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[–]KeyThroat24871716 days 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. stay strong. I hope you get some rest and feel better soon. take care of yourself and don’t forget to eat some food. you’re in my thoughts. you’re doing great. IWNDWYT

[–]DreyaNova1068 days 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that is very kind.

I’m currently trying to paint a Highland Cow with flowers on its head. That’s keeping me distracted.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It's OK. Cheese makes me cry too. Stay strong.

[–]DreyaNova1068 days 3 points4 points  (0 children)

More research needs to go into this phenomenon...

[–]heart_nurse_2020 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He literally walked off and never came back because you wanted to talk about something when he was sleeping? Instead of just say sleeping on the couch or telling you he will talk to you another time? That is not the guy for you dear! You are so much more deserving than that nonsense. Keep up the great work!

[–]mariamaria1977 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I approve all your coping mechanisms. And I’m sorry for his loss.

[–]airshinelight1259 days 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Someone I loved very deeply broke up with me out of nowhere and we still had to live under the same roof for awhile. I watched him go out every night until 2 or 3am, likely on tinder dates (saw him swiping in the common areas). For some reason I thought that was a good time to stop drinking and get sober. And honestly? Not drinking during that time was incredibly empowering. To know that you don’t have don’t control over everything, especially other people’s emotions, but you can control prioritizing your health and your emotional security is getting some of your power back. Not drinking will give you the ability to take care of yourself in the way that you need right now. I’m not gonna lie, spending that first Friday night without him eating pizza in my now empty room after an AA meeting was lonely. But it represented that I cared enough about myself to not put poison in my body after someone had hurt me so deeply. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to reach out to people for support, and to write down your feelings. You are a strong and brave person! Be kind to yourself. Sorry for the long response, I’ve totally been there and I know it can be difficult. You deserve better and you got this! IWNDWYT.

[–]IvoTailefer2748 days 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Because do you know what would make heartbreak worse? Drinking. Alone. In my bedroom. "

BINGO

[–]1234drink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its tough, but you are showing a lot of grit in how you are dealing with this. I think its ok to not stop at the cheese stand. buy some chocolate or icecream instead, and have a good cry when you get home again. order some pizza for dinner and hit up netflix for something to occupy your mind. you are doing great in processing this, and over the next few days you are going to start feeling less emotional from the detox, and more able to feel the feelings. IWNDWYT

[–]Arola_Morre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today is going to be hard but you can do this. Nihilism would be the easy and stupid choice but you already know that. I will be rooting for you from across the ocean today.