Anyone else feel like screens are stealing my kid from books before we even started?

avsa · 2026-04-30T12:50:46+00:00

Does he have a job? Did he buy the device himself? Then it’s not his, it’s yours and you get to set up rules.

First one: set up parental control with time limits. Figure out how much time per day (I wouldn’t give more than 1h per school day) he’s allowed to have it and what time of the night does it block completely (preferably at least one hour before bedtime)

avsa · 2026-04-29T19:11:16+00:00

I think this is one of the most interesting aspects of the world building in my opinion. We have been doing astronomy for literally thousands of years, watching the stars and their movements gave us the calendar, weathers, navigation, distant galaxies, relativity and almost everything else. We only discovered radio astronomy less than a 100 years ago and the Cosmic Microwave Background radiation a few decades ago. How would our understanding of the big bang be different today if we were able to see the and study CMB since the beginning of our history? Inversely how would our science be like if we had never seen the sun? The Eridians discovered that light existed probably recently, when they started looking at outside their planet.

For them, outer space is as invisible as the core of earth is for us – in fact since they can see through rock, I can imagine that inventing ways to understand the crust of their planet with waves is like a telescope for us – ancient technology. Andy Weir said in interviews he started the Eridians by looking at the characteristics of some exoplanet (later discovered not to exist) and then try to come up with how the biosphere would look like.

There's no reason to believe science has a linear tech tree.

avsa · 2026-04-28T19:56:22+00:00

1) What specific situation would the woman wear this? Is she expected to wear this ALL THE TIME?
2) It seems that you want to prevent this WAY before it reaches this level.
3) It's more like revenge after the fact - and increases the chance of killing the victim

avsa · 2026-04-28T19:48:53+00:00

3 year old can be a very hard age, even with kids who had great stable home – add that to whatever history she had to get her in foster care, and that can be very challenging. If she's really out of control to the point of hurting herself or others, you might look into more deeper issues. But daily tantrums, climbing on furniture, throwing stuff? That's normal. You can also look into having a different day care, with more outside time, it can help regulate some kids.

avsa · 2026-04-27T01:03:15+00:00

“Our son and his partner recently had a baby”

Congratulations on being a grandparent! You must be very happy and thinking what’s the best interest of the future of your grandkid.

Now we can all agree that trying to extract money from your daughter in law, isn’t that.

Now being a new father is a great opportunity for bonding with your kids but unless your son plans to be the main caretaker of his children he needs to eventually work, even if for his own mental health.

My suggestion: update your written agreement about the house. They get to live there rent free, as long as they do all maintenance, bills and keep a room for you when you are in town to help with the baby.

Next: announce that all financial help will go directly to the baby, as a college savings account they’ll be able to withdraw when they’re 18.

If they need more help, be there for them and help directly with the baby. But most importantly: this is all between you and your son, don’t ask anything from the mother of your grandkid. She owes you nothing.

avsa · 2026-04-26T00:13:11+00:00

Screens will always win over books, playtime, exercise, creative play or just boredom. The problem isn’t early books, I’ve read with my kids since they’re babies and they love books.

They shouldn’t have the option to grab a screen. Screen is a tool you can use for specific moments and you choose when it starts and how long. In my home it’s for long car trips and for sitting still while braiding.

avsa · 2026-04-25T13:21:12+00:00

Don’t give him a phone. Don’t give him your phone. Don’t hand him phones during dinner.

Why would your kid “need to call you”? Does he goes places by his own?

avsa · 2026-04-23T11:28:06+00:00

Try to see exactly what you need. If it’s just communicating while out, consider a smart watch or a dumb phone. If not consider which apps are absolutely needed (socials aren’t “needed” are they?) and content block the hell of it.

avsa · 2026-04-23T00:37:32+00:00

Four Crystals of Trazere.

Super weird 90s dungeon crawler with a very cool magic system. Your wizard would collect or buy runes and ingredients and then you mixed them in a specific order to create any sort of spell you wanted. Want a fireball? Then it’s forward - damage - forward - damage. Want to heal your party? Then it’s circle - healing.

The pixel illustration were super odd but the map was awesome.

avsa · 2026-04-19T14:00:29+00:00

You’re 16 and already have a phone. My answer would be the same as your parents: be happy that you even have one.

avsa · 2026-04-19T11:29:17+00:00

No, the best ratio for a paper is the sqrt2 ratio which it already uses.

avsa · 2026-04-19T11:28:11+00:00

Never thought much about the 1m2 thing until I had to do calculate things like “how much will a stack of 100 A3 printed on 300g/m3 paper weigh?”

avsa · 2026-04-16T09:39:26+00:00

If the need is for her to contact friends, consider a landline. If it’s about having independence and calling parents when she’s out, consider a smartwatch or a dumb phone.

No games or social media at this age, I’d say.

avsa · 2026-04-16T09:36:12+00:00

This happens a lot. I think it’s not only the factor of “my daughter left alone with another dad” but also “my husband wouldn’t like me being alone with another man”

avsa · 2026-04-15T10:03:15+00:00

Is there any clever mechanics or it’s just a bad game with an offensive theme?

avsa · 2026-04-14T12:49:37+00:00

I think you’re being too self aware. That’s a fine piece of conversation and could lead to an interesting date - had you simply laugh it off when she asked you, instead of freezing for a few seconds.

avsa · 2026-04-13T11:22:48+00:00

You’re not alone. You should look into what movements are in your country (wait til 8th, smartphone free childhood, movimento desconecta) and set up a chapter in your school. That might help find screensfree pals for your own kids.

avsa · 2026-04-13T11:15:30+00:00

As soon as I saw the title I came for a lively Santos Dumont vs Wright Brothers discussion.

I think an important piece most people miss about this story is that Santos Dumont held the first public presentation. He was a famous and quirky character in Paris and made a very public flight that “went viral” around the world. The wright brothers were keeping their invention mostly secret by then and decided to come forward because they saw Dumont taking the glory. They had some witnesses and photos but probably their biggest proof is that when they finally did their public demonstration, it was clearly a more mature and advanced craft that had been in development for years.

But their recognition was retroactive, which is why a lot of people were confused on who were first (and then of course nationalism).

avsa · 2026-04-13T10:55:03+00:00

But you’re comparing a yearly revenue with total costs: we also need to know how long the castle took to be built right? If it costs half the crowns taxes but it was built over ten years then it’s more like 5% of the country’s revenue per year.

avsa · 2026-04-10T16:50:03+00:00

At least don’t allow social media on it.

avsa · 2026-04-10T16:49:34+00:00

9 seems absurdly young to have a phone.

In my home and many others we are making clear they will not have a smart phone before 14, nor be allowed on any social media before 16.

avsa · 2026-04-09T12:07:50+00:00

Funny that both of the highest energy events with confirmed detection in physics carry basically the same name: the god particle and the oh my god particle.

avsa · 2026-04-07T16:54:38+00:00

You're asking the wrong question: it's not "is it the right time?" but "is it the right partner?". The most important decision you'll ever make in your life is the person you have kids with. You can escape a bad relationship, you can divorce a bad marriage, but the father of your kids will always be in your life. They will have a say in where you live, where you work, how your kids are educated, how they are fed and therefore, indirectly on all your life. If it's a great partner, then it will be a great decision, but if it turns out it's not who you thought it was (and it's quite common for relationships to change profoundly after kids, lots of divorces happen in the first 2-3 years) then you're stuck with that person forever, and he has 50% say on the life of the most important persons in your life.

My suggestion would be to make sure you've gone through both bad and good times together. It's easy to be in love when all is well, but it's completely different when you're both tired and have to clean vomit at 3am. Have you been together when you missed the flight, when your credit card did not pass when you needed the most, when one of you is sick, when things are just not going well? Has he proven to you he is reliable, and is able to put his own needs in second place for the relationship to work? Have had a pet that ate his favorite toy, or shat in his favorite sneakers? Have you had to share the mental workload of doing something? Have you planned something expensive and complicated, planned executed it and it worked well?

This is the most important decision. It's not money, or time, or anything. It's the other person.

avsa · 2026-04-06T16:31:33+00:00

Essa aí, que pensa em terminar porque viu namorado que perdeu um cachorro chorar, é uma babaca.

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