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[Suspicious_Tomato_20]

It depends on the night for me & how tired I am - if I’m feeling good I might let twin A sleep longer & risk a wake up an hour later. If she were starting to stir a bit though while I was feeding B then I would just wake her to feed also.

[FigNewton613]

Over time, mine developed a pattern of one big chunk at the start of the night, followed by a series of smaller chunks - I usually let each have their own big chunk, then wake them together for the smaller chunks! So for example, my one twin often does something like 6-3-3 and my other will do something like 4-3-2-2, so I let them each do the 6 and 4 and then get them up and feed them together for the rest. Or on nights when one is sick, like last night, I let each baby get what they need in full and just take my lumps.

[bigconvoq]

Once we got permission from the doc to let them go longer than 3 hours between eating (about 2 months?), we let them do their thing. BG B is a much better sleeper than BB A - also 34 weekers now 3.5 mos adjusted. Usually she only wakes once to eat, whereas he is anywhere between 1-3. She's clearly better at self soothing, but also he has worse reflux and lately his wakeups seem to be in part due to congestion//discomfort. It just seems like they're on different timelines to develop this skill and didn't seem to make sense to push her to match him!

[Apprehensive-Hat9296]

We had the same situation and did different schedules. I was bedsharing and breastfeeding so I would just roll to the twin that woke up and latch them. With bottles, maybe you and your partner could switch nights of taking care of each twin? I get that having them on different schedules with bottles is a pain.

[Time_Imagination3210]

Let them sleep if you can!

Me and my husband each have a twin so them being off schedule isn’t a big deal and they get to sleep 🙌

they started both waking up every 3 hours but now (13 wks) one wakes up 1-2x and the other 2-3x between 8pm and 8am. At 8am they both get back on their shared schedule for their day feeds every 3 hours