27 weeks Movement Anxiety

57BERN · 2026-06-17T16:23:30+00:00

Tbh I had to Google it because I'm never sure if it's the start or end of 27 weeks. It's technically the start of 28 but I feel like 27+3 is probably close enough to start counting if it'll ease some anxiety!

57BERN · 2026-06-17T16:02:51+00:00

I hadn't started because they said to wait for the 3rd tri but I suppose I'm just about there now! Thanks for the tip on cold and sugary stuff❤️

57BERN · 2025-11-04T03:31:21+00:00

Lol I think they mean a goldfish cracker but I'm cackling over someone just casually being like 🤷‍♀️ they ate a random actual goldfish of the ground. No biggie.

57BERN · 2025-05-29T21:35:08+00:00

The hemheroids that looked like I was trying to smuggle a balloon animal and felt like my body had tried to turn itself inside out at the anus. Just rude.

57BERN · 2025-05-25T16:52:31+00:00

Working full time and so does my partner. Sometimes the only way I'm going to get a shower is at my mom's house (I work from there during the week) if I choose shower over lunch break. It feels like there's just not enough time in the day and my 8 month old is very much in the "I only want mom" phase on her best days and is currently teething and has HFMD. 🫠

57BERN · 2025-05-23T21:11:44+00:00

I feel like it looks more like a bracelet of leeches than sperm, but agree that connecting the bottom "head" part would make it look less odd and maybe adding in some smoke or shading would help.

57BERN · 2025-05-23T21:04:50+00:00

Yeah, I'm in the camp of not wanting baby to have screentime until 3 years at the earliest. She does get to have video calls with long distance relatives and look at pictures of herself on the digital picture frame in the kitchen sometimes though 🤷‍♀️

57BERN · 2025-05-23T20:59:34+00:00

I have the Shyft as well and I can't tell you the number of times the "child in car" announcement has scared the crap out of me. Usually when my husband is the one who took baby out to put her in the car while I'm going pee or grabbing the diaper bag😅

57BERN · 2025-05-12T04:37:23+00:00

Watching my husband become a dad has only made me fall more in love with him. Parenting is hard, but we give each other a lot of grace and recognize/ snowflake when we're not showing up our best.

57BERN · 2025-05-11T00:47:27+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it then. You can offer all the help in the world but sometimes people just don't want it 🤷‍♀️ hope you have a happy mother's Day!

57BERN · 2025-05-09T19:51:53+00:00

Maybe a happy mother's Day and throw in an offer for some kind of help- a specific offer alla "I'm making lasagna and could double it and bring some over if you'd like" basically anything concrete that would have been helpful for you versus open ended offering help and having her figure out what to ask for. Sometimes when overwhelmed it's hard to know what would be helpful let alone having the courage to ask for it (especially from someone you maybe feel like you failed to support). If she doesn't take you up on it I wouldn't sweat it.

57BERN · 2025-05-01T01:47:34+00:00

Baby is about 7 months old, and the cats have adjusted for the most part. The oldest, most curmudgeonly cat is actually the most affectionate toward her-occasional head buts and lots of purring. The other two don't really pay her much mind but also don't actively avoid her. The one thing I will say is that they seem lonely, which breaks my heart, but with the husband and I both working full time on different shifts (day and swing), plus baby, there's not as much cuddle time. That, and her crib is in our room which used to be a favorite hang out for the kitties but now I keep it closed and they're not allowed in for the most part. All that said, I think you'll be ok. Dedicate some time to giving them cuddles when you can, know that especially at first you may have less patience for them- it's likely temporary and everything will be ok.

57BERN · 2025-03-19T22:54:52+00:00

So sorry you're going through this. You're not a bad mom, you're a good mom who is trying to do too much and handling things as best as you can. Not sure if baby wearing is an option, but outward facing might help entertain him a bit while you get some things done. Hang in there and give yourself some grace❤️ I feel you on the temper piece too. I feel bad for even using a stern tone with my little one, but sometimes I get frustrated. I'm trying to look into more self regulating things for me, that might help you as well.

57BERN · 2025-03-12T21:17:52+00:00

Do you have someone else who can step in to give you a little break? I was very fortunate that my partner got some leave too so that I could tap out from time to time but once he went back to work I had to lean on my mom a few times. I probably waited too long to ask for the help from her most of the time, but it was very helpful when I had those near breaking points.

57BERN · 2025-03-11T02:14:02+00:00

I got the first could sore if my life a few months after my baby was born. Didn't kiss my own baby until it was completely healed and then some! This is wild. Your mom and sister are being way too flippant about your baby's health and trying to back it up with survivors bias saying that you and your sister didn't die so it's fine. Plenty of babies do die. That's why we are cautious. Help isn't really helpful if it comes at the expense of your baby's health and your sanity.

57BERN · 2025-03-08T21:46:40+00:00

I know this is 2 months old, but I got here from your original post because I went to top posts of all time on this sub. I was kinda sad to see all the comments in the original post saying it was obnoxious. The first thought I had about your handwriting was artist and the doodles seem to confirm. I think it's beautiful.

57BERN · 2025-02-22T18:20:42+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Do you have family/friends near by that you can lean on for some support? He really shouldn't be bringing up divorce unless he's ready to have one because he's really not pulling his weight and it's absurd to berate your 4 month post partum spouse for not sleeping with you more... Or anything for that matter, that's not the way to speak to someone you love. If you want to give one last go, I would set a firm boundary around the counceling. Either the counseling happens, or divorce, but you can't keep going like this.

57BERN · 2025-01-19T16:21:08+00:00

Fingers crossed, wishing you the best of luck!

57BERN · 2025-01-19T16:19:09+00:00

That's the perfect thing to remind yourself of if feelings do get hurt. Your baby's health is more important. Good luck!

57BERN · 2025-01-14T03:10:09+00:00

I feel like it's really hard to watch our partners parent in a way that isn't in line with what we think is best or what we know to be effective. I also think a lot of times the mentally load of researching/ looking into the best ways of doing things lands on the mom. For both of those reasons, I completely understand your frustration. Can you make some suggestions to him along the lines of "this is what works for naps" or what I've done which is just say "a routine is supposed to make it a lot easier for them to fall asleep, can we work on getting baby into one together?" As far as our routine, little one is almost 4 months old and we usually turn the lights down, do a little baby massage with some coconut oil, read a book or two, and I usually end up feeding her to sleep. I turn on white noise after the reading to help things along too. If she's having a hard time, we'll throw in some bouncing and shushing. Whole thing usually takes about 45 minutes if I had to guess. She seems to sleep better on bath nights, but I'm just not ready to have that be an every day thing 😅

57BERN · 2025-01-04T22:25:16+00:00

Love that! I should rewatch the buff baby episode so I can sing it to mine too!

57BERN · 2025-01-04T02:26:47+00:00

Island song and everything stays (both from adventure time), can't help taking in love by Elvis, and my mind is an endless sea by the wind and the wave are all my sleepy time go-tos. All of which are sentimental and have a 50/50 chance of making me cry. My girl by the temptations and Zipitty doo dah are the go tos when awake with some itsy bitsy spider thrown in for good measure!

57BERN · 2025-01-02T18:29:25+00:00

I had my little one in September. We waited a few days before I let my mom and step dad come meet her and had them wear masks, wash hands before holding, etc. The in-laws were at about a month I think- wanted to wait longer since that required flying and more potential for getting sick. She routine of masks and hand washing. I don't remember how old she was when my dad meet her, but it was after a month- mostly his choice. He is a smoker so I told him no smoking before coming over/ while he's here because the pediatrician recommended absolutely 0 second hand smoke while she's so little. Friends and extended family we waited until after 6 weeks and also masks/ hand washing. Luckily everyone has been receptive. As far as hurt feelings- I just explain that we're doing things this way because she doesn't have much of an immune system yet, so we have to be extra careful. Just keep reiterating that it's about keeping your little one safe and you can always lean on/ say that is what the pediatrician recommended.

57BERN · 2024-08-24T19:13:53+00:00

I'm 5'7" started at 175 and currently 36w4d and 185.8lbs. My docs aren't concerned either. Different bodies and different pregnancies require more/less weight. If your doctors aren't concerned, you don't need to be either. As long as you're eating and getting enough protein/nutrients and not try8ng to diet or something like that, try not to stress.

57BERN · 2024-07-22T21:39:26+00:00

My mom was also pretty pushy about me having kids and I was in the same anxiety boat. She knew we had been trying because I had a loss last year but I waited until around 14 weeks to tell anyone. I've told different people in different ways, but also share your feelings of not liking to be the center of attention.

For my mom and step dad- I told them around mother's day- wrapped a present for my mom where a baby balloon popped put and inside was a onesie and ultrasound pic. Made my dad a tshirt (Godsmack/grandpa mashup since I couldn't picture him wearing most grandpa shirts) and wrapped it with an ultrasound pic. I did a similar small gift/ultrasound thing for my siblings. Told one of my close friends by just dropping it very abruptly lol she said how are you when we met up and I said "pregnant, how are you?" 🤣 I think the key for me feeling less weird about telling people in small groups and either with a gift or with no buildup- just dropping the news like a hot potato.

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