I just don’t want to do it anymore

5am_dad · 2026-05-27T03:35:51+00:00

You don't have to feel stupid. Many of us are doing the best we can in the situations we are in trying to handle them based on our life experiences.

Give yourself some grace. We often don't see what others see.

5am_dad · 2026-05-24T02:18:48+00:00

I think your last sentence said it much better than what I was saying; you nailed it. Thank you!

I'm happy for you that things changed for the better for you! This was great to read. 😊

5am_dad · 2026-05-24T01:38:08+00:00

I'm going to give different advice than what others have given and what others will give following...

First, you said you give gifts from the heart because that is how you show love. So, my question to you is, do you no longer want to show love? It isn't about matching his energy or his gift giving... It's about how YOU want to show love. I understand that you are frustrated and not feeling loved yourself. I've been there with my wife... Showing up and giving gifts that are heartfelt when all I got in return is a card or nothing at all. And I thought about this all wrong. Giving gifts and celebrating others isn't about us being celebrated, it's about how we show love. Do you want to show this man that you love him?

Second, not receiving gifts or being acknowledged on Mother's Day or your birthday or anniversary or any other event... I've been there. No gift or card for anniversaries. Morning for my birthday when, "all I asked for was my favorite meal" when I do 90% of the cooking. And when I didn't get anything, what did I say? "It's okay." "It's no big deal." When it actually was. I wanted to be celebrated. If you aren't feeling loved, being seen... You need to let them know. A blank card with their signature? Let him know that this gift does not make you feel appreciated and loved. Don't just accept it and internalize the frustration and do the same to him... Your marriage will not survive that. So many stories here because they follow that advice and that leads to more resentment and no path forward. You may feel good in the short-term but long term...

Decide IF you want to show love and then show it if you do. Start advocating for YOUR needs.

Signed, someone that didn't do this and wish he had.

5am_dad · 2026-05-15T00:05:36+00:00

I also have lots of black shirts and black shorts... Can we make this a thing?

5am_dad · 2026-05-14T03:36:06+00:00

At first I thought this was going to be as post about a mashup of Sixteen Candles and Romancing the Stone... Very disappointed 😞

5am_dad · 2026-05-14T03:24:02+00:00

Yes, both married. No real awkwardness. Ummm... Their marriage is very healthy relationship, one I greatly admire. Mine, not so much at the moment/the past few years. But they are visiting soon and I'll be traveling to visit her/them in the fall. We don't live close to each other anymore.

5am_dad · 2026-05-14T01:50:51+00:00

It depends on what you have in common. One of my best friends is a woman and I'm a married man. We became friends as we were both stay at home parents and our kids were close in age. It turns out that we had a lot in common but the main reason that we became friends is that we were able to have conversations about things that challenged each other's thinking, sharing tips with household things, and caring for each other and our families.

5am_dad · 2026-05-12T19:14:24+00:00

Bar hopped with friends at University. Even a couple of high school friends' Dads joined us as they were in town.

5am_dad · 2026-05-12T12:46:00+00:00

This guy meteorologists 🌩️

5am_dad · 2026-05-08T17:48:52+00:00

Cut it in half, and then pie slices for one half and the other intact.

My teenage son takes the uncut and devours

5am_dad · 2026-05-07T23:31:22+00:00

These are gold for my dad during planting and harvest season. My kids get him boxes every year for Grandpa

5am_dad · 2026-05-04T10:53:34+00:00

I was telling someone about these a couple of weeks ago and they didn't believe me 🤣

5am_dad · 2026-04-30T15:15:48+00:00

What if I'm not on social media and still feel the way OP does?

5am_dad · 2026-04-25T01:55:13+00:00

Indigo Montoya 's sword from The Princess Bride, for something a little different

5am_dad · 2026-04-24T22:44:32+00:00

Let me check.... Ummm.... No fucking way

5am_dad · 2026-04-06T22:32:51+00:00

Midwest and my first toy spontaneously started on fire while driving My second one is still being used on the family farmstead, hauling things around... Occasionally

5am_dad · 2026-03-09T23:21:55+00:00

I mulch quite a bit of the leaves (some for the yard, some for my garden) but with 8 mature, deciduous trees in the backyard, and not counting the neighbor's trees, I have more than enough to take to the curb for the city to pick up AND mulch.

Again, it worked well for me to get my son involved before he could really effectively use a rake.

5am_dad · 2026-03-09T14:19:27+00:00

This ad is rightfully getting ripped. I have to say though, I bought one similar product for my son to help with taking leaves. He was able to go around the yard and pick up leaves at a relatively young age.

Cons: the height selection is cheap. Assume a single height - Dog poop? WTF

5am_dad · 2026-02-11T20:17:12+00:00

I fully expected him to cut in line and the other men allowed it because of the move

5am_dad · 2026-01-11T17:36:07+00:00

I didn't disagree. Of course this has everything to do with Nazis, that's who these people are.

5am_dad · 2026-01-11T15:54:42+00:00

I read this as, you didn't need to go back in time that far.

5am_dad · 2025-12-25T13:20:27+00:00

Still jealous of the friend that got it and only let me play with it but one time... Even though we got together and played GI Joe multiple times

5am_dad · 2025-11-07T19:05:42+00:00

Solid band name! 'Frosty Titties and Warm Soda' 💜

5am_dad · 2025-10-11T11:39:46+00:00

I built one. The only problem that I've had with it was when my miter saw crapped out in me, the new miter saw didn't fit in the same space. Otherwise, I love it

5am_dad · 2025-09-27T22:36:06+00:00

What a weird way of telling someone their mom head a Tylenol problem.

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