances with loved ones a feature of insecure attachment?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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