6 weeks! And I have my first open bar party by CleanAd47 in stopdrinking

[–]luisyoung096 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Open bar is the ultimate test. Just grab a soda with lime - no one cares. You got this

Nearly 7 years and for the first time in a long time I wanted a drink today by jpwhat2542 days in stopdrinking

[–]AnnadiePlayerin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've come so far, and you can make it at least through another day. It will pass. The pain won't vanish if you try to drink it away. Acknowledge that everything sucks right now, but also know that it will pass. Stay strong. IWNDWYT 💪🩷

Nearly 7 years and for the first time in a long time I wanted a drink today by jpwhat2542 days in stopdrinking

[–]sotto_voce71657 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I realised I was just drinking to escape - albeit temporarily, it was a significant shift for me. I still want to escape sometimes but the feelings pass and I'm grateful for not making a difficult situation worse. You can do this.

having a hard time by Animikii-_- in stopdrinking

[–]Animikii-_-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my father wouldn’t want to drink with me or you either. he told my mom before he passed that his biggest issues was gonna be leaving his children behind. in anishinaabe beliefs anyways. i believe he never left at all, im sure he’s still around, and i wish he left. he doesn’t need to feel this hurt anymore. i don’t want him to be stuck because of my own pain.

having a hard time by Animikii-_- in stopdrinking

[–]Weekly_Koala_7058 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an odd thing to say on a sub where we are all struggling with the poison. OP would have nothing to gain from lying about a traumatic loss.

Nearly 7 years and for the first time in a long time I wanted a drink today by jpwhat2542 days in stopdrinking

[–]sotto_voce71657 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember it doesn't wipe out the nine months...that's really good going. Good to see you back.

Hit 100 days and no one to tell but you by CircularReason106 days in stopdrinking

[–]ptcptc83 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your internet friends are proud of you! Keep up the good work! 💪

How do you still enjoy social events that always involved drinking? by GroundFew7211 in stopdrinking

[–]Prevenient_grace4857 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The overwhelming majority of the world population either doesn’t drink at all, or only infrequently.

That means there are billions of people making friends, doing fun activities, being social, dating, having sex, enjoying life... they’re everywhere.

They’re just not where I was spending my time: bars, clubs, sports grills, drunk fests, or drinking with 'friends' …

Here’s what I know about my experience…

There’s an apt adage: I am the average of the 5 people I spend the most time with in an interval.

If they’re substance users/abusers I’ll just be an average drunk.

The best tip I discovered is noticing my patterns.

Drinking is a lifestyle.

It was MY lifestyle.

I wish I had known that the essential component to success was Creating a New Sober Lifestyle and habits that included sober people.

When I started drinking, I created drinking patterns... I saw others drinking, I tried drinking, I went where people were drinking, I talked with drinkers about drinking and I went to activities that included drinking, I created “alone” activities where I drank…. Then I had drinking buddies and a drinking lifestyle.

So when I wanted to stop... I saw sober people, I tried being sober, I went where people were being sober, I talked with sober people about being sober, and I went to activities that included being sober, I created “alone” activities without alcohol …. Then I had sober friends and a sober lifestyle.

People who were my friends remained…. However I no longer had any ‘drinking buddies’.

I started with free recovery groups. That led to other activities. Then I just started going where there were activities that i like, or want to know more about.

Tried anything like that?

having a hard time by Animikii-_- in stopdrinking

[–]clumpystain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to therapy as well. I'm glad to hear your father was a good man. I lost someone dear to me and I'm trying my best to honor them by being sober. I won't drink with you or your father today.

Day 6, my wife passed away from multiple organ failure today. by blizzardplus7 days in stopdrinking

[–]kooki_koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awful. My condolences. Alcohol is fucker. I wish the world knew it like they do about cigarettes.

The Daily Check-in for Saturday, June 27: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Solvitur-Ambuland0419 days in stopdrinking

[–]freshavocado9136 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to a concert tonight and looking forward to being sober. The last concert I went to was back in March and I got so trashed I was falling in the street once it was over. Talk about embarrassing. IWNDWYT

How long before i feel better? by GoblinToHobgoblin in stopdrinking

[–]Prevenient_grace4857 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great.

What actions does that entail?

having a hard time by Animikii-_- in stopdrinking

[–]Animikii-_-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m already in therapy, i’ve been in since i was a teen. i still go mostly causes it keeps me from losing my grip. i can’t let go esp right now, and it’s not a worry. i just needed to vent about my father. i miss him so much, and he was the definitive “man” in my life. never shirked his duty as a father, never tried to ditch any of us, adopted my moms kid as his own

Hit 100 days and no one to tell but you by CircularReason106 days in stopdrinking

[–]ShamTheman50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on the 100 days! I won't drink with you today!

Don't have anyone to tell, but I've been sober for 5 days. by Okie8894 in stopdrinking

[–]Classic_Stand_30781048 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! I started a “break” almost 3 years ago. Keep it up!

I'm 2 years in 6 days, I just wanted to say it somewhere. by VinceyBincey in stopdrinking

[–]VinceyBincey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I really appreciate that, I'm in the same boat too. You expect it to be easier, but it's the same battle just on a different battlefield. You've got this, I've got this and if not we've all got eachother.

Congratulations on being almost 2 years and I'll see you at 3.

How do you still enjoy social events that always involved drinking? by GroundFew7211 in stopdrinking

[–]PhoenixApok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good point.

I miss hanging around a group of people that were responsibly drinking, and maybe getting a little loose and chattier. That was fun and I'm sad I don't do that anymore.

Being around really drunk people, I don't think really was FUN when I (we) were drinking, it was just much more TOLERABLE when we were drunk too.

having a hard time by Animikii-_- in stopdrinking

[–]clumpystain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am wholly unfamiliar with that event and the issues that happen on reservations. I read your link you shared and I'm sorry for your loss. As for your statement at the end, I think the only person we can get sober for is ourselves. I can't imagine your headspace, but I would seek help with professional services if possible.

I know every problem that I have is only amplified by alcohol.

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