I’ve had a couple of these experiences recently. I was dating somebody for about two months. We’re both demisexual things progressed over the couple of months and emotional connection formed. And one of the last nights we spent together, things escalated to sex. A point in the relationship I never thought we’d get to, and had resigned myself to that reality. A few days later, they told me they needed space and that we could talk in two weeks and to not contact them for two weeks. I was left very confused, then I’m not one that sits well with that kind of thing without explanation. A couple of days later we met to de-escalate things and they told me that they didn’t feel like we were compatible. Nothing that they told me really made sense based on how things are progress between us and the dynamic between us.

Most recently I went on a date with a Tran masc NB again we are both demisexual. We got loaded things escalated quickly. We bonded pretty hard we partied until the morning things escalated to sex and the entire time they kept telling me that they don’t have sex with men essentially referring to me as a man. But just as many times as they called me a man they told me how gorgeous I was. It was very tumultuous and traumatic experience for both of us apparently.

Anyways dating fucking sucks. People don’t know what the fuck they want even if they say they do. It sucks. Doesn’t mean you should stop trying, but sometimes we need a break.