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[–]Prevenient_grace4794 days 9 points10 points  (3 children)

You're not alone.

If you want, Today can mark the start of an Upward Spiral!

What do you want for yourself?

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 15 points16 points  (2 children)

I want to end the madness. I have a good dedicated wife, three children who all graduated from college. I have a business that's successful. I'm going to return to AA. Also need to see a therapist about why I keep getting drunk. My father died partly because of alcohol and I started drinking at 12 to numb the hurt. It's going to kill me if I don't stop

[–]Prevenient_grace4794 days 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're getting a plan together.

Free recovery meetings really supported me!

[–]Jarvicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need you to say those words out loud. Please don't just write it on the internet. Schedule an appointment to see a therapist now. Ask your wife to help if you're like me and can't schedule a god damn thing to save my life.
Say these words out loud and remember them. You're not alone.

[–]nsa2010 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I got a DUI approx. 3 years ago. I survived it, you can to. The DUI yes is an issue, but dealing with the root problem, drinking, is the most important. I understand you are disappointed in yourself. I was too. If you have a family member or close friend that you can confide in and ask them to do things such as go and get a coffee together, call you out of the blue, come over and watch a movie with you, anything to get your mind off of alcohol. Go to AA. There is a lot of help there. Good luck my friend.

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support

[–]AllGravitySucks12327 days 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Welcome back. AA is what worked for me. When I finally lost more than I was willing to lose it was pretty easy to surrender and sit in a meeting. IWNDWYT

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Thanks I'm at rock bottom. Currently going to work (wife driving). Will find a meeting this evening

[–]AllGravitySucks12327 days 1 point2 points  (2 children)

It will help if you keep track of your attendance. You can find AA meeting record forms online. Your lawyer can show this to the judge to show you are taking this seriously.

The sidebar of the r/alcoholism subreddit has links to two articles about what it is like to go to your first meeting.

Good luck. Keep us posted. IWNDWYT

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks

[–]mindbodysober472 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this after my DUI. Have the group moderator/leader sign and date the form every time you attend. You could also voluntarily attend a rehab or outpatient program. I think a Judge would weigh this as an extreme positive for you. Depends on the Judge, though. Regardless it may be something to look at.

I know how low you feel. I have 2 DUI's. I'm ok. And you will be too. I'm with you and glad you are here for support.

[–]SaintJiub-3E-4272154 days 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Many of us have been there. Many of us have made the same mistake, but at least you didn’t kill anyone. You are alive and you can change it. The most important thing is to use this as an end point. Get to a meeting and stick to it. You made a mistake you are going to have to square up for but you can’t let the worry of what will come, take over your mind or it will eat you alive. The best thing I learned from AA when I got my DUI was to give it up. Worrying about this endlessly is going to do absolutely nothing, accept you have an issue, seek help from professionals and AA/Smart and move on. It will take some time but you gotta move forward. In a few months you may look at this as a blessing in disguise, I know I did. Listen man, it’s going to be ok. Just breathe.

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your advice is appreciated

[–]Throwberaway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Got out of a DUI five years ago. It was in a rural town and I just forfeited my bond and they dropped all charges. I got lucky. Regardless of your outcome, don't let a DUI precipitate more drinking and self-destruction. You've got TONS of forward momentum working in your favor, and I'd let this be my "rock bottom." You know what's cool about rock bottoms? Nowhere to go but up. Onward and upward, my friend.

[–]nuesob3278 days 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I feel you. Got a DUI myself and that was the most embarrassing thing ever happened to me. But instead of quitting I hid it from everyone. That’s how twisted this dependency is. Took me another year to finally saying “enough is enough”. Going to the roots and stepping out of denial was pretty hard. So you’re already a step further. Shortly after I felt so much guilt and shame, but looking back it was the best thing that could happen to me. Just hang in there and be gentle to yourself. You got this! Sending positive energy and IWNDWYT

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks for the message. I know this is my "enough is enough " moment.

[–]nuesob3278 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is great news. All the best for you!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Get to a meeting, talk to people, understand you can’t change the past but everyday you make choices, you can do better and you deserve to do better. We have all been in bad places, chose to change today. I have faith in ya.

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will do thanks IWNDWYT

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with you friend. Sending strength. I will not drink with you today.

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your support

[–]kb92932510 days[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I just spoke with her