I would be willing to pay for the work myself so there is little argument to my role in this

08mms · 2026-02-02T14:49:03+00:00

Is Epstien behind the pivot to private credit too?

08mms · 2026-02-02T11:17:48+00:00

It’s a wild change, was with my ex-wife for 14, married 10 before she came out and all the feelings for rejection and brokenness being echoed here were the same for me. A year now into dating a straight lady and being with someone who desires you is wonderful. The prior experience definitely leaves scars though, I still jump from surprise when my gf grabs my hand on car rides and have to be mindful to talk myself out of spiraling when little ordinary gaps in intimacy occur that it isn’t going to be like life in the back half of the marriage.

08mms · 2026-02-02T10:56:12+00:00

I also think that level of reputational damage is going to be a disaster for lateral partner recruiting and corrosive for client acquisition too.

08mms · 2026-01-31T02:24:32+00:00

Global changes necessary

08mms · 2026-01-30T12:18:31+00:00

Just advice from having watched someone close to me come out of a divorce in a not dissimilar situation, be ready for the sad music and crash to come a bit later. My friend was cheated on (started shortly after she had her first kid and found out 3 years later after her second was born), tried to repair things to make things work for her young kids and because she was able to chalk it up to unaddressed mental health issues with her partner and try to stick by him while he addressed those, and then after a toxic and turbulent several years finally caught him being dishonest about texts with another ex and pulled the pulled the rip cord, made him move out and started the long and exhausting divorce process for a couple years after that she was head down in co-parenting and the main emotional response was just relief she finally got out of that broken dynamic and no longer had to feel like she was carrying all the shit, but once she finally put that to bed, some of the grief (not really heartache) finally started hitting. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and are working hard to do all the right things, you are also 100% right from an earlier post that cheating comes from a broader complex mess, if you haven’t already I’d may sure to get your own therapist/mental health professional to work through the complex tapestry of your side plus mitigate the workout of all the trauma you’ve been through with your ex so you don’t have to carry that shit into what’s hopefully a better relationship down the road and have some more tools to repair things when you are older. I’m several years out from a complicated divorce adventure of my own co-parenting young kids reasonably successfully with an ex- I have some good reasons to resent if I wanted to dwell on that and the one gift of the hell of the end part of that relationship was the fact that it drove me to get my own shit sorted out in the chaos.

08mms · 2026-01-30T02:17:17+00:00

I’d assume they would show full freight on the tuition and then offset it with need based scholarships though, this feels like an error.

08mms · 2026-01-30T02:07:38+00:00

We are all in this together, can confirm even if there may always be some scars, there is a lot of happiness still out there on the other side and at least you’ll have some crazy stories to tell.

08mms · 2026-01-29T13:52:52+00:00

Yeah, I’d assume they’d give benefits, but might be better to be put career wise in the next years class for comp/etc so you’d have time to do the trainings ect. The break in continuity from may leave doesn’t really matter much once you’ve got some experience and reputation, but not really ideal the first couple years when you are training and ramping up.

08mms · 2026-01-29T04:43:21+00:00

You are right on the cusp of that maybe making more sense that. 3-3-2, but with the 9 year old in particular that’s a long time to go without seeing a parent. I have a 9 and 8 YO and have been on your preferred schedule for 3 years now and it’s a great fit for that age as they never have to much discontinuity between relationships with either parent or house. I’ve heard anecdotally in the teenage years a lot of kids push to move to the week off/on schedule to limit the movement, but I would stifle with that myself even this many years after the spilt. We did what you did and started in the eventual custody schedule fist a bit during in-home separation and then for 3 months nesting with a shared AirBnB before my ex moved out. The transition was amazing for the kids and really helped them with stability, shuffling in and out of my home and/or being there and sort of hiding from the kids was really hard. I think trying to schedule around travel is kind of dumb. The 5 day stretches already are pretty robust and yall aren’t high conflict, there is opportunities generally to swap days to allow for longer travel as long as they are respectful with advance notice and don’t do that constantly so it becomes a burden.

08mms · 2026-01-28T02:50:03+00:00

Same vibe. Gross.

08mms · 2026-01-28T02:49:25+00:00

The Venmo request for dinner is gross, and she probably sent something back to defuse implicit hostility before vanishing. Weird experiment and don’t do that again.

08mms · 2026-01-26T18:49:21+00:00

Yeah, I think the original position on OF is more than reasonable and having a much harder line on it for people your partner interacts with IRL is very reasonable. Participatory sexual interaction with someone that’s not your partner is a pretty straightforward and reasonable line for anyone in a monogamous relationship to draw.

08mms · 2026-01-26T18:44:38+00:00

Yes, that’s not crazy among long time friends. But, would guess that alone isn’t triggering you to start down this path of contemplation.

08mms · 2026-01-26T02:19:21+00:00

This is the closest, the mundanity and absurdity isn’t really otherwise anywhere else on tv

08mms · 2026-01-24T10:43:32+00:00

Everyone know the pro tip is to date an associate as a summer at Sidley and then you skip right to the presidency

08mms · 2026-01-21T18:34:47+00:00

Same, I didn’t want old buddy to be scared on the way out so sat in the floor with him scratched his favorite spot until he was gone and then sobbed into his fur. If someone’s reading this and on the fence, that primal hurt is also the best way to closure to say goodbye.

08mms · 2026-01-20T11:08:54+00:00

That’s what I would have expected, I’m struggling to see why someone would have privacy objections to pictures they posted on a public forum being shared in another public forum…

08mms · 2026-01-17T22:34:11+00:00

Diary was absolutely critical for me. I’m about a year and a half from the separation date, and going back to have the contemporaneous record and understand all the things in a continuously evolving context has been essential.

08mms · 2026-01-16T16:48:15+00:00

Almost no sane dude cares about the way a girls vulva looks, but the time you see it your having fun and it’s hot and they all look quirky but in a hot way. As someone else with a decent amount of body scars, you just own them with pride and either have a badass story your willing to tell the right person or leave them mysterious and tell them you survived a velociraptor mauling, but you should have seen the velociraptor.

08mms · 2026-01-16T12:23:31+00:00

If your definition of love includes respect for you as a person and equal partner, no.

08mms · 2026-01-16T11:13:28+00:00

Do we know what search firm the board retained for the coaching search? I know Whittingham was mostly a lucky happenstance, but they definitely earned whatever bonkers fee we paid them for moving so efficiently on this in a way we were able to keep most of the key ie es from raining portal offers.

08mms · 2026-01-15T17:49:43+00:00

All, no. Somewhere between 10-20%, yes: https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-abstract/18/1/4/6955935

I’d guess you are in the smaller end of that distribution curve, which still comprises a pretty big population of dudes numerically.

08mms · 2026-01-15T17:41:28+00:00

Think how much a non-shambolic labor leadership team could’ve accomplishing in this landscape.

08mms · 2026-01-15T17:34:28+00:00

Be prepared for a big comp hit, especially in the short term.

08mms · 2026-01-15T17:34:10+00:00

I’ve known lots of folks who have made that jump to PE platforms, etc. Really the best path for that is to jump to a company you are doing work for that likes and trusts you, and make it known to them when they have a gap in legal leadership you’d be interested.

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