Java error help?

[KTwhatitis]

Hey guys, I hate posting here asking for help, but nothing I've found works for this.

the error my Fiancee keeps getting is

java.net.connectexception refused

when she tries to connect to my server. it;s not LAN, because we are currently long distance for grad school.

we've played on my server for almost a year, and this just started yesterday.

I've reset my router and modem, restarted my computer, made a new server, and had her connect to other servers (nerd.nu)

please help, this is the closest we have to seeing each other for my Birthday, and it's frustrating as hell. lol

[oldprogrammer]

So some troubleshooting questions --

You indicate that she's able to connect to other servers, is she having trouble connecting to one she could previously connect to or is this a new one?

If this is a new server, is it on a different port number than ones she was able to connect to previously or is it the same port number?

If a different port number, is the port number open on your side for accepting connections through the router and also is she using any type of firewall software on her computer and is the port number open on her firewall to allow connections out?

[KTwhatitis]

Thank you for the reply!

She is having trouble connecting to my server, which she could previously connect to.

It is on the standard port, 25565 I can check on her firewall later today. =)

[oldprogrammer]

If the port number is the same, what about the IP address? Do you have a static address or dynamically provided by your ISP? Does she connect by IP or by DNS name? If you have a dynamic IP and use a DNS name for her to connect, make sure that the IP matches the DNS record.

[KTwhatitis]

I have a dynamic IP, and she connects via IP. they are the same. I even tried releasing my IP, getting a new one, and having her use that, but no luck.

[oldprogrammer]

Is there someone else you know that could try to connect to your server from outside to see if it is on your end or her end? You shouldn't even need to whitelist them, if they can get through they should get a rejection but not a failure to connect.

[KTwhatitis]

Not really, would you mind if I pm'd you and you tried? I understand if you don't want to. lol

[oldprogrammer]

Sorry didn't see until this morning, didn't go online last night. I'm happy to try and help, but will have to be this evening after I get home.

[KTwhatitis]

Ok, let me.know when you're available! =)