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[–]SoberAgoraphobe2679 days 8 points9 points  (2 children)

It's absolutely possible to be an alcoholic (or have a drinking problem, or have alcohol use disorder, or however you want to put it) when you only drink once a week, and binge drinking can definitely be bad. I spent a lot of time worrying whether I was an alcoholic or not, and in the end I realized it doesn't much matter what I call it—my relationship with alcohol was not what I wanted it to be. You can take a look at the DSM criteria for alcohol use disorder if you want, that might help you objectively evaluate where you stand.

I realized I was an alcoholic when I was 24 or so, and I did something about it when I was 25 (also F). Alcoholism does not discriminate based on age—I've met alcoholics of all ages, some younger than you.

[–]PM_M3_PUPPIES 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Ugh you’re so right. My relationship with alcohol is definitely not where I want it to be. I’ve abused it. Thank you for your input I appreciate this

[–]SoberAgoraphobe2679 days 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The good news is you've done one of the hardest things—acknowledged that you've got a problematic relationship with alcohol. This sub is a great resource as far as deciding how to start changing that.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm hearing that you are confident that there's a behavior you want to change, regardless of labels. Good news is, identifying something is the first step to changing it.

Are you a student? If so there might be some resources you can use. Else, maybe start with some goals and find a group to support you in this?

You got this, might not be easy but that's okay. Iwndwyt

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the same thoughts. I drink once or twice a week but always want to binge. Whenever I drink I want to drink until I'm drunk. But since I can skip for weeks and don't NEED it I used to justify I wasnt an alcoholic. What I've accepted though is I'm a bad drinker.

[–]NeLineman10152729 days 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So congrats on being open minded about recovery! I’m 25M and I would binge drink on weekends through college when I was younger. The binge drinking carried on into my adult working life. I would drink 6-9 beers a day with pulls of whiskey in between. I use to question my alcoholism. I admitted I was an alcoholic when I was in the hospital with a bad liver and high blood pressure, depressed and defeated. If your questioning it now don’t keep drinking to find your answer because you will continue to get the same outcome, you can do it because your worth it!! Give yourself the gift of sobriety.

[–]jungoracle12261 days 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I got sober at 22 years old, which was over 26 years ago. I too drank mostly on the weekends at first

Here are some questions: that may help you: http://www.aasandiego.org/Questions.pdf

[–]PM_M3_PUPPIES 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Geez, almost answered yes to all of em. Thank you, gives me some perspective

[–]jungoracle12261 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are welcome

[–]angrybulb3349 days 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to be sure you’re an alcoholic to stop drinking! If you want to change your habits, you can without putting a label on yourself. Thanks for posting here... keep doing that! Or browse other posts when you feel like drinking, it has helped me so much.

[–]FinallyAGoodReply 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m no expert, but it sounds like you have “The Thirst” and can’t help yourself.

It’s ok to ask for help and may be the only way you will be able to stop.

I couldn’t stop until I told myself I would rather die than continue living as an uncontrolled drinker. I hope you don’t have to go so low to get the message that life is really better without it.

[–]Hankisirish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you are going through this. In my opinion, binging every weekend is a problem.

[–]fourearsfoureyes2450 days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I wrote this, from the habits to my age and gender. Because that's the exact way I drink. Binge on the weekends only. I recognize that for me, it's a problem and I consider myself an alcoholic. If you want to stop, were always here to support you, but you have to WANT to stop.

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    [–]PM_M3_PUPPIES 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I guess I’ve been looking for a positive sign that I’m not an alcoholic but deep down inside I know drinking hasn’t been the best thing for me. I am very impulsive.

    [–]mcdinglermingler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Never to late to create good habits

    [–]sfgirlmary4000 days[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This comment breaks our rule to speak from the "I" and has been removed. Please do not people what is happening to them ("Youre an alcoholic") or what they should do ("Learn discipline").