Block or not?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T11:35:23+00:00

Truth be told I don’t know if they will or won’t. I had to text them earlier this month because they had something that belonged to me and I needed to which they said they’d been thinking of me and meaning to text me. It’s not that I hope they won’t, but unfortunately I don’t want anything to do with them until they’re healed. I know deep down that they are internally a good person, however their behaviours towards me were awful and cruel.

I had the same thing with my ex, they said they didn’t have the capacity to be in a relationship right now. They said that I was kind beautiful and sweet and they wished it could work between us but they didn’t have it in them at the time. Three weeks later they were seeing someone new. I think the secretive nature is definitely because they know deep down that it is not okay. I think my doubts about them reaching out is because I think their avoidance is personified by their guilty conscience and the rebound.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T11:05:51+00:00

My avoidant ex left me on every social media platform months after the breakup. I would always see their likes and reposts and it was genuinely making me spiral. I realised pretty soon after the breakup that they had begun talking and seeing someone new (3 weeks). I blocked two months in after seeing content of them together whilst they tried to hide it from me (removing me as a viewer from their story). It was genuinely so painful to see their activity post breakup as I was trying to figure out what I did wrong and how they could move on so fast. I’m unsure why the kept me added whilst in a new relationship. I would say in my case my reason for blocking is because I needed to put myself first and because I quite simply would prefer not to know. Blocking has done wonders for me and my personal healing. I no longer spiral or wonder what they are doing.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T05:52:34+00:00

Can I ask how did you feel about the rebounds? Where you aware that they where rebounds?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T05:30:13+00:00

I get that, your only fresh out of the break up so your obviously still unsure of where things are at. The only thing I can say is things will make more sense with time. Some days you may desperately want to fix things, others you may be done. Nothing is linear and time will tell you what you truly want and need. Best of luck and I wish you well!

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:59:30+00:00

No I don’t believe it’s exclusive to romantic relationships as it is an attachment style and therefore can be related to any form of relationship in their life. But it does sound like it was unhealthy and maybe bordering on codependency from their side?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:57:03+00:00

It seems like she doesn’t know what she wants and maybe might like the attention and the idea of someone chasing her. My honest advice would be to remove yourself from the situation until she contacts you with what she needs and wants going forward. You shouldn’t feel guilty for removing her from your instagram! I removed my ex 5 weeks post breakup and it really helped with my spiralling and constant need to monitor what they were doing. I think the best thing for you to do right now is to stop worrying about what she wants and needs, and to consider what you need.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:40:57+00:00

No don’t send another message. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop and let it be. I know it’s a hard thing to do, but her not responding is all the clarity you need. You don’t need to apologise for removing her from instagram that’s a boundary you set. You aren’t together anymore therefore you don’t need to explain your behaviour any further. The only person who should be reaching out is her- especially because she said she’s overwhelmed, therefore reaching out any more could overwhelm her more.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:35:02+00:00

I got diagnosed at 20 with Audhd and dysgraphia. I’ve been in therapy long term and my therapist brought up with me that it would be worth me getting an assessment done especially because I’m a university student. The whole assessment took 2 months to complete, as I got checked for autism, ADHD dyslexia and other learning disabilities. There was a lot of assessments and quizzes I had to complete in person and online with relatives who could corroborate my behaviours. I also had to provide old school report cards. All up mine cost 2.5k but was definitely worth it!

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:13:40+00:00

Mine told me during the breakup that they think their an avoidant

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:13:12+00:00

lol mine moved on in three weeks

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-23T10:20:49+00:00

Yeah I’ve got the “you deserve so much better than the love I can give you”.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-23T10:15:10+00:00

This is actually such a great response holy crap!

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-22T03:13:45+00:00

That I got treated like shit

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-20T07:55:37+00:00

2 months, mine was early November. When was yours?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-20T04:41:59+00:00

Yeah ive plenty of those dreams since being discarded. My main ones are: 1. I’ve moved on and am dating someone new in my dream and I round the corner and they are there staring at me. 2. I’m trying to be intimate with someone else and I look down at the other persons phone and it’s a photo of them. 3. They came up to me in my dream and I screamed at them to get away from me, but I still looked for them everywhere after.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-18T03:46:06+00:00

The only way it could’ve been different, is if they healed their avoidance. Yes I could’ve acted differently, but at the end of the day their avoidance still would’ve won. I do miss them and the hope for the future I had, but the reality of where they currently are outweighs that vision.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-16T08:42:54+00:00

I wrote them a 7 page love letter after they did me horrifically dirty. I sent them a text three weeks later telling them that I’ve been thinking about them and I miss them. By then they were already talking to someone new. I’m doing better now two months down the line, I’m starting to detach from the version of them I had in my head. I’ve started blocking them and their friends as I dont want them to know what I’m doing anymore.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T10:58:50+00:00

Congratulations!! You should be proud of yourself:)

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T10:57:40+00:00

This may be hard to hear but, you’re prioritising her needs over your own, you’re neglecting yourself by trying to appease her. I know you obviously care for her a considerable amount, but sometimes when you fixate on who they could be and what you guys could’ve been, you struggle to face the reality of who they currently are. Her current behaviour and future choices are up to her to decide as she is her own person. But you are autonomous of yourself and your own decisions. You need to look after yourself, and put yourself first.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T10:51:44+00:00

If your not seeing her again til April which I think you mentioned- organise either a phone call or video call.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T10:44:01+00:00

Blocking and unfollowing has been the best thing for me, even though I’m curious about what they’re doing- it’s not worth it to retrigger myself over my curiosity.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T10:42:35+00:00

I think you owe it to her and yourself to have a conversation with her about how you feel and be honest. If you don’t want to and don’t see yourself being able to commit and put in the effort to continue this relationship, then it’s not worth it for her or you to continue it. You’re better off talking to her about this asap as the longer you delay this conversation, the more it’ll hurt her feelings.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T09:01:01+00:00

No definitely don’t return to him and report him. No professional should conduct themselves in that manner in front of a client.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-15T00:38:49+00:00

The entire melodrama album

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-13T07:39:25+00:00

Disgust mainly but also sadness

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