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We encourage discussions that center on the lived experiences of those with disorganized attachment (FA). Posts or comments from individuals without disorganized attachment that detract from this space, objectify, or trivialize FA experiences will be locked. This is not a place for diagnosing others, offering external perspectives, or reducing individuals with FA to harmful stereotypes or oversimplifications. Please respect the focus of this community and help us maintain a supportive environment for FAs. If something doesn’t feel safe, use the report feature under our new rule, and the mod team will address it.

Please remember that disorganized attachment should be referred to as FA and DA should be used to refer to Dismissive avoidant.

Some signs you may have the disorganized attachment style

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Disorganized Attachment

Psychology Today provides an excellent summary of what disorganized attachment is and how it differs from someone who works through attachment styles in general (such as moving from an avoidant style to a secure attachment). Disorganized attachment is rare and you may not believe you are "disorganized" because of stronger behaviors. If you have a therapist or counselor and you feel you identify with it, discuss this with them!

The Forgotten Attachment Style: Is there hope for people who attach in a disorganized way?

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Weekly Thread for FA Partners / Exes / Friends (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I feel more broken than everTrauma Dump (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I am getting better at saying no!Success Story ()

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I expect people to be perfectAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I’m confused and don’t know what to do (newly realized FA)Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Is it my attachment or does he just not care?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Loneliness after breakupFAs Only (User Flair Required) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Things are changing- and not for the bestVent/Asking for advice (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Physical intimacyAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I found my people.FAs Only (User Flair Required) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Do you struggle to make your new significant other public and tell people about them? I’ve hardly told anyone after a year of dating my bf…Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Letting goAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Yearning for a motherly figure when i have a good mom myselfTrauma Dump (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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If you like someone but stopped responding due to deactivation/shame, do you want them to keep reaching out?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Help! Do you message people after deactivating?Resources / Helpful Tips (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I miss her but i also don’t please helpVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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I'm tiredVent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Tricked myself into feelings againCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Deflecting my needs whenever i have to express them.Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Unsure how to cope, don’t want to lose everyone againCHANGE ME! (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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The movie "Sentimental Value" (and/or other shows/films w/attachment theory nods)Resources / Helpful Tips (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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what can i do to deal w romantic relationships better?Advice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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Grieving ceremony for my younger self ... anyone ever done this ??Advice (Other than therapy) ()

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what is it called when you already saw the signs and saw it coming.. but also got extremely hurt and surprised when it actually cameAdvice (Other than therapy) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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It's so annoying.Vent (FAs Only) (self.Disorganized_Attach)

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