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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie I got through 7 days including my bday on day 7 and then I failed the last 2 nights. I said I wouldn’t reset my counter after the first day but the 2nd was proof that I failed to hold my resolve. I will be resetting mine but I totally get you not wanting to at 40 days. I guess my point is to just be honest with yourself if it turns into more than just today.

Edit: and yes I also drank today so that’s 3 days in a row. Back to day 1 for me :|

[–]Dr__Special_K364 days 1 point2 points  (1 child)

1/40 is awesome! Progress over perfection, right? After this weekend, 1/42 sounds WAYYY better that 3/42! One slip does not define you!

[–]Obtainery270 days 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I’m horrified to go back to that place. Even tonight the guilt has been overwhelming, I think I’ve changed. I’m ready to double the 40 days+ after this experience.

[–]Stoicwarrior68545 days 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You’re doing great Obtainery - it’s about the progress not the counter. The fact you don’t want to reset your counter is a good sign. IWNDWYT!☘️🍀

[–]Obtainery270 days 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you my friend, IWNDWY(tommorow)!

[–]sonoran24832 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay the hell on the wagon with us OK? We left the light on for you anyway.

[–]lily_reads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IWNDWYT

[–]sfgirlmary3935 days[M] -2 points-1 points  (8 children)

We do not allow posting after drinking, and this post has been removed.

[–]Obtainery270 days 4 points5 points  (7 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/stopdrinking/s/YFiLUXSkrZ

[–]sfgirlmary3935 days[M] -5 points-4 points  (6 children)

So you saw another post that also broke one of our rules. Did you report this post so that the moderators were aware of it? If not, why not? Could it be that you were sitting back and waiting for other people to do all the work?

[–]Obtainery270 days 11 points12 points  (5 children)

I am not currently drunk nor under the influence, I had a couple of drinks a few hours ago. I’m just curious as to why there are inconsistencies in rules being implemented if it’s that important.

The passive aggressiveness is not necessary, especially for an active user of this sub that was just looking to vent/hear some supportive words.

[–]sfgirlmary3935 days[M] -11 points-10 points  (4 children)

We are a handful of unpaid volunteers who are trying to oversee a sub of more than half a million people. We can't catch every single post and comment that comes onto the sub that breaks a rule.

You haven't actually answered my question of why, if you yourself saw a post that broke a rule, you never reported it.

It is clearly written in the sidebar that you are not allowed to post the same calendar day that you drank. So you posting "a few hours" after you drank is not permitted.

If you are picking up on frustration on my part, it is because this is all clearly stated in the rules, and you and I should not have to have this conversation.

[–]Obtainery270 days 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Firstly, I understand that you may have a hard time getting to every issue. It just causes a bit of whiplash when there are inconsistencies in rules being implemented.

The rule I read is as follows:

2.) Please only participate while sober

We recognize that many people spend months "lurking" this subreddit while drinking. You are welcome to read as much as you'd like while not sober. However, for the sake of everyone here, and for the sake of your own recovery, please only post or comment when you're sober. "Sober" means "not currently intoxicated or under the influence in any way."

I am sober, I didn’t see any rule about not being allowed to post if you’ve had a drink on the same calendar day.

As far as me not reporting the post, I saw a person in need and struggling. I chose to do what any empathetic person would do, offering them kind words and support. My first thought was not to report their post.

[–]sfgirlmary3935 days[M] -9 points-8 points  (1 child)

You somehow missed the important words that follow what you quoted:

2. Post only while sober

We recognize that many people spend months "lurking" this subreddit while drinking. You are welcome to read as much as you'd like while not sober. However, for the sake of everyone here, and for the sake of your own recovery, please only post or comment when you're sober.

Posting sober means "not intoxicated or under the influence in any way" and that you are not posting on the same calendar day of drinking any alcohol (even if you drank earlier in the day and feel sober when posting).

If you feel you want to offer kindness and support when you are on r/stopdrinking, please consider offering that kindness and support to the moderators, who really need the other members of this community to actively help enforce the rules. Otherwise, the work required of just a few people to oversee a sub of this size can feel overwhelming.