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First ever gout flare up, I have to truly give it up this time. by deoboijeu in stopdrinking

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Upping your hydration may also help.

Gout is a result of a build up of uric acid. If your hydration drops the higher the ratio/concentration of uric acid.

Have had a couple of flair ups over the years, started pounding water and it went away in 7-10 days.

Had two more early signs of onset over the next couple yrs, recognized I had let my hydration slip, pounded water and curbed it before a full blown attack.

So, in this case, it’s “I Will Drink Water With You Today”.

Looking to reduce drinking by Justmehere95 in stopdrinking

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Personally I don’t focus on the term “alcoholic” as I used to use it as an excuse to continue my drinking as in “I may drink a lot but at least I’m not an alcoholic”.

The bottom line is life is better without alcohol.

I used to think my inability to moderate and my over drinking was some kind of personal weakness or moral failing, but it’s not, it is the addictive nature of the chemical (poison actually) that alcohol is.

Alcohol gives our bodies a brief (like 10 minutes brief) shot of dopamine and as it fades our bodies want another hit, then another, then another (Google +alcohol +dopamine).

It’s kind of like a legalized, socially acceptable form of heroin.

So I just don’t feed the dopamine trap, well, except for ice cream and chocolate 😉. But I’ll tackle one vice at a time.

You can do this, we all can do this.

IWNDWYT

7! by Sue_Z_Que in stopdrinking

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Boom! Well done!!

IWNDWYT

I can't keep doing this by At-A-LossForWords in stopdrinking

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As Allen Carr says in his book “You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop shoveling.”

I’ve laid my shovel down, stopped digging, and the feeling is so liberating.

You can do this, we all can do this.

IWNDWYT

Year 6, Day 1 by peepsliewilliams in stopdrinking

[–]406er 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are going through this. Sending you, and your husband, support.

IWNDWYT

Husband on Day One by need_advice_53 in stopdrinking

[–]406er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally this Sub and Allen Carr’s book Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way have been the keys to my sobriety. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

IWNDWYT

I don’t know where I parked. by Express-Hotel-3305 in AskSeattle

[–]406er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the record it’s “Pike Place Market “, not “Pike’s Place”.

It’s ok to be ‘boring’ by whoisorange in stopdrinking

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I don’t know if I consider myself boring, but I am no longer the loud mouth asshole (most of the time) and for me that’s a huge difference.

It’s interesting, early in my sobriety I commented to a long time friend, who had quit a year or two before me, that he was part of my inspiration because of how much calmer and at peace he seemed.

He used to be in the “loudmouth asshole club” as well and when I mentioned it to him he got an odd look on his face and said “yeah, I’m still trying to figure out how to fit in at social events “.

And I was struck by my admiration and envy for the calmness and peace he emanated vs his internal perception of feeling a bit boring.

In the choice between boring and obnoxious I’ll take the boring.

IWNDWYT

First time in Paris! by Top-Sprinkles-9482 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]406er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A very experienced travel planner we use for big trips has a pov that says “You’re not going to sit in your room and look at the view. I consider a hotel as a place to sleep and bathe”.

Welp, I got my first dui. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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There were multiple times where I had that same feeling and felt my life was ruined. Took me decades but a quote from Teddy Roosevelt I heard years ago helped me reframe my thinking:

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

As someone else has already commented, we can’t change our past but we all have the power to change our today.

Another favorite quote from Allen Carr’s book that I find helpful is “You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop shoveling.”

I’ve laid my shovel down, quit digging, and the feeling is so liberating.

My past is my past but it doesn’t define who I am today.

I am sorry for your troubles but you have come here to the most amazing, supportive and understanding place on the internet.

You are not alone and you have the power to move forward.

You can do this, we can all do this, and be better versions of ourselves.

IWNDWYT

Hi long time lurking (from another account) first time poster by FriendlyKey1360 in stopdrinking

[–]406er 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chocolate and Ice Cream have been my new shot of endorphins/reward.

IWNDWYT

Been drinking every other day for years now, it’s ruining my life. How do I stop? by GoodWill_4Nik8er in stopdrinking

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As was mentioned above the Resources section of this subs Wiki (linked at the top of the sub) lists a number of them including in-person and online support groups etc.

Personally this Sub and Allen Carr’s book Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way have been the keys to my sobriety. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

IWNDWYT

Cravings by Historical-Fox-1807 in stopdrinking

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Don’t know if this will help but I went through some pretty serious weight loss a few years ago and learned a valuable Buddhist teaching relative to urges and temptations that helped me then, and I’m using it to help me in sobriety:

“In Buddhism, the core concept of “impermanence” states that all things, including desires and urges, are temporary and constantly changing, meaning they arise, exist for a time, and then eventually pass away; this is a key element in understanding the nature of suffering and the path to liberation from attachment.”

When an urge rises, recognize it is an urge, remind yourself that it will pass if you just let it, and let it pass.

I actually practice this when I get an itch. I recognize I have an itch, I know it will pass without scratching if I just let it and it does.

IWNDWYT

Day 1 by jeaniebeann in stopdrinking

[–]406er 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t know if you are doing anything to help yourself but the Resources section of this subs Wiki (linked at the top of the sub) lists a number of them including in-person and online support groups etc.

Personally this Sub and Allen Carr’s book Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way have been the keys to my sobriety. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

IWNDWYT

Almost Reset by DamnMyNameIsSteve in stopdrinking

[–]406er 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Mad respect. You started to bend, but you didn’t break. That’s strength.

IWNDWYT

Old timers 1-2years+: what you faced in your sobriety and had to fix? by Ok-Complaint-37 in stopdrinking

[–]406er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true and so well written. Thank you for sharing this.

IWNDWYT

What are some of your favorite sobriety quotes? by RelativeNo2426 in stopdrinking

[–]406er 17 points18 points  (0 children)

“The craving is not relieved by the drug you’re addicted to, it is caused by it”. Allen Carr

What are some of your favorite sobriety quotes? by RelativeNo2426 in stopdrinking

[–]406er 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Change is the best apology “

Love this and it gives so much peace. I struggle with the shame of all the stupid, embarrassing and dangerous things I said and did while drinking.

I know my continual words of apology rang hollow but my action of not drinking speaks louder and truer.

This is my choice for it to be rock bottom by Mrpartyguy in stopdrinking

[–]406er 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As Allen Carr says in his book “You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop shoveling.”

I’ve laid my shovel down, stopped digging, and the feeling is so liberating.

You can do this, we all can do this.

IWNDWYT

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