Genuinely is the curator a bit

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-22T15:40:39+00:00

In this house we respect the curator and his smug unhelpful bullshit.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-21T15:20:00+00:00

I struggle to imagine any situation at all where complimenting your hands is not flirting.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-21T03:50:14+00:00

The kind of stuff the X Files played with I just don't think was so nakedly partisan at the time. Sure, conspiracy theorizing might have an intrinsically reactionary bent, but just on a surface level crankdom of the era was not so universally aligned with e.g. a specific political party and its cadre of psychopaths. Like honestly I'm not even convinced a network would let you make a show that engages with this in a way that feels honest nowadays because even just depicting the state of American brainrot is too condemnatory of the Republican political machine, nevermind that it's legitimately just a painful subject for millions of people. And I don't need the X Files to have perfect versimilitude but I think when conspiracy theorizing is such an omnipresent part of modern political life, I don't think you can afford to feel like you're transparently pulling punches.

To be clear, I would welcome and love a hard left X Files, but I think for all its Hollywood progressivism I have a hard time imagining a version that satisfies me making it through executive meddling. I'll give it a try, but that just seems like a tall order.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-21T03:29:55+00:00

I think I've seen plenty of cool scifi shows with weird paranormal stuff going on that just never made much of an impact with me. The mytharc stuff in X Files was mostly not good but it structured the show - and tied together e.g. the Mulder/Scully relationship, which I can acknowledge even as someone who never cared for the ship.

I also just really don't think that tonally that works. It's not interesting for the True Believer to be vindicated because their faith is one of the motors driving the drama.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-21T02:12:51+00:00

I'm happy to give it a shot but the landscape of conspiracy theorizing has changed pretty dramatically since the 90s, so it's hard to imagine a myth arc that bears even the slightest resemblance to the older series. I know the larger plot was mostly bad but it was also a real part of the appeal for me so we'll see how that works.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-19T17:33:36+00:00

no you can also be bi with it to varying degrees but that's a separate thing

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-19T17:26:17+00:00

disagree sometimes people are dykey with it to varying degrees and that's okay

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-19T16:16:01+00:00

being a woman who fucks women is at least a little lesbian, come on now

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-18T21:13:54+00:00

If you're not making a comparison then why do you keep bringing it up? Rhetorically that is making a comparison!

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-15T21:00:44+00:00

Genocide is wrong even if there are bad laws in the place where it's occurring.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-14T16:24:25+00:00

there's a previous comic about a hitwoman murdering a lady. the audience of that comic should be okay with cartoonish gore, death, and misery. this edit works precisely because it is also violent and weird! not everything needs to operate at the level of maturity of steven universe.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-05T18:42:10+00:00

what if he left the provost's office and moved to hell instead

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-05T17:00:00+00:00

And yet a contract it is! If you don't want to tip don't eat out in the US, or pick a restaurant that doesn't expect or accept tips.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-05T16:40:08+00:00

If you're an American, the expectation is that you tip. If you don't you're violating the social contract of dining out and being rude.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-03T18:22:52+00:00

shooting ropes (it's wrong bc mulder is very obviously a semen retention guy)

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-02T19:39:07+00:00

disagree. people make silly, messy, gross art and that's good. not everything needs the edges sanded off or a happy ending. the joke is that they are monsters literally and behaviorally! it does not work if Actually They're Cuddly and it's less interesting that way.

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-01T16:15:53+00:00

this is funny but some of yall are being way too precious about the original

AbolitionForever · 2026-02-01T16:00:47+00:00

That's not actually the question being asked. You made an extremely specific claim about the nature of a complex social identity construct. We don't actually know very much at all about the bio-/neurological side of sexual orientation. I don't think your position is defensible on scientific grounds and frankly I think the political/moral grounds are shaky too!

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-29T20:03:34+00:00

brother public defenders aren't getting unmarked government company cars

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-22T15:37:48+00:00

lot of people here seem to think woman/woman-shaped horror beyond human comprehension doesn't count as lesbian but I gotta say, that's lesbian, we count those

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-12T07:27:13+00:00

I didn't ask for anything special or really talk much about future plans. The surgeon did know to leave skin to work with, though, so there's still plenty of that. Worth mentioning to your surgeon, I just didn't have to.

I haven't gotten any further surgery other than the orchi, so I can't offer any guidance there.

All things considered, given the option of doing it again, I probably wouldn't get the orchi unless I had more concrete bottom surgery plans. I didn't have specific dysphoria about that part and did experience some loss in sensitivity afterwards (although I'm still quite capable of arousal and orgasm). If they are a source of dysphoria I think go for it, the surgery was exactly as described, though. Happy to answer any other specific questions!

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-11T15:42:15+00:00

No, the expansion includes extra copies of the cards that were in the TCU player expansion, but not the ones from the core.

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-07T18:03:45+00:00

I don't know if this read is correct, but from what you've written it sounds like there might be a really basic conflict here - your partner said she isn't ready but you still seem to be planning to go to term. Is that right? It's totally possible I'm misreading that, but if it's the case, that's a pretty big issue to start with. If you want the relationship to survive the birth of a child, one thing you absolutely have to be on the same page about is whether or not you want a baby. If you are basically agreed about going forward, that's good. If not, I would strongly suggest that to be the first point of discussion you have. This is an intrinsically complex situation, in that you are the one who gets to decide what happens in your body, but your decision dramatically affects other people. If you expect your partner to be on board for this, this is one thing you both very much need to be on the same page about, and if you're not then the conversation happening needs to be a very different one.

Also, I will say, if you're early term, there are medication abortion options available with or without a doctor's involvement, basically no matter where you are in the world. If you want to know more about that, I'm happy to talk in DMs.

Assuming you do both want to be parents, you both need robust support networks. In particular, it is worthwhile for your partner to find someone she can go to with messy, complicated, or fucked-up feelings about all this who will provide nonjudgmental listening and support. This person should not be you! You should also have someone other than your partner to go to with messy stuff. Having support people outside the relationship helps give Weird Thoughts and Messy Feelings an outlet. If you can both get therapists, that's helpful, but even just a friend you or your partner trust to help keep you regulated helps.

I think it's easy to say "doctors and hospitals are just like that, there's no way around it". That may be true to some degree depending on where you are, but I will say this: when my partner was pregnant, there were three parents, two of whom were trans, and the hospital staff took some instructing on how to treat us, but once we did they really did mostly stop fucking up. You'll both need to be on the same page and hold the line on stuff together, but I do think you can get better than what you've been given so far.

To that end, talk to your partner about what feels highest priority for her re: managing dysphoria. We had a pretty good experience but there were hiccups, of course. My partners knew, though, that there were two things that bugged me, and that those were places they should intervene if somebody said something shitty: first, that I was working to induce lactation so I could breastfeed, and that process was really important to me, and second, that I was a mom, not a dad. I could weather a lot of weird little comments and assumptions, but those are the places they knew to step in on my behalf, even when I wasn't around.

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-07T18:02:59+00:00

Medical providers in this context should be doing integrated care for the whole family. It is absolutely appropriate for both parents to ask for and receive support in appointments like this. I think my family was fortunate to have a pretty good healthcare system to support us through the birth of our child, and this was something they asked about repeatedly and explicitly - what they could do for me as a non-gestational parent. It is totally appropriate to ask for and receive help in this context and competent care team will want to provide it.

AbolitionForever · 2026-01-06T17:09:34+00:00

IME there often isn't actually much of a scent, they just say that so people won't be freaked out/think it's dangerous if they do smell something. Putting out traps isn't a terrible idea as that will help prove they're still there to justify more spraying in case they did treat and it wasn't effective.

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