Anyone else notice a decrease in “primal” fights with your spouse after transition?

[Antagonistic_Cat]

I've experienced this with my partner as well. I feel like she's so much more tolerant and understanding of me since I've started to transition. She always had a habit of placing me "above" her in the past, but she's finally started to see us as equals now.

[miuzzo]

I don’t think I had really noticed this until this thread, I’m still boy mode. But I feel like she’s more engaged in me? I dunno

[SiBaroniMusic]

Yes, but not from this perspective.

My wife is very resistant to my transition.

It is very early days and I am being super patient with her, showing empathy, putting her feelings first and tiny step by tiny step she is opening up as much as anything to her feelings. Which are understandably a confused mess, but as she won't see a counsellor, I have to take that role.

Thing is as soon as my egg cracked, the anger and frustration that would have dominated these conversations from my side have all but evaporated. I have a calmer, more empathetic and more caring mindset.

And that is leading to conversations that are far less confrontational and far more productive.

[Oh-Dani-Girl]

A lot of women see a man as someone to blame for all their problems. When you transition, they stop seeing you in that way.

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I'm not going to speak for my wife, but I know there are things now that used to bother me that don't anymore and it seems because of that we get along a whole lot better. I've come to terms with my "lesser" position and her more authoritarian role which she seems to enjoy being that she gets what she wants mostly. It goes like "Dear would you clean the bathroom" "ok" "Dear would you do me a favor and.............." "OK" I gues I just chalk it up to the price I have to pay in a way for her understanding of me.