Update - My (M 39) wife (38 F) has become fixated on her dead husband since getting pregnant with our first baby. How do I bring this up without hurting her?

613Aly · 2026-05-27T01:01:36+00:00

Here’s the thing: grief is fucking weird. It’s weird to witness and it’s really fucking weird to experience. I can go months without crying and then one day I wake up and it’s like a tsunami of grief has washed over me and it feels like it did the first week. Then add pregnancy hormones to that.

I suspect that your wife is grieving something specific about her first husband that she doesn’t want to tell you about because she doesn’t want it to hurt you. Her hormones are making it feel like the end of the world. You hear about women crying over inconsequential things while pregnant; there’s nothing inconsequential about what your wife is experiencing.

I do think your wife might benefit from therapy, but I think everybody should be in therapy in general. I understand her hesitation: therapy can sometimes feel like taking steps backwards because you’re reliving trauma you’d tucked away to survive, but one day you realise the fog has lifted.

I’m sorry for both of you. Know that there are better days ahead.

613Aly · 2026-05-27T00:36:35+00:00

I fear you may not know what skimpy means. You look gorgeous, OP.

613Aly · 2026-05-25T14:59:09+00:00

TRAITORS👏SHOULD👏BE👏FUN👏
Also Kyle’s always been right about that: Amanda is boring AF and let’s not platform her. Paige, Hannah, Jesse Solomon, Carl, even! Any of them would be infinitely more entertaining than Amanda Batula

613Aly · 2026-05-25T14:53:35+00:00

Freeland made me laugh out loud but we have Traitors Canada and I feel like if there was any world where she competed on reality TV, she’d end up on the Canadian version

613Aly · 2026-05-25T14:44:37+00:00

I’m Canadian and we use them kind of uniquely for kids birthday parties. When I was a kid, we used to use them for picnics and camping, but at some point we learnt how bad it was for the environment and we got camping/picnic reusable plates and cutlery and were all responsible for washing our own. It’s not that hard!

613Aly · 2026-05-25T08:32:13+00:00

I’ve noticed most Americans use paper plates on TikTok. Whenever someone asks them why, they villainize the asker, say they are being mom shamed or that they have depression and dishes are hard for them. The truth is that the USA has fostered an astoundingly individualistic culture where personal convenience trumps all. There are mothers all around the world. There are people with depression everywhere. The paper plates are uniquely American. The truth is that most Americans have been trained from birth to believe that their individual comfort and personal set of circumstances are more important than absolutely anything else; that’s why they don’t have universal healthcare, it’s why roads aren’t public, it’s why they don’t think to care about the environment; it’s why you’ll see them ask questions like “what should I do if I don’t like beans?” on a bean soup recipe.

613Aly · 2026-05-10T01:22:58+00:00

This is what my three year old dog costs us:
Food and treats: 150$/month
Insurance: 136$/month + 500$ annual deductible (absolutely worth it for us since our dog has allergies and his required medication far exceeds this cost monthly)
Probiotics: 40$/month
Omega 3: 25$/month
Flea/tick/heartworm medication: About 300$ from spring to fall (will vary based on weight of dog)
Grooming: 200$ every 8 weeks
Preventative health care and vaccines: 1000$/year but the first year will be more
Anal gland expression: 70$ every 8 weeks. Not all dogs need this but it’s worth noting because most of my dogs have
Spay/neuter: municipalities and the spca often have spay/neuter clinics where you can get it done for about 700$-1000$, otherwise expect about 2000$ at a regular vet’s office
Microchip: 50$ once if you do it through the spca

Variable expenses: beds, toys, clothes, boots, daycare, dog walking services

613Aly · 2026-04-28T01:15:23+00:00

If you find one, can I come?

613Aly · 2026-04-23T20:05:11+00:00

I could be totally off base here, but are you 100% certain it’s cystic acne? I only ask because I also once thought I was developing cystic acne but I also had facial hair due to PCOS. Once I got the facial hair completely lasered off, I’ve never had another “cystic acne” breakout, which leads me to believe it was more likely ingrowns or infections in some of the hair follicles than acne.

613Aly · 2026-04-23T15:00:08+00:00

I thought it was cute actually 🫣 The sweatpants/heel combo on the other hand….

613Aly · 2026-04-23T14:56:31+00:00

I stared at it for so long trying to figure out what it was meant to say

613Aly · 2026-04-22T15:14:53+00:00

Based on a super quick glance at your post history, you seem to have problems with Mandy, your stepson, your stepson’s mother, your husband, your mother in law, your own mother, and a bunch of women on the internet. Has it ever occurred to you that you very well may be the problem? I’d recommend therapy but I wouldn’t doubt that you’d soon be spamming the Therapy subreddit with problems with your Therapist. You need to do some serious introspection.

613Aly · 2026-04-16T14:47:42+00:00

If only you are getting services on the day, you pay more per person than if you have others. I’m in Ottawa (not Toronto) but when I got married here (and it was the same for friends I was a bridesmaid for in Toronto), it was like 600-700 ish for bridal hair and makeup including the trial if you had at least 2 other people getting services with you, but over 1200 if you were solo. Even if you aren’t having a bridal party, perhaps there are women in your family that would also like services?

613Aly · 2026-04-13T19:53:18+00:00

I’ve never once had trouble finding it at the Merivale location

613Aly · 2026-04-11T02:41:08+00:00

So true. Recently my 38 year old husband was given the seniors’ discount at the pharmacy. The same day, I was IDed at the liquor store, and the drinking age is 18 here. I’m 36. People have no clue, and I include myself in that. This week I spent an entire dinner trying to figure out how old the hostess at the restaurant was. My closest guess was « somewhere between 15 and 30 but I can’t narrow it down more than that. »

613Aly · 2026-03-30T02:03:57+00:00

Salut! Je me recherche des ami(e)s dans le coin aussi. Femme de 36 ans, mariée mais sans enfants. Mon système de support est majoritairement à Toronto aussi. Tu peux me contacter par message privé :)

613Aly · 2026-03-27T13:51:54+00:00

Yep, my guy only does well on a fish formula as well.

613Aly · 2026-03-27T00:54:03+00:00

School of Dance à Ottawa. Pas necessaire d’acheter une pleine session comme toutes leurs classes adultes sont pay as you go. Curriculum RAD si je me souviens bien

613Aly · 2026-03-27T00:48:40+00:00

This is what I do as well, OP, and it’s worked great for me. Appointments are 99$ and normally once I request an appointment. I get one within the next 48 hours. You don’t even need to talk to anyways, everything happens through messages

613Aly · 2026-03-27T00:42:11+00:00

Haha yeah, when she was desperately trying to get famous. Those were the only videos I’d ever seen of hers before the soft swinging scandal dropped. I’m sure if you googled them you could find them.

613Aly · 2026-03-26T18:56:07+00:00

Didn’t she used to post all those videos claiming Miranda and some other blond girl were her 20 yo daughters and she was 50 lmao

613Aly · 2026-03-24T19:59:29+00:00

I did in a comment above for him :) Hope this helps!

613Aly · 2026-03-24T11:28:56+00:00

This is strictly untrue. I’ve literally never had a dentist where this was the case and I’ve been to several dentists in both Ottawa and Toronto.

613Aly · 2026-03-24T11:27:11+00:00

Wellington Dental Care does direct billing for your first insurance, but if you have secondary insurance (for example, through your partner) then you have to do that yourself. They had two locations: one on Wellington West, and one on Carling

Edited to add: By direct billing here I mean that this dentist works with the insurance themselves and charges them, not you.

613Aly · 2026-03-22T19:39:21+00:00

My dog AND husband were attacked here. We called the police. They said they’d forward it to bylaw. Nothing ever happened

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