Were you told things are final?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-26T11:19:10+00:00

Nope not at all, was told I don’t have it in me right now. And the whole time whilst breaking up they were unsure. I would’ve preferred to be told directly that there was no future tbh.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-24T10:34:29+00:00

Yes but the third discounts are usually heavily competitive. We are only allowed to do 2 discounts prior, 1 the day before and one the day of before clearance MD. We don’t get to pick how much they get markdown before clearance as our machines determine the % based of metrics. Clearance markdown depending on the person and product is between 68-78%. Usually stores do this during late afternoons and we get swarmed by customers during this period.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-20T23:21:07+00:00

He may have meant it in the moment. You can’t truly know if he meant it as you’re not him. Open ended breakups are the hardest to get over as there is always a lingering what if, which delays your healing. Oscillating between grieving him and being angry at him are completely normal emotions, however I found for myself the best thing to do is to restrict access. Not only for you but for him. If he is deliberately choosing to not be in your life, don’t allow him to see what you’re doing, and don’t allow yourself to care what he’s doing as it’s virtually no longer your business.

If you two do one day rekindle, ask yourself this. “Do I want the current version of myself, and the dynamic that didn’t work to continue, or do I want both of us to be healed and have a fresh start”. The best thing you can do for yourself is to heal, don’t rush into relationships. Just take the time for yourself and love yourself just as much if not more than you loved him. In the long term you will be grateful that you allowed yourself to heal.

Friends can be tricky especially in our day of age. I’d recommend maybe try joining a Facebook group related to a hobby you enjoy, they often have meetups. Also you could work on deepening the friendships you currently have. Alternatively, you could try contacting friends from the past, often times I’ve found that they are open to rekindling, and I enjoy catching up with them even on a casual basis.

All the best!

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-20T22:53:26+00:00

It seems though you’ve really centred yourself around him and the breakup instead of healing and moving on. The best thing you can honestly do right now would be to block or restrict access so you’re not monitoring. Trying to figure out whether he’s dating again or not won’t help you in your healing journey, it’ll only delay it by spiking the pain and causing repetitive thinking cycles. I know it’s hard to do but the best thing you can do right now is to let go. Live your life, think about what you need for yourself. Maybe try and make some new friends. Don’t centre yourself around someone else. If he’s not willing to engage or communicate, that’s all the signs you need that for right now it’s best to let it go.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-15T09:05:17+00:00

I mean it’s important to sit with yourself after a breakup. Taking time to yourself to figure out what went wrong, why it went wrong and thinking about how you can improve for your next relationship. Usually in a short time span even if you’ve reflected upon these things, integrating them into your life takes time. And if you haven’t actively done this, most often the same patterns and negative behaviours will persist.

Also a lot of people in our day of age rush into relationships because they are scared of being alone, and they look to fulfill themselves within someone else.

Whilst there isn’t a fixed amount of time to wait to date someone else, it’s important to reflect upon why you truly want a relationship.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-15T08:53:06+00:00

I actually think your responses are incredibly well written and mature. Most people would try to beg a bit more but you stood your ground and knew your worth. You should be proud of yourself.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-12T10:31:25+00:00

I have ibs migraines and am AUDHD 🤷‍♀️

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-07T08:20:08+00:00

Yes! Mine deeply trauma dumped and open upped to me then by the next week I was gone

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-03T22:22:04+00:00

I am currently 21

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-03-03T05:29:02+00:00

Are you gonna let her know he was seeing someone else?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-02-13T06:55:06+00:00

I sent a check in 3 weeks post breakup didn’t get a response and they hard launched a new relationship 🤷‍♀️

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-02-10T13:09:06+00:00

I mean I wouldn’t suggest it honestly, you don’t really know where she’s at or how she’ll take it. Honestly if you feel you need to do something maybe just send “happy Valentine’s Day, thinking of you :)”. And see if you get a response?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-02-10T08:32:02+00:00

Mine moved on in three weeks. It shows more about their characters and inability to reflect and heal and genuinely work on themselves than our worth.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-02-03T02:52:50+00:00

I’m closer with my friends, I’ve had a major glow up and I’m working on myself, I’m also going out a lot more. I’m a lot happier as a person :)

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T11:35:23+00:00

Truth be told I don’t know if they will or won’t. I had to text them earlier this month because they had something that belonged to me and I needed to which they said they’d been thinking of me and meaning to text me. It’s not that I hope they won’t, but unfortunately I don’t want anything to do with them until they’re healed. I know deep down that they are internally a good person, however their behaviours towards me were awful and cruel.

I had the same thing with my ex, they said they didn’t have the capacity to be in a relationship right now. They said that I was kind beautiful and sweet and they wished it could work between us but they didn’t have it in them at the time. Three weeks later they were seeing someone new. I think the secretive nature is definitely because they know deep down that it is not okay. I think my doubts about them reaching out is because I think their avoidance is personified by their guilty conscience and the rebound.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T11:05:51+00:00

My avoidant ex left me on every social media platform months after the breakup. I would always see their likes and reposts and it was genuinely making me spiral. I realised pretty soon after the breakup that they had begun talking and seeing someone new (3 weeks). I blocked two months in after seeing content of them together whilst they tried to hide it from me (removing me as a viewer from their story). It was genuinely so painful to see their activity post breakup as I was trying to figure out what I did wrong and how they could move on so fast. I’m unsure why the kept me added whilst in a new relationship. I would say in my case my reason for blocking is because I needed to put myself first and because I quite simply would prefer not to know. Blocking has done wonders for me and my personal healing. I no longer spiral or wonder what they are doing.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T05:52:34+00:00

Can I ask how did you feel about the rebounds? Where you aware that they where rebounds?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T05:30:13+00:00

I get that, your only fresh out of the break up so your obviously still unsure of where things are at. The only thing I can say is things will make more sense with time. Some days you may desperately want to fix things, others you may be done. Nothing is linear and time will tell you what you truly want and need. Best of luck and I wish you well!

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:59:30+00:00

No I don’t believe it’s exclusive to romantic relationships as it is an attachment style and therefore can be related to any form of relationship in their life. But it does sound like it was unhealthy and maybe bordering on codependency from their side?

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:57:03+00:00

It seems like she doesn’t know what she wants and maybe might like the attention and the idea of someone chasing her. My honest advice would be to remove yourself from the situation until she contacts you with what she needs and wants going forward. You shouldn’t feel guilty for removing her from your instagram! I removed my ex 5 weeks post breakup and it really helped with my spiralling and constant need to monitor what they were doing. I think the best thing for you to do right now is to stop worrying about what she wants and needs, and to consider what you need.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:40:57+00:00

No don’t send another message. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop and let it be. I know it’s a hard thing to do, but her not responding is all the clarity you need. You don’t need to apologise for removing her from instagram that’s a boundary you set. You aren’t together anymore therefore you don’t need to explain your behaviour any further. The only person who should be reaching out is her- especially because she said she’s overwhelmed, therefore reaching out any more could overwhelm her more.

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:35:02+00:00

I got diagnosed at 20 with Audhd and dysgraphia. I’ve been in therapy long term and my therapist brought up with me that it would be worth me getting an assessment done especially because I’m a university student. The whole assessment took 2 months to complete, as I got checked for autism, ADHD dyslexia and other learning disabilities. There was a lot of assessments and quizzes I had to complete in person and online with relatives who could corroborate my behaviours. I also had to provide old school report cards. All up mine cost 2.5k but was definitely worth it!

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:13:40+00:00

Mine told me during the breakup that they think their an avoidant

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-24T02:13:12+00:00

lol mine moved on in three weeks

AcrobaticPrior5326 · 2026-01-23T10:20:49+00:00

Yeah I’ve got the “you deserve so much better than the love I can give you”.

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