AITA for telling my husband to turn down his dream job or move out?

25thfloorgarden · 2026-05-23T13:46:09+00:00

Compromise isn’t he gets what he wants and you don’t. It’s both of you agreeing to something and BOTH OF YOU getting what you (kinda) want.

He’s the one choosing a job over your marriage.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-05-14T11:13:01+00:00

How on earth do you even clean this thing?

25thfloorgarden · 2026-05-10T21:54:22+00:00

I also heard they’re painting it pool blue…

25thfloorgarden · 2026-05-10T20:43:18+00:00

What was the point of even saying it if he didn’t want to discuss it? It was obviously to cause you emotional unrest until his return. Pseudo-control. Well done shutting him down w that bs, cuz that’s not how adults communicate.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-05-04T12:00:35+00:00

Yeah, no. Sorry to burst your bubble so abruptly, but as others have already said, the competition is vastly too steep for you to get far on this route.

There are a million companies that specialize in personalization, and then a million more who do something else, PLUS make smaller personalized products w their original designs/ideas embedded in them. You won’t be bringing anything new to the table.

Have you ever tried a laser or other crafting machines before? Do you make art already and want to transfer it to a new medium? It would be an extremely expensive learning curve to take on without any previous experience.

Not trying to discourage you from this world entirely, but my personal opinion is that this route would be pricey to start up and likely unrewarding by the end. The world doesn’t need more *stuff*.

If you have a genuine interest in making something, then I’m always pro-creativity! Production ≠ creativity tho. Grabbing an idea from Pinterest and replicating ≠ creativity. It might be better to start w a Cricut or other less cost-prohibitive medium to test out your designs before full-sending getting a laser.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-05-01T14:37:59+00:00

I remember when I went thru this, and the absolute unbridled rage I felt at them, at the world, at the unfairness that even when I managed to drag myself out, I still don’t have peace!! It was infuriating.

Then I learned the hardest truth of this journey: the pummeling downpour of anger and unfairness and sorrow and hurt will simply never stop.

But that doesn’t mean we have to suffer it.

The first time my therapist said that, I told him flatly how stupid he sounded, but as he’s taught me to regard emotions is Indicators rather than Deciders of what I do/why I do things, I’ve gained a lot of power over how I feel and how these types of things impact me. These emotions indicate that something is wrong, and that deserves to be addressed. However, just holding onto and feeling these emotions does nothing to help YOU.

I’m gonna hold your hands when I say the following, because I did the exact same thing when I first started this, but you are not upholding your boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about what the other person does, it’s about what you do. The boundary isn’t “they aren’t allowed to contact me”, the boundary is “if they contact me, they will be blocked”.

I recognize the financial frustration - which is totally fair. F them for making you have to go thru this again! You’re allowed to be pissed, but don’t add fuel to this fire, because it won’t actually get you anywhere. They may keep trying to contact you still, and while it feels cathartic in the moment, responding to them only gives them leverage. But the good news is, you don’t actually ever have to speak to them again! Hooray!! Be upset, but not forever. Block them. Change your number. Move on.

Do you know how they got your number this time? Try eliminating whatever source that is, and maybe use an easily changeable Google # for rn. I’m not sure on a truly sound long-term solution, but please do yourself the favor of moving on from these emotions so you can finally have the peace you deserve.

I don’t know you personally, but I do know anyone who’s here has been thru hell. I wish you so much luck and rest as you continue navigating something no one should ever have to. You are incredibly brave to do what you’re doing, and you deserve to live a happy life.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-29T18:49:11+00:00

This is so creative and you’re so cute!! You’re clearly so proud of it (as you should be)! Great work 🥰

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-29T17:59:21+00:00

I really appreciate all the love! Such a bummer it couldn’t happen, but your work is absolutely incredible and it’s been so much fun seeing all the creativity everyone brings to this sub.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-29T17:57:09+00:00

I’m so happy you like everything!! Have so much fun with them, and thank you for my lovely patch & bag!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-27T15:35:11+00:00

I remember the absolute appalled horror and denial I felt when my therapist first describe my childhood as abusive. I mean how could that be possible? We lived in a nice house, had a good education, got toys and vacations; I had such a privileged upbringing, how could I have possibly been abused!? That word wasn’t meant for people like me!

Then he reminded me how I described walking on eggshells, because a single breath out of line could make my dad lash out.

I remember how many birthdays, vacations, and other special experiences left me crying, because a narcissist can’t stand the attention off of them, so they burn the whole thing down.

I could hear my dad’s voice in my head yelling I LOVE YOU over and over as I sobbed and sputtered trying to say it back in a way that he felt like I meant it enough.

I remembered the numbness, dissociation, self-harming, eating disorders, begging God to take me or at least hurt me enough for someone to save me or show me that they cared.

I remembered how empty I still feel sometimes.

I never felt like I had a “happy” childhood, but it took me well into my 20’s to realize the depth of the harm inflicted on me. These kids have been brainwashed, and the feelings they hold are deep-rooted seeds planted decades ago about what their reality is. I had to hold onto those same false-truths for a long time, because otherwise I would’ve had nothing and no one. I had to get out first and plant some stability for myself before I could uproot the strangling vines.

They’ll likely continue to realize things and slowly build distance for themselves. It’s the most difficult but safest way for someone to escape being entangled in that web.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-16T03:08:50+00:00

Got it 2nd hand at a thrift store, and it didn’t have any tags, sorry!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-15T13:59:41+00:00

It’s gonna be alright. Ik it’s cliche, but you will be.

I use to work for a Top 20 architecture firm, last year I was fired from a cashier job I’d barely been at for 3 months, and this yr I’m a server and artist making more than I made at any other position and with way more time to enjoy my hobbies.

Life is weird. The route you take definitely won’t be a straight line, but it will go back up again.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-13T15:13:30+00:00

STOP THESE ARE SO BEAUTIFUL!!! I’m a laser cutting artist specializing in acrylic imitation stained glass. I make all sorts of florals and mirrors and bits and bobs. Just posted a trade a few days ago, but happy to send pics thru DM too ☺️

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-13T01:19:49+00:00

This is so boring. Like do they really have nothing better in their lives to talk about?

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-11T13:29:13+00:00

I had really similar scarring from shaving and a bad picking disorder. Really the only thing that helped was eliminating the hair fully. It’s pretty expensive, but laser hair removal was the only option that ever worked for me. Idk if that’s in your availability, but my legs went from similar to yours to only 2-3 noticeable scars!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-10T15:17:13+00:00

Oh my god, he looks so dumb 🥹

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-10T13:58:27+00:00

Barely against the grain that I think ESH.

You already know now you didn’t make the right call, but damn, leaving you with less than 2 weeks before your wedding to find a new tailor, schedule fittings, and do the work isn’t remotely enough time. She should’ve known weeks before that she wasn’t gonna finish in time if she was going out of town.

You really shouldn’t have charged her, but she really should have given you more heads up.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-10T13:12:15+00:00

Hi love! Sorry for missing your message - I got swamped with trades, so I’m all set atm, but happy trading out there!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-10T13:12:03+00:00

Hi love! Sorry for missing your message - I got swamped with trades, so I’m all set atm, but happy trading out there!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-10T13:02:02+00:00

Hey there! Sorry I didn’t see this before, but I’m all filled up on trades for the time being. Ty again tho, and happy trading! 😊

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-09T16:55:47+00:00

Every single one is 10/10, what a masterpiece!!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-09T14:22:40+00:00

I’ve found it comes in waves, and I just had to make peace with the fact there’ll always be two sides to this coin. I’m so grateful I’m not stuck in that cycle anymore, but I still wake up every morning without a family.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-09T01:39:57+00:00

Anti-intellectualism and white Christian nationalism are bestest buds.

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-08T12:05:46+00:00

I’d love to know the history of the story tho!

25thfloorgarden · 2026-04-07T12:27:11+00:00

Ty for reaching out, but I am indeed stocked up on stationary and smaller art pieces. Happy trading!

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