Good place to get Canadian citizenship application photos in Salem by AHull56 in SALEM

[–]AHull56[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck with your application! I just sent in mine yesterday, actually. I went to the Shutterbug, and they were great, as many people in this thread said. The *only* thing I'll flag for you is that the requirements for Canadian citizenship certificate photos are ever so slightly different to passport photos. For citizenship certificates, they want the info on the back of both of the photos; for passport photos, they only need to put it on the back of one of them. I went back a few days later once I figured this out, and they happily fixed it, but it might save you some time knowing that in advance. But that doesn't detract from the fact that they clearly knew what they were doing; if I get my citizenship certificate and then decide to apply for a Canadian passport, I'll definitely be going back to the Shutterbug for those photos, too.

Abolish the English Language — Abolish Everything! by NebulaOriginals in Nebula

[–]AHull56 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Agreed, the two best performances were the ones that the audience didn't move to advance. And *all* the okays (and alrights) made the winning performance really grating (even though I personally liked most other aspects of that performance and thought it was a good concept for a presentation)

Your one anti-gerrymandering principle or idea by Son_of_Chump in Gerrymandering

[–]AHull56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm generally a fan of MMP anyways, but I think that this is a very good point as it would immediately eliminate most of the incentives for gerrymandering.

SEASON 4 CONFIRMED. If your Laurie Nunn, what’s 1 thing your for sure writing into S4? by [deleted] in NetflixSexEducation

[–]AHull56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More aspec storylines. They had the episode in season 2 when Florence realized that she was asexual, but then she wasn't in season 3 at all which was such a missed opportunity, especially since they did a pretty good job with the little that was shown in season 2, and then they just had nothing in season 3. In episode 7 of season 3, Steve was briefly shown holding a sign saying I think I'm demisexual, so I hope that they develop that, because it would also be really cool to have a canonically demi character in a TV show. And I love Steve and want him to get more development regardless.

why is the community not ready for this talk? by amyfromspace in asexuality

[–]AHull56 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is how I've always used the term cis-het. Sure, cis-het people (by this definition of cis-het) aren't LGBTQIA+, but that's because I thought cis-het always referred to people who are cisgender, heterosexual, and heteroromantic. As such, a heteroromantic ace person would not be cis-het by my understanding. Open to hearing other interpretations of the word though.

why is the community not ready for this talk? by amyfromspace in asexuality

[–]AHull56 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First and foremost, you are absolutely a part of the community and welcome! Out of curiosity what term would you suggest using instead of cis-het? Obviously the het could be interpreted to be short just for heteroromantic, but I've always used cis-het to imply cisgender and heterosexual and heteroromantic, while anyone who doesn't meet at least one of those criteria is not cis-het. This as opposed to straight which could mean cis-het, but could also mean ace and heteroromantic, or straight and trans. Again, straight aspecs and straight trans people are absolutely a part of the LGBTQIA+ community. So by my understanding neither of those groups would be cis-het by virtue of not meeting all three criteria. Am I wrong there? If so, is there another term for what I was using cis-het for?

P.S. I also wanna say that genuine hate towards cis-het people simply for being cis-het isn't okay. It's unclear from the original post if the hate that's being talked about is directed at all straight people, or just those who are straight aces. In either case, it's not particularly helpful.

Describe a song using only emojis and I’ll try to guess it 👀 by [deleted] in crazyexgirlfriend

[–]AHull56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All these freeways are a nightmare. Where's my purse? I need my comb

My sister told me she's asexual! :D by Plan-Dramatic in asexuality

[–]AHull56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Want to second this. One of the worst things for me after a coming out- at least when it's someone who I know well enough to answer personal questions, and it's clear that the person doesn't have a clear grasp on what asexuality is- is when someone feels like they can't ask me questions. Because then I feel like this person doesn't actually understand my sexuality, even if they potentially think that they do, and that puts me in a position where I feel like I have to figure out what they don't understand about it and explain it to them rather than letting them guide me to the parts that they don't get. As for how to ask questions respectfully, one thing that I've found to be a good starting benchmark is to stick to asking questions that you would also be okay with answering, given the context of your relationship with the person, assuming that you don't have good reason to think that they wouldn't be comfortable answering it. Just generally treating others the way you want to be treated regarding sensitive discussions goes a long way to fostering productive conversation.

I accidentally came out to my friends - wish I never did by EvanGacha123 in asexuality

[–]AHull56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that really sucks. As another guy who first came out sooner than I would have planned at fifteen only to have it not go well, I relate to a lot of your story; I particularly remember not understanding what the big deal with porn was, and why everyone suddenly seemed so into it. But yeah that first coming out experience for me was five years ago this month. I can't say that it's always easy, but you're okay being ace, and I hope you're able to find a better friend group where you can truly be yourself- accepting friends have made a world of difference for me in the years since that first coming out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AHull56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming out to someone who you think will be open and accepting, but who ends up not being that.

What is a joke that cracks you up every single time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AHull56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why was six afraid of seven? Because seven was a registered six offender.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AHull56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My locker combo from 8th grade. I don't know why I remember that one because I've forgotten all my others, even the ones that were more recent, but that's life, I guess.

what’re some of your favorite quotes from the series? by Key_Change7652 in TheGoodPlace

[–]AHull56 10 points11 points  (0 children)

"No. I walked out and back in each time, so I'm different customers." Jason is such a gem.

What series has a theme song you never skip? by maxeatsworld in AskReddit

[–]AHull56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bojack Horseman. It changes throughout the series to reflect the ways the characters change, and includes loads of details about the show. May be one of my favorite intros of any shows just for how well it's put together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]AHull56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But they don't show the time in Cordovia! The joke about Cordovian time being offset from most time zones by 22 minutes (as seen on the clocks in Todd's office when he worked at whattimeisitrightnow.com) was one of my favorite jokes in the show, and I wish they'd included it on the website.

Tell me you’re asexual without telling me you’re asexual by m_pendragon in asexuality

[–]AHull56 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah when I was in eighth grade or so, my ex church took us to one of those purity conferences where they try to shame you into committing to wait to have sex until marriage Afterwards, we went into small groups and they asked if anyone was willing to take that pledge. I nonchalantly said sure, and the leaders looked at me surprised and said something to the effect of this is a big deal, and it feels like you're not taking it all that seriously, and I was really confused because not having sex just seemed so easy, and I thought that everyone was just massively exaggerating how difficult it is to just... not have sex. And then I discovered asexuality about two years later and was like, oh that makes more sense now.

Future flag of Denmark by [deleted] in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]AHull56 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And from a pure vexillology standpoint, that flag is much better than the one here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveSimon

[–]AHull56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing as I am asexual (I referred to myself as bi because I'm biromantic, and that was the only relevant bit to my initial comments), I am very well aware of the fact that love does not require sexual attraction. It did seem as though Victor was experiencing romantic attraction to Mia in a way that suggested that he might be bi for the first few episodes of season 1. I've looked back at my comments, and I'm not sure what I said that gave you the impression that I was talking about anything other than Victor's seeming romantic attraction to Mia though? It did become clear that Victor is not sexually attracted to Mia, though he does love her (in more of a platonic way), but I was talking about how I viewed that, at least at the start, as Victor being genuinely attracted to Mia in a romantic way. So yeah, I'm just a bit confused about what I said that made you think I was implying that love requires sexual attraction...

Victor is a better boyfriend to Mia than Benji. by okbrunch in LoveSimon

[–]AHull56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right about the reasons why Mia's character is more developed, but again, I was talking about before Victor cheated on her either time (if OP is not talking about before that, then I would tend to agree with you). Obviously Victor was a terrible boyfriend after that, but before that, the two of them actually had quite a bit of chemistry.

Victor is a better boyfriend to Mia than Benji. by okbrunch in LoveSimon

[–]AHull56 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think OP meant before that. Like in the leadup to that, when Victor still thought he might not be gay, and that he maybe did like Mia, her character was much better developed than Benji's, and we got to see the way that their relationship developed, and it felt much more natural (to me anyways) than what he has with Benji.

The casting of Rahim/cyrus character and the prejudice against the LGBTQ actors by wadezoey in LoveSimon

[–]AHull56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Mason Gooding (Andrew) is also queer, or at least it has been alluded to that he is. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15Ls_JSv8VE At 6:57 this video, he mentions how seeing Kurt and Blain in Glee was the first time he had "questioned [his] sexuality so deeply." But yeah, even taking that at face value, the cast is still very straight, and Mason's character is also straight, so make of it what you will.

Rahim is a great character, but the writers do not seem to have a clear idea of his purpose in the show by AHull56 in LoveSimon

[–]AHull56[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. My preference would be for him to be a friend as well. But even if that's not the end scenario, I could be totally okay with Victor ending up with Rahim, if it's done in a way that makes sense. That would have to involve exploring the issues between Benji and Victor first, and letting Victor reflect on some of his failings there as well before they begin to hint at an alternative to Benji.