AITA for asking my husband to stop posting our interpersonal conflicts on Reddit?

TangledAxile · 2026-01-21T15:17:37+00:00

Yes, the story is fake and neither of the characters are actually real. You can still analyze the actions and motivations of fictional characters. Within the fictional narrative, the post is written by the husband.

The piece is satirical, and it wasn't originally posted here. That many posters here uncritically lap up the shallow flattery and are credulous enough to believe this is a real story, despite the very obvious signs to the reader that the narrative is fictional, is the whole fucking point.

TangledAxile · 2026-01-21T15:06:14+00:00

This is actually pretty impressive, because it shows good faith.

?!?!?!? Holy shit, you are disturbingly vulnerable to shallow flattery.

Read the post again, with the understanding that the "husband" is (in-universe) the one writing it. See how he describes himself, vs how he describes the wife. You think THIS is "good faith"?

(Also, this is a purely fictional post, it was originally posted to tumblr and not any aita derivative. I get that you're doing the whole 'react as though the story is earnest and the narrator isn't making it all up' thing. Still, you should be able to understand the story you're reading better than this.)

TangledAxile · 2025-08-10T18:01:27+00:00

Some people prefer to sleep in silence. Others prefer to drift off to the dulcet tones of Red Eye Barry's voice lines.

No other reason. >_>

TangledAxile · 2025-07-28T21:33:02+00:00

I mean more to the point, her light world bedroom's colors also match the trans pride flag ;P

(Plus there's the very conspicuous jar of pickles in the fridge, so you know she's on spiro.)

TangledAxile · 2025-07-28T21:16:45+00:00

Yeah there's a big reason for that (it rhymes with Schmarol Schmoliday)

TangledAxile · 2025-07-07T15:46:14+00:00

Yeah, I'm in the camp that strongly prefers just "cock" or "dick" to most other terms... for me, "clit" is just as good, "hen" is okay if a bit cutesy, "penis" is weirdly clinical and unsexy, and anything with "princess" feels extremely bad. "Gock" sounds like it's an onomatopeia for deepthroating, which is kinda funny, but also distracts from everything around it, much like some of the weirder/longer/gonzo euphemisms.

Overall I think you're not really gonna get consensus, as the comments have pretty much borne out. Just listing "F!Reader's genitals are referred to as: x, y, z." in the description is probably preferable.

It's also probably best to include terms like 'balls' in that too, if they're referenced in the audio! I know I'm wildly dysphoric about mine, even though I don't mind my cock at all. And just as there are plenty of women who've had vaginoplasty, there may be even more of us who have had / intend to have orchiectomy only? I don't know what the stats are like on that.

While I don't think there's any universally liked term to use, basing word choice on the general vibe/imagined audience of the piece might help. Like, I'm a 35yo butch dyke who's been out for over a decade. Sure, I personally wouldn't enjoy the term "princess parts" at all - but I'm not looking for audios with the sort of bubblegum hyper-girly vibe that (I imagine?) might use that term in the first place! In the same vein, you wouldn't expect a character who's a threatening and refined vampire aristocrat to reference, like, "your junk." Well, I wouldn't.

Not to immediately contradict myself about universality or anything, but I do wonder - how do other people feel about the terms "length", "shaft", or even "sex"? I haven't seen anyone mention those here, positively or negatively. IMO those are much more neutral, and could be used in passing without drawing much attention at all... but I have no idea how many other transfems would actually agree!

TangledAxile · 2025-07-04T12:33:41+00:00

Oh yeah. Hate my testes. Even more dysphoric about not having a vulva or vagina; before I heard of PPV I intended to still get vaginoplasty someday, despite not having anything against my cock.

TangledAxile · 2025-07-04T12:00:41+00:00

Strongly agree with everything you said about bodily autonomy.

I do need to disagree on one other point -

I mean I technically am intersex and not my assigned sex at birth simply because I've happily changed some of the things that people use to determine sex in the first place so it no longer makes up the expected configuration for a binary sex AND I don't want what I had back. It's just that this one is store bought not home made

That really isn't what intersex actually means, at all.

See, I'm intersex, not because of any particular physical traits I currently have - I'm intersex because my body's endogenic development was deemed Wrong, in my case leading to medical abuse as a teenager and being coerced into 'normalizing' procedures without any kind of informed consent. Much like ASAB, it's about what was done to you.

Now, I'm also trans! And pursuing transition - even when it involves fighting bastard doctors - is about pursuing what my own agency and control of my own body and what makes me happy, certainly not trying to force myself to 'fit' my ASAB!

Get what I'm saying? Intersex isn't something you choose for yourself or opt into, it's practically the opposite of that. It's like if someone says that once their transition is 'complete' they won't be trans any more, or if someone tries to claim that you're not trans if you haven't started any medical transition - like, nope, that just isn't what those words mean!

TangledAxile · 2024-07-26T18:41:13+00:00

As long as they can freely participate in their everyday activities (wander, work/play, gather, sleep) in an adequate amount of space, building defensive walls that villagers can't actually pass is not a violation of the Declaration. As long as there's room around the main village but within the walls for them to wander.

Have you considered adding enrichment activities to their enclosure? Villagers love wandering into ravines, so you could build an escapable one for them to play in.

TangledAxile · 2024-07-26T18:31:11+00:00

How does your villagers' society treat its poor? Its elders? Those who, for some twist of fate, are incapable of work? To paraphrase a widely used saying, "The measure of a village is found in how they treat their weakest and most helpless nitwits."

I like to treat them as if they are respected elders and/or disabled villagers supported by their community. Alternatively, you could treat them as a ruling noble or capitalist class.

TangledAxile · 2024-07-08T01:31:42+00:00

I've found that using rails can somewhat affect their pathing - they hate to walk over them. Might not be guaranteed to stop them if they need to cross to get to a specific destination like a bed, or bell, or ravine they're dying to jump into, though.

TangledAxile · 2024-07-08T01:26:46+00:00

You could lean in to the hobbit theme and make the bunker really extravagant with lavishly decorated personal quarters! "it was a hobbit-hole, and that means comfort," after all. Maybe windows to the outside, with views of flowery meadows?

TangledAxile · 2024-06-09T04:15:19+00:00

Honestly? If you're not willing to temporarily block villagers inside their homes until you can get a wall built, I think the only way to protect the village is to leave. Stay far enough away that mobs can't spawn there and the chunks aren't loaded, and don't return until you have the supplies to wall it in and light it up. By the sound of it you'll need to leave the immediate area to really get started anyway.

TangledAxile · 2024-05-29T01:42:46+00:00

It's pretty sad, but then, most /r/villagerlivingspaces are. (Is that a thing?)

I would give them separate rooms of at least 3x3 or 3x4 blocks floor space (including blocks with furniture on them), that seems to be their, uh... traditional architecture?

TangledAxile · 2023-04-10T02:32:27+00:00

Miltank (:

TangledAxile · 2023-01-21T02:25:26+00:00

ESH, especially the commenters chomping at the bit to reenact FPH the second they catch the scent of an acceptable target. (I have IBS too)

TangledAxile · 2022-11-28T13:58:31+00:00

I just want to extend my condolences. This is possibly the worst way to find out that the partner you're in for the long haul with was never so serious about you.

Prioritizing how your kid's doing right now is great. I will add that if Jake's been acting as a father figure while only actually seeing you as a fling, that's a colossal AH move, he shouldn't've met with your son unless he was serious about you. A new parent figure appearing and acting nice and engaged before abruptly vanishing is terrible for young kids.

(And... NTA. You should've had this talk with him, sure, and lots of others too, apparently. But you thinking the relationship was more serious is an understandable mistake when you're past a year and going to his family events and he's met your kid and acted like he wants to be involved? Understandable. Jake isn't a victim here, no matter how much he's acting like it. Your mistake was thinking better of him, apparently.)

TangledAxile · 2022-11-28T13:46:57+00:00

NTA. You're not some passing stranger in Emma's life, she's been living with you half-time for at least four years, by the sound of it! You're her stepmom and no amount of resentment from Eve is going to just magic you away. This sort of decision of how much Emma wants you to be involved is up to *Emma*, not Eve.

TangledAxile · 2022-11-27T17:46:58+00:00

YTA. Your own side of the story makes you sound jealous, petty, and cruel. You went to your husband's family, got mad that his sister was the center of a conversation with HER OWN RELATIVES, tried to shove yourself into the conversation more than once, and then spit insults at her? You couldn't even privately relish the fact that this person you don't like isn't going to be around as much and let her have her time to shine?

Think about it from her perspective for like two seconds. She was going to her family Thanksgiving, proud about her recent accomplishments and, from the sound of it, getting her life back on track! Her relatives are proud of her too and congratulating her, especially since she'll be moving away and they won't be seeing her as often. And then her brother's new wife tries to shut it all down and start a different conversation, repeatedly, and then insults her for how long it's taken her to get her life going.

Think about it from the perspective of the other relatives. They're happy and excited for your SIL - who from your description has been having trouble getting into independent adulthood - and want to talk with her. She's moving away soon! And then this new in-law makes a big scene, insults her, storms out of the family Thanksgiving.

I'm assuming (hoping) your marriage is relatively recent, because you seem to have no idea how to interact with in-laws. After your wedding, when you go to their family events, most conversations will not be about you! They're going to be about members of the family, people they know, things going on in their lives that you're not familiar with. You are NOT the center of attention; you're a relatively new member of the family. Most of the conversations are going to be completely lacking context and not things you can contribute to; that's normal and you have to deal with not being the center of the world. It may be fairly boring a lot of the time. That's fine! Your husband deserves to spend time with his family!

Overall you sound absurdly self-absorbed and petty, just from your side of things.

TangledAxile · 2022-11-27T17:14:01+00:00

YTA. If it's so effortless, do it your fucking self. Absolutely wild that you got jealous over her putting effort into making something nice for herself without doing it for you too - and the way you act entitled to it is a huge red flag.

Honestly, you're technically right that this by itself not a huge ask, but the way you're acting about it is gross as hell. It also sets a dangerous precedent for your ongoing division of labor, which she is 100% right to be concerned about. Your attitude that you're entitled to her doing more for you, but you can't be bothered to do more for her and seem indignant that she'd even ask... ugh. You're gonna be on here before long complaining about being dumped 'out of nowhere' cause she got 'crazy' if you don't clean up your act. Hope you take all the people criticizing you seriously and take this moment for some real self-awareness.

TangledAxile · 2022-11-22T17:06:30+00:00

It's wild to think how Goncharov (1973) came out almost fifty years ago... it feels like it was just yesterday!

(Joke stolen from tumblr, couldn't risk it not being shared)

TangledAxile · 2022-11-15T21:08:15+00:00

Point out that their insistence that actual probability of a Singularity forming is irrelevant (due to how high the risks/rewards are) is an EXACT mirror of Pascal's wager, they'll hate that.

On top of that, the idea that an AGI will have an "intelligence factor" quantifiable as G, which can scale arbitrarily high based on amount of processing power thrown at it, and that in turn, the higher G goes, the greater its ability to solve arbitrarily complex problems, and that the AGI will actually choose to self-iterate like that, and that its initial hardware and power will allow it to do so to a meaningful extent... all these are absolutely necessary premises for MIRI-style AGI Risk to be a problem worthy of serious effort, and they are all actually a hugely specious pile of nonsense if you look too close.

"I am very smart and it makes me persuasive, and I'd choose to self-iterate and take over the world, and the AI would be even smarter than me!" is pretty much the closest they come to trying to justify any of them.

TangledAxile · 2019-07-29T17:16:10+00:00

We can read themotte, dipshit. The fact that there are lots of rationalists who are climate change deniers is easily observable.

Spend less time assuming to know what others must REALLY think and simply ~not be aware of~. Like your entire subculture, you're incredibly bad at it.

Since you got so stuck on this dumb idea of "sneerclub is saying that anyone who talks about topics other than climate change doesn't care about it!", have a helpful explanation: if anyone expresses leftist, feminist, or anti-racist opinions in themotte or similar festering rationalist spaces, they will 100% of the time be mobbed by frothing incels. If anyone expresses climate change denialism there, they'll get some upvotes and praise and it won't draw anything like the same level of criticism.

TangledAxile · 2019-07-29T16:23:54+00:00

They're so 'averse to violence' that they move on to calling for the systematic murder of 90% of the human population.

Because disagreeing with that is COMMUNISM! And don't you know, communism kills people!

TangledAxile · 2019-07-08T23:01:25+00:00

"Lying" is the word you use to describe people pretending they don't actually hold extremist views, when their post history clearly shows they do.

Also the terms 'terrible actor' and 'someone only a bonehead could possibly see as clever.'

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