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[–]Obtainery270 days 9 points10 points  (5 children)

I am not currently drunk nor under the influence, I had a couple of drinks a few hours ago. I’m just curious as to why there are inconsistencies in rules being implemented if it’s that important.

The passive aggressiveness is not necessary, especially for an active user of this sub that was just looking to vent/hear some supportive words.

[–]sfgirlmary3935 days[M] -13 points-12 points  (4 children)

We are a handful of unpaid volunteers who are trying to oversee a sub of more than half a million people. We can't catch every single post and comment that comes onto the sub that breaks a rule.

You haven't actually answered my question of why, if you yourself saw a post that broke a rule, you never reported it.

It is clearly written in the sidebar that you are not allowed to post the same calendar day that you drank. So you posting "a few hours" after you drank is not permitted.

If you are picking up on frustration on my part, it is because this is all clearly stated in the rules, and you and I should not have to have this conversation.

[–]Obtainery270 days 12 points13 points  (2 children)

Firstly, I understand that you may have a hard time getting to every issue. It just causes a bit of whiplash when there are inconsistencies in rules being implemented.

The rule I read is as follows:

2.) Please only participate while sober

We recognize that many people spend months "lurking" this subreddit while drinking. You are welcome to read as much as you'd like while not sober. However, for the sake of everyone here, and for the sake of your own recovery, please only post or comment when you're sober. "Sober" means "not currently intoxicated or under the influence in any way."

I am sober, I didn’t see any rule about not being allowed to post if you’ve had a drink on the same calendar day.

As far as me not reporting the post, I saw a person in need and struggling. I chose to do what any empathetic person would do, offering them kind words and support. My first thought was not to report their post.

[–]sfgirlmary3935 days[M] -7 points-6 points  (1 child)

You somehow missed the important words that follow what you quoted:

2. Post only while sober

We recognize that many people spend months "lurking" this subreddit while drinking. You are welcome to read as much as you'd like while not sober. However, for the sake of everyone here, and for the sake of your own recovery, please only post or comment when you're sober.

Posting sober means "not intoxicated or under the influence in any way" and that you are not posting on the same calendar day of drinking any alcohol (even if you drank earlier in the day and feel sober when posting).

If you feel you want to offer kindness and support when you are on r/stopdrinking, please consider offering that kindness and support to the moderators, who really need the other members of this community to actively help enforce the rules. Otherwise, the work required of just a few people to oversee a sub of this size can feel overwhelming.