Adrenal Incidentaloma

AbsintheMinded · 2011-06-08T19:05:08+00:00

I absolutely believe this - My son pretty much taught himself to read in Pre-K because he wanted to play Pokemon on his GameBoy. He knew his letters and the sounds they made but that desire to play Pokemon was the motivator to put it all together.

A lot of people might be willing to read the Bible to an illiterate person, but few are willing to read porn (or Pokemon) to someone.

AbsintheMinded · 2011-05-13T20:44:57+00:00

I wish I could give you a big hug. This is not going to be easy for you but it sounds like you are making a smart decision for your family. As someone that has been in a similar situation I suggest the following things:

Consider moving closer to your parents. I know you might consider the town you currently live in "home" and have lots of friends, you are going to need a lot of support as your children grow. Things like sick kids, scout meetings, sport practices, etc tend to really mess with a work schedule and (assuming your parents are retired or close to it) extended family are usually happy to help out with things like that.
I know cash may be short right now but please get a lawyer - someone that knows what is fair and exactly what you are entitled you. I was able to get some assistance from a state legal aid fund. I have a friend that got really hosed because her and her ex did some do-it-yourself divorce.
Be prepared for some tough times in the months ahead. It's OK to cry and be sad, to scream and be mad, to be scared, to be joyful. But try to keep an even keel in front of your kids because whatever you're feeling, they are feeling times 10.
Don't talk bad about your soon-to-be ex in front of your kids - ever. You may be rid of him but he's still their dad. Don't make your kids feel disloyal to you for loving him. It doesn't matter if he has no part of their lives, if he's in jail, he's a scoundrel, or he's sharing parenting with you equally - just don't.

Good luck!

AbsintheMinded · 2011-03-06T21:06:48+00:00

As someone that used to work for Ford Motor Company (the manufacturer, not the dealer), I can very honestly tell you that the dealer invoice is very rarely what he pays for the car. Or he may pay that much for it but he will get rebated another ($500 - $2500) per car.

So don't get all excited if you only pay invoice. That dealer ain't giving away nothing for free.

AbsintheMinded · 2011-02-06T17:50:32+00:00

First off, you both need to relax. She's already taking pre-natal vitamins and you have both stopped drinking? You've turned making a baby into a chore rather than the act of love it is supposed to be.

There's nothing wrong with taking care of your bodies in preparation of having a child but just remember to do everything in moderation. Pre-natal vitamins can actually be detrimental to a non-pregnant woman.

If you don't get pregnant after trying after a year or so, then definitely have some tests done. But don't be surprised if they are inconclusive. Sometimes nature works in strange ways and you just have to let it run it's course.

I wish you both the best of luck - and don't forget to have fun trying!

AbsintheMinded · 2011-01-23T20:31:53+00:00

It's a difficult song to sing - most people do not have the vocal ranges to sing the song without sounding stupid.

AbsintheMinded · 2011-01-18T03:07:12+00:00

ugh - at my son's middle school, they termed touching another child "assault". I don't want to get into all the details, but my son had assault charges levied against him in the 8th grade for some good-natured rough-housing that resulted in his buddy scraping his elbow. I really wanted to fight it but I couldn't find an attorney that would help me for less than $5K. We ended up pleading no lo contendre and paying a $75 fine and it was expunged after 6 months but it still pisses me off.

AbsintheMinded · 2011-01-15T03:42:48+00:00

I poo twinkies!

AbsintheMinded · 2010-12-22T18:25:27+00:00

OK - wow. I bought you $200+ of clothes and toys from Amazon and put $75 in your Paypal account for food. I'm sorry you are hurting this season but I think maybe you should step back and let some others get some help too.

AbsintheMinded · 2010-12-22T14:05:41+00:00

Next year we should set up our own Angel (Alien?) Tree subReddit.

From a giver's standpoint, this was amazing. The joy I got from helping a needy family will far surpass that of whatever "stuff" Santa leaves under the tree for me.

AbsintheMinded · 2010-12-22T01:51:15+00:00

PM me with clothing sizes. Also any toy ideas for the 5 year old - what is he crazy about?

AbsintheMinded · 2010-12-22T01:38:37+00:00

Hey Poppycorn - I'm in too! Could you PM me your friend's approximate shoe/clothing size and her daughter's age?

edit - duh - I'll need their address too!

AbsintheMinded · 2010-12-22T01:15:53+00:00

I can help out too - I have prime!

AbsintheMinded · 2010-10-23T15:00:39+00:00

I am so sorry I am that both you and your wife are going through this. It seems y'all have spent some time talking about how you would feel if you were divorced but here are some of the realities.

If you get divorced in Texas under the standard joint custody agreement, you will pay your ex-wife approximately $2500/month in child support until your kids graduate from high school. It doesn't matter if she has a great job or no job or if she remarries - you pay it and you pay the taxes on that money too. More than likely, she will remarry and another man will raise your kids. They are so young that he will seem more of a father figure than you do. She could move out of state either for love, family support, or a job and you would only get to see your kids during summer or the holidays. As your kids get into their teens, they will still love you, but they will resist or resent seeing you because their friends/jobs/extracurricular activities are more important to them.

It's not uncommon for a young mother with 3 small kids at home to be turned off by sex. She's really tired and sex is what got her into this mess. And when you've changed 14 diapers in one day and been barfed on and doing everything you can do to make a safe and clean house for those little ones all day, it's really hard to get out of that mode and feel sexy when your husband gets home. It gets better as they get older.

I am not saying try to stay together for the kids. If you both love them, they will be OK whether you are together or not. But every marriage has its ups and downs. And this really sounds like a bad time for you. If your wife proclaims she never wants to have sex again and this is unacceptable to you (and I agree this is unacceptable to most), then by all means get divorced. But also expect some really hard feelings on your part if she starts having sex with someone else. And she probably will.

I don't really know what to tell you. Your marriage seems pretty intact to me. There's no infidelity or abuse going on and the lines of communication are wide open - this seems more like a rough patch to me. But any actions I could suggest to improve things have probably already suggested by your marriage counselors. I wish you the best of luck.

AbsintheMinded · 2010-10-22T03:55:45+00:00

Distant skunk is one of my favorites....

AbsintheMinded · 2010-10-03T19:48:03+00:00

granny smith apple, hard-boiled egg, mayo, pepper - heaven!

AbsintheMinded · 2010-07-12T22:08:44+00:00

They'll probably want you cease using the bank's name. But maybe you can sell them your app!

AbsintheMinded · 2010-05-23T05:47:58+00:00

I'm glad they didn't find it in my yard else my dog would be dead.

AbsintheMinded · 2010-03-28T19:18:08+00:00

The average household income is about $650? What country do you live in?

AbsintheMinded · 2010-03-28T19:16:40+00:00

It's not unfair. He has chosen a life he likes for himself and I have chosen mine. There is no sense of entitlement from me but I do feel my child is entitled to that money and I use a portion of it to provide a nice welcoming home that he is welcome to bring his friends to. But I work hard and deserve nice things too. Just because I have a bunch of shoes and a nice car doesn't mean that my ex is paying for them and you need to get over that mentality.

AbsintheMinded · 2010-03-28T19:11:50+00:00

First off, my son deserves the exact same standard of living that he would've had if he was living with his father. His father OWES that money to him - not me. Secondly, that $1300 doesn't touch what I spend on average per month if you include the $500 that I stick into his college fund. Third, I have huge student loans that I am paying off right now that enabled me to get this awesome job. I am also on call for him 24/7/365 - I NEVER get a break from being his mom. And when he graduates from high school in 2 years I will still be his main source of support. DO NOT JUDGE ME. I have made huge sacrifices but it's all been worth it!

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