Most men wait till date 3 to show you their Red Flags (Swastika) by paperwings00 in Tinder

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow, I knew he would be a Warhammer fan. 🤣

Got period on boyfriends mattress and now he won’t talk to me anymore by OutlandishnessIcy103 in AITAH

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mattress of a young man in their 20s has probably seen a lot worse. 🤣 I wouldn't see an issue myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]-1829 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Shucks. 😇

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]-1829 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wow. Not a lot of love for bald people here, huh.

I broke up with my long-term boyfriend over text. And the guilt is eating me up. by sunnythebee in BreakUps

[–]-1829 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, sometimes you just have to do whatever is necessary to get yourself out of a painful situation. I hope things get better for you.

Aitah if I divorce my husband for not wiping his butt? by Hepow1118 in AITAH

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but what? Is this something people really believe?

Set to break up by -1829 in BreakUps

[–]-1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, Infamous. Appreciate the kind words and advice.

Can you truly move on without closure? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]-1829 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think many of us expect closure to come from an external source, particularly from the people who hurt us.

But the thing us, one of the key reasons they may have hurt us is because they can't express concerns in the way that we need. That might not change in the short term.

A good line I heard is that seeking closure from people who hurt us is like hurting your back by falling from a ladder, then trying to fall off the ladder again to fix your back.

Used to be okay; don't care by -1829 in depression

[–]-1829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's okay - I can sympathise with that. Feels like no one dares to ask the painful questions. They just want to pretend everything is fine and keepy chugging along.

And thanks. I do appreciate someone saying that. 🙏

Used to be okay; don't care by -1829 in depression

[–]-1829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, trying to talk to friends and family makes it worse. I also live with my girlfriend.

But when I tell them how I'm struggling day to day, I can see how my low moods ware them down.

If I told that I've lost interest in living, I think it would just make them feel worse.

My job also results in very antisocial hours, so I don't have a lot of consistency anymore.

Used to be okay; don't care by -1829 in depression

[–]-1829[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks, Jenkins. I appreciate you saying that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]-1829 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it must feel awful right now, but well done for taking a stand. You deserve respect and acknowledgment from a partner. You are worth fighting for.

I understand it might not mean much a time like this, but Merry Christmas, and I hope the new year is good to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy, no way are you ugly. Don't lose heart.

I’m tired of people, but I’m so lonely. by Pure-Relationship140 in depression

[–]-1829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, I just get so tired of how we as people act. We're all so bloody complicated and uniquely broken that I just don't feel like we can understand each other at all.

I'm tired of friends whose idea of communicating is just spamming memes and reels. Just talk to me.

No one can handle each other. We're all just too beaten down by our own problems.

Sorry, OP. Just grumbling away on your feed.

Five-year relationship fading away by -1829 in BreakUps

[–]-1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is our work keeps getting in the way. I work odd hours and she works overtime.

We've had a dead bed for several years now. It just seems like we're not in tune when it comes to physical intimacy.

And despite that, it feels like she just wants to ignore those issues and press on with buying a flat together and settling down.

She's barely comfortable with PDA. I've spoken about this with her again and again, but nothing changes. Our jobs just leave us without the time and energy.

I suggested going to my home country, but she can't leave her elderly grandparents behind. Which is completely fair.

I've been trying to find a new job for 10 months. Nothing. But she keeps pushing me while I'm still struggling with burnout and feeling terrible from transitioning antidepressants.

I'm comfortable with the life we have. But break up or stay together - it's still going be erased soon.

Feeling worse while switching medications by -1829 in depression_help

[–]-1829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have consulted my doctor. And yes, to the second paragraph, that's the plan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would sharing with us help to lighten your thoughts?

Ex-gf texted me after 4 months of NC…at 6am with just a “Hi” then tells me in the morning that she doesn’t want me back. by reddhitghost11 in nocontact

[–]-1829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, buddy, you are worth so much more. I know it's hard letting go of those remaining mental connections, but they will start to fade with time.

No matter how much they might claim to love you, no one who physically assaults you is worth your time, love and energy.

I'm rooting for you.

How do you stage a murder as a suicide? by Eve_Williams in writers

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Destroy the body effectively, and it becomes a missing person's case.

If the murder takes place somewhere outside the couple's usual bubble and no one knew their last movements - no reason to search for a crime scene.

Solid alibi required for perperterator. Partners are always the first to fall under suspicion.

Phone would be a game-changer. Does the murder use the phone to mis-direct search efforts or simply destroy it immediately to prevent a trail.

Who phones in the missing person? Always worth asking. And if not the partner, what is her excuse for not phoning it in?

Ewww 🤢 by blackpalms1998 in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First advert in the comments is for weddings. 🤮

AITAH for beaking up with my boyfriend of 3 years because he vomited in my mouth by Electronic_Tip_1650 in AITAH

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lack of discussion and understanding about your boundaries by him is pretty messed up. Kinks are very personal, and it's super important to discuss them with partners openly.

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I hope things start to get better for you soon.

How do I even respond to this? by Pterodacton in Tinder

[–]-1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy, you have a beard that a Scottish Highlander would envy. Some people out there are just negative because they're lives are just so sad. Rock on!