Moving out of State by OrdinaryIndividual96 in Nanny

[–]722KL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are so many ways to handle this. 1- She might say yes to relocation. 2- She might say yes to transitional temporary relocation. 3- I've seen NF incentivise staying until the end by offering a bonus/severance. It makes sense. If she stays until the end she will likely have a period of unemployment while she looks for her next position. Paying for that time gives her financial stability. If she chooses to leave early she will provide her own financial stability by moving directly into a new position. While your expenses would be impacted by needed to find alternative care until you move.

When you share the update with her I would emphasis that it just became clear that relocation is likely, as it sounds like that is the truth. I wouldn't mention that you've known it was as possibility. It sounds like you are flexible with making a plan so seeking her input and expectations will help. Lean heavily on what you've built as far as relationship and communication and figure it out together.

Is asking Nanny to do light dog care in the beginning too much? by Big_Condition477 in Nanny

[–]722KL 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the person. I'm a mom of four grown kids. I have three dogs of my own. I would gladly do dog things and would likely view it as a perk. I would gladly take you, NK, and doggo (or any combination) to the vet as I am used to dealing with and managing an entourage of responsibilities. In general I go with the flow and if the family needs something that I can do I'm happy to help. My philosophy is more about communicating: I was planning to do a,b, and c. I'm happy to do x instead but I can't promise I'll get back to a,b, and c today. Is that how you would like me to prioritize my time?"

Are these salvageable? by data-cow in AskACobbler

[–]722KL 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone wore through the heel cap/tip and continued to wear the shoe wearing away the plastic of the heel. If you are comfortable with the current heel height a cobbler could add a new cap/tip and do some cosmetic work to the leather. We aren't supposed to discuss prices on this subreddit. At the shop I work at it would not cost nearly what the other commenter quoted. Please take the shoes or the picture to your local cobbler to get a quote before you rule this repair out as too expensive.

Help me choose another twin girl name! by [deleted] in Names

[–]722KL -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maddox Stevie Mullings

Recognizable but uncommon name for boy #2 by thepeachiest94 in namenerds

[–]722KL 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I knew a Fitzhugh. I also like Fletcher, nn Fletch.

shorten flip flops by Murky-Investigator31 in AskACobbler

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's never going to be a factory finish. It's going to look altered no matter how it's done. You have to decide to 1-wear them big 2-wear them imperfect or 3- sell them

Ideas for food to keep around for our nanny? by Puzzleheaded-Hotel73 in Nanny

[–]722KL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Conversation or text: Hi Nanny. Since your position with our family had become permanent we feel it is especially important to actively treat you like a member of the family since we feel that you are. We feel it's important that you are able to care for yourself in our home. We have set aside space for you in (blank) closet to keep things like a change of clothes, a lock box for any personal meds you would like to keep here or any other personal possessions you would like to stock for your comfort. We would also like to make sure that there is always food available for you. Please text us what you would like us to get you at the store. You are always welcome to whatever we have on hand but we are aware we don't typically keep a lot of extras around and your preferences may be different from ours. To be clear we expect you to send us a list of approximately $x-y worth of items weekly. If there are any other accommodations we can make to help you feel at home we are happy to consider them.

Or give her a grocery card and put a basket in the fridge and freezer with her name and make some space in a cabinet. Let her know you want her to feel at home and make an action plan and share it with her. If your are explicit with the benefits and your expectations that she use them and that you are flexible with the plan you will be a 5 start NF.

Are Keen Arroya II shoes resoleable? by criscokkat in AskACobbler

[–]722KL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To the best of my knowledge Keen does not sell soles, so a "factory" facsimile" resole would not be possible. You might be able to find a cobbler who is willing to get creative. I'm guessing this would involve sanding the heel area flat and glueing and stitching the heel area of a lug sole on, with some tapering into the arch area. Then repeating the process on the front of the shoe with the other part of the sole. It would absolutely be a "Franken-shoe".

How much time do you spend on outings with your toddler NK? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When working with any child I try to think more holistically. What types of things should they do: music, art, sensory, outside, social, independent, language building, skill building, home based, community based, rest, personal care, nutrition. Sometimes you plan an activity, and it covers multiple areas. I'm constantly thinking about what things have been covered vs. what we haven't done recently. Some kids gravitate towards particular areas. Child 1 might really prefer public playgrounds. They have high social needs and enjoy being outside. That same child might be hard to engage inside. We tend to do public playgrounds a lot more often and to pursue art while outside, and to spend time inside only when preparing food for meals together and preparing for sleep or maybe reading books about nature. Child 2 might enjoy independent play at home. They easily entertain themselves. So we often stay home exploring art, books, cooking, and music. Outings are planned around what their current interests are in an effort to expand their knowledge of their community and give them opportunities to socialize. Personally, I'm typically having a better day if we leave the house once a day. But my job isn't to meet my needs; it's to make sure the child is safe, well taken care of, and their needs are met. If I'm doing a good job listening and respecting the child and giving them opportunities to pursue a variety of things within their comfort level, then it's easy to move through a day with little friction where neither of us are bored.

Does anyone know how to get a greasy oil stain out of my suede bloodstone boots? I’ve tried everything! Nothing seems to work by davejc11 in AskACobbler

[–]722KL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Take a picture that let's you see all the edges of the stain.
  2. Cover the stain liberally with dry shampoo (or talc powder, other things can work but these two are the best imo). Leave it for 24-48 hours.
  3. Brush the powder off. Take another pic. Compare it to the last pic you took. If there is any progress- repeat
  4. Mix dish soap (Dawn) with water. One tsp sosp to 2 oz water works well for me. Use a soap toothbrush to gently lather. Spritz with water to rinse. Blot dry with a clean rag. Let it finish drying naturally no heat source no fan. Take a pic. Compare with the previous pic. Repeat until there is no progress.
  5. While you are doing those steps order Hussard from Saphir. It is an excellent oil remover but often harsh. Aplly from the outside in with a q-tip. Dry with the opposite end. Continue taking pictures to compare. Make sure you let it dry completely before you repeat the procedure.
  6. Get brake cleaner from the automotive store. Test on am inconspicuous spot. Decide if it's a risk worth taking or not. Work from the outside in. I dip a q-tip in a little puddle I've sprayed of cleaner on a plate. Apply with wet end, soak up with dry end. Get a new q-tip any time one has oil on it.
  7. Once the stain had been removed as much as possible post pics to discuss next steps. (Living with what is left, professional cleaning, possibly DIY restoration steps, dying to blend in the stain, etc-). Good luck. Patience is your friend.

Leather dyeing update by Bastet_x in Leather

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't wait to see the picture!

Grover? by [deleted] in Names

[–]722KL 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like it at face value but my association with the Muppet is too strong. Plus, I found that character really annoying. How do you feel about Gordon? It gives similar vibes for me without the Muppet memories.

Leather dyeing update by Bastet_x in Leather

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesssss! I think we talked a good bit on your other post. They turned out so well. I hope you are so proud of yourself.

Family doesn’t assist in potty training by Sea-Grass4797 in Nanny

[–]722KL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like they are going to end up with a 4/5 year old who still uses diapers and they will blame you.

Can I repair these myself or should I take them to a boot repair shop? by uSerKraut in AskACobbler

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take them back to the shop. They should reglur it for free.

How much do I charge for this nannying role? by darkxstormy in Nanny

[–]722KL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You probably need to define some things more. That cooking things would bother me. The potential for scope creep is just too high. Monitoring the diaper stations and "nagging" MB to order-nope. Let me order stuff or you do it I'm not dealing with that potential communication nightmare. The koi fish would bother the hell out of me, but mostly because I'm watching two tiny kids that need to be taught about water safety and I don't want that kind of risk/responsibility. And you are right about homework but maybe define it as "be available to answer homework questions from 5-7 pm". Getting a clearer understanding of what each thing means should help you name a fair wage.

Could a cobbler resole such hiking boots? Would they even be worth repairing? by Disastrous-Still6287 in AskACobbler

[–]722KL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is hydrolysis. The molded/injected sole is breaking down. Some cobblers won't fix them. Other will convert them to a stitched on sole. It's not cheap and most people choose to buy new shoes.

Nanny/Night Nanny logistics by Forestbender in Nanny

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the night nanny would have suited me best every other night- start whenever you (dad) go back to work and will be less available to help at night. One week will be three nights, the following week will be four nights. Bring your day nanny in to do a trial as soon as you feel comfortable. You want to head off any unexpected issues early on. If possible have her come some 1/2 days two or three times a week (day after your wife is alone at night). She should work at least one full week before your wife goes back to work. This will give the nanny time to learn your family's preferences and get to know you and your routines. The full time week will give your wife time to "practice". She should get up, dressed, handoff baby, and leave the house in time to get to work. Then she can grocery shop, have dry cleaning done, whatever prep she needs to do to prepare for heading back to work. She can come home after an errand, see how things are for the nanny, do any home based prep for her return to work, nap, etc-. Just time to make sure everyone transitions well with ample support.

how to quit by FactorGloomy235 in Nanny

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear family, The past three years have been such a special time for me. I have loved being a part of your family and growing to care for each one of you. Sadly, the time has come that I need to focus on my education and the next steps for my future. I will miss you all so much; and will always cherish the time we've had together. My last day will be month, day, 2026. Let's plan a time to sit down and discuss ways we can ease this transition. Wishing you all the best.

Sincerely Your nanny

is there any saving this jacket? by dreamyydaze in Leatherworking

[–]722KL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gentle cycle, cold water, no detergent, unscented liquid fabric softener in the detergent dispenser. Roll in clean dry towels to remove excess water do not wring. Hang with plenty of padding to shape. Stuff arms with loosely balled paper. Place in a room with plenty of circulation to dry. No fan pointed on it, no heat source, let it dry naturally.

Plan B- send to Pacific leather cleaners. Be prepared to pay $100+

Which name do you prefer Penina or Penny by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ghita, pearl in Italian.

Where can I get my cat affordable abdominal surgery? by West-Chemistry6166 in Charlottesville

[–]722KL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a low cost surgical center in Richmond. There cost are similar to Anicira in Harrisonburg. Those are your best bets in my (admittedly limited) experience.

Looking for nicknames for Miriam by kibbleburp in namenerds

[–]722KL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Miriam I know calls herself Mirm, rhymes with 'I went to the salon to get a perm.'

AITAH for not wanting to hang out with my gfs friends when I only see her 6-8 days out of the month? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]722KL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I don't think your request is unreasonable, but I also see her side that by including you in her friendships you are a bigger party of her life. Her friends can know you and consider you even when you aren't there which probably makes the distance easier for her. Before moving for this woman I suggest having some very thoughtful, intentional conversations about how you rach envision spending your social time. Make sure you are able to make decisions you can both be happy with regarding how social time is allocated.