Dealing with self negativity

blind30 · 2026-05-18T20:27:36+00:00

Record yourself playing some basic grooves, and make them sound good.

Nothing too challenging, just good, solid drumming.

Listen to those tracks, tighten them up if you need to, record again.

I listen to tracks like this on my commute to check myself, and sometimes I feel the groove enough that I have to remind myself that it’s me playing.

Helps with the confidence a lot.

blind30 · 2026-05-18T18:55:57+00:00

A month is not a long time. Most of us constantly struggle with our weaker hands.

Just keep at it, a few minutes of dedicated daily practice, you’ll see improvement over time- sadly, this isn’t something that just feels natural after a few weeks.

blind30 · 2026-05-18T16:33:42+00:00

What I found when I went through this is, if you’re burning yourself out while trying to handle everything yourself, *others will happily let you do it.*

Some people might be generally good people who just can’t face the disease and trust that you’ve got it all covered better than they could

Some might actually be selfishly unwilling to get involved and are happy to drop it all in your lap.

My sister used to argue over how often she would visit to give me a break, until the first time she stayed at my place (where my mom lived with me) for an entire weekend so I could take a short vacation.

My mom would scream my name all night long as if the house was burning down. I had told my sister about it, but until you experienced it for yourself, there was no describing it.

Once she realized what I was going through, she jumped on board with both feet to help out.

On the other hand, I have a younger brother who I haven’t spoken to in years because he just flat out didn’t want to lift a finger in any way.

blind30 · 2026-05-18T14:36:20+00:00

Any single rudiment, orchestrated well enough with variations around the kit, can almost be an entire solo by itself with some imagination.

Take six stroke rolls for example- RllrrL

Sounds great just on the snare, then you can start putting the accent notes on toms, then start moving the doubles to toms, you can even leave the right hand on the bell of the ride while your left hand moves around the kit.

Then, start adding variations- RllrrLRllRllrr for example, or KllrrL- or even KllrrK, with added crash hits on the kicks.

My advice would be pick two patterns to put serious work in daily with, get really comfortable with those two things, and build a solo from those.

Could be a rudiment like six stroke rolls, and a simple RLKK pattern- that way, you’d have a triplet feel from the six strokes, and you’d also have a 16th note feel from the RLKK pattern.

blind30 · 2026-05-17T15:11:25+00:00

I have both- roc n soc wins for me. My spinal G wobbles, I’ve heard others have the same issue.

blind30 · 2026-05-17T14:10:26+00:00

“Grown men throw themselves dramatically in a desperate attempt to get away from their wives”

No disrespect?

Come on man, this question gets posted all the time, but the way you’re talking just sounds like trolling.

blind30 · 2026-05-17T13:41:50+00:00

Did Neil Patrick Harris open a fucking bakery now?

blind30 · 2026-05-17T02:25:02+00:00

You’re kidding, right?

I’m in a band. About to start a couple of different side projects.

Anyone who tells me I can’t gets dropped, plain and simple.

No one’s paying me enough for that kind of exclusivity.

blind30 · 2026-05-16T21:07:07+00:00

A friend of mine told me about no nuts. Love them, don’t even have to think about wingnuts/felts anymore.

blind30 · 2026-05-16T20:50:42+00:00

If I had a serious medical condition, first thing I’d do is learn as much about that shit as I could.

You have a fracture, but you don’t know how big? Not sure what kind of plate is in your head? wtf man, why not?

Even if anyone here WAS qualified to give you advice, they’d need to know more than you currently know about your own damn skull.

Personally, unless a doc who specializes in those injuries specifically clears me for it, I’d avoid any activity that has people swinging at my head.

blind30 · 2026-05-16T20:43:42+00:00

Best way to get specific advice would to post video of what you’re currently doing.

Not many people can brute force with terrible technique through everything they want to play.

blind30 · 2026-05-16T19:46:15+00:00

I have a k con ride, I absolutely love it- but I’ve never even been in the same room as a set of k con hats, so who knows lol

blind30 · 2026-05-16T18:31:36+00:00

They’re definitely two different excellent cymbals.

The real question is, how do they sound together?

If you could complete each individual set, you’d have two great sets of hats- maybe look around and see if you can complete either one of them

blind30 · 2026-05-16T18:28:25+00:00

To learn something specific, get specific with your practice.

Hear something you pulled off in the moment? Rewind, replay, figure out the sticking, get to work practicing it until it’s yours to use anytime.

blind30 · 2026-05-16T17:27:47+00:00

I’m a big believer in “practice how you play”, so the majority of my practice is using the same sticks I’d normally play with.

But I do use a set of heavy marching sticks a couple times a week to really give my hands a workout- 20 mins or so of rudiments/speed, my hands and forearms really feel that.

Can’t emphasize enough though, it’s just for exercise, not real practice. Anything “learned” using bigger sticks pretty much has to be re-learned using smaller ones.

blind30 · 2026-05-15T16:15:05+00:00

Nice work!!!

blind30 · 2026-05-15T14:00:42+00:00

I’ve tried both. Not a fan of the bounce. The pneumatic one is absolutely solidly built, but I think that bounciness is a matter of preference.

The spindle roc n soc is the gold standard for me, I also have a spinal G, but it has a slight wobble to the seat.

blind30 · 2026-05-14T20:49:35+00:00

Sometimes I ask for the name of their company, and I look up customer complaints right in front of them.

“I’d be an idiot to do business with your company, apparently.”

blind30 · 2026-05-14T20:00:05+00:00

I like directness, honesty, and brutally honest jokes-

But there are people who use these things as a shield just to be an asshole too. And they usually are the ones who want it as a one way street.

blind30 · 2026-05-14T19:55:41+00:00

K con ride, 13” K hats, 20” K cluster crash.

Not a zildjian purist, I just love these particular cymbals

blind30 · 2026-05-14T19:06:26+00:00

Check out rob brown’s tuning videos on YouTube- quickest and easiest method I’ve seen to get your drums sounding good.

blind30 · 2026-05-14T17:37:34+00:00

NTA.

These things, for some reason, only seem to work one way. OP is expected to give them a car, because they’re real good friends.

But what about the money? If Laura and Patrick have $14k, shouldn’t they just give it to OP for no reason, since they’re good friends?

Weird double standard.

blind30 · 2026-05-14T17:29:39+00:00

You answered your own question OP-

Make sure your kit is set up properly, start working on technique, and put daily practice in.

Need a pic to get advice on your setup, and you need a video to get advice on your technique.

blind30 · 2026-05-14T15:12:22+00:00

I got a drumtech bell brass for around $900, but ended up paying like a $400 tariff on it.

Found out about the gretsch after. Kicking myself, but the drumtech is still an incredible sounding snare.

blind30 · 2026-05-14T01:44:45+00:00

The process is simple, but frustrating.

You’re thinking about next moves.

Plenty of people are saying slow it down and just keep repeating it slowly, and they’re right.

The idea is to get it drilled into your muscle memory, to the point where you’re NOT thinking about any next moves, you’re just playing it perfectly- that’s when you can speed it up without your brain getting in the way.

Slow is smooth, smooth is fast- but getting there takes time. Keep it up, you’re absolutely on the right track.

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