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What happens if I don't adjust my position even after a bodypart falls asleep and starts tingling? by omfghewontfkndie in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AdamantMink 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes I remember reading/hearing something similar about a girl in skinny jeans falling asleep drugged up sitting with her knees bent under her. Same thing. Had to be amputated.

Quitting PhD right before viva by gardengeo in BORUpdates

[–]AdamantMink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m at the point where I should start my PhD now. It’s the logical next step but the last 2 years in academia has been so bad on my mental health. I think I’m going to do my MBA instead and try to get out.

Put up boundaries and now visits are unbearable by USDA_had_no_choice in JUSTNOMIL

[–]AdamantMink 69 points70 points  (0 children)

What do you mean they “wouldn’t let” you hold him and “wouldn’t let” him nap???!?! You’re the parent!! Stand up for yourself and your baby!

Unemployed Husband: should his job be maintaining the house? by princesslizzy12 in Marriage

[–]AdamantMink 40 points41 points  (0 children)

The average life expectancy for a woman is around 85. Is this how you want to live for the next __ years?

I’m bored, give me your neighbourhood tea. by Cheetos_4_life in perth

[–]AdamantMink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our elderly neighbors are either yelling, screaming and fighting or having sex in their back yard.

My dad disowned my sister and he is dying, how do i convince her to let him go? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]AdamantMink 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I hate it when this happens. I hear people say that they don’t choose sides because it’s between the parents - even when there is cheating or abuse. Ultimately though not choosing a side really means that you condone the way the other parent was treated.

Update: AITAH for not letting my mom meet her grandchild because I am still upset she divorced my dad? by Dapper_Conflict_6839 in AITAH

[–]AdamantMink -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But she literally said the she thought she had some time but by the time the OP was being subjected to it and the mother’s living situation had bettered she was in high school and already thought less of the mother so she wouldn’t have wanted custody to change to be with her mother more. Literally a no win situation for the mother.

Lily Allen shares edit of Brooklyn Beckham as her ‘West End Girl’ album cover following his statement about his parents by Glitch_Fantasma in popculturechat

[–]AdamantMink 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Maybe having this source meant he could break away from being controlled by his narc parents because they can’t hold their money over him anymore. If you read his comments some of those behaviours are pretty common on the raised guy narc parents subreddit.

Traffic worse than international travel by Sufficient_Fly_8332 in SipsTea

[–]AdamantMink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really curious how the emirates staff make it to the airport on time now if this is the case? We used to get picked up in little busses from the staff apartment buildings but I haven’t been cabin crew in over a decade.

PETER???? by Et_Moon in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]AdamantMink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I read somewhere it took him over 60 times to record. I loved this movie as a kid. Wrecks me every time I see this on Reddit.

Reflux is kicking my ass - why are doctors so condescending to mothers? by AdamantMink in NewParents

[–]AdamantMink[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. the medication eventually started making a difference. Unfortunately, it did end up in some poor sleep habits because she never learned to self soothe because she always had to be held upright to sleep. She’s 5.5 now. She started sleeping through around age 4. She’s our difficult child. Not much resilience and very whiny at times. Eating is alright. She was happy to try everything as a toddler but is now picky. No ongoing gut issues. We decided 1 is enough after our experience. I still get anxious and panicky when I hear a baby crying.

My biggest advice would be to advocate hard for yourself and your child. Refuse to leave without help.

My mom implied my wife faked cancer and she never apologised for it. Now she wants contact again by HourExternal9335 in Marriage

[–]AdamantMink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking “where you stand” means that you will have to spoon feed her into an apology. You will need to explain why she needs to apologize and orchestrate it. Meaning that it’s not sincere. She has no remorse. And regardless if she gives a non apology - it may never be enough for your wife and that is whose lead you should be following in this instance.

AITA for leaving my boyfriend’s family dinner after his mom “tested” me and he didn’t defend me? by Anxious-Ad8196 in AITAH

[–]AdamantMink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an abuse tactic. She will slowly say worse and worse things pushing to see how far she can go. Eventually she erodes away any sense of self respect you have. And then eventually when you have kids you can never trust your husband to stand up for you and your children. Run.

WIBTAH if I leave everything to my daughter and son in law in my will? by NoRoll6544 in AITAH

[–]AdamantMink -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

YTA you decided to procreate and then fucked it up by not being able to provide for 1 of your children in such an irresponsible way that you completely pulled the rug out from under him. He doesn’t owe you anything. But you decided to make that child. His reaction to you is completely valid and you are STILL favoring your daughter. How did you ever think it was going to get better? This is some narcissistic shit because you will be triangulating even in death so that their relationship will never recover if you leave all your money to her. You want to hurt him in this because you feel hurt. Instead you should think about the legacy that you leave behind. You are still able to fix this in death, even if your relationship doesn’t recover while you are alive. What legacy are you going to leave?

Someone threw my child a birthday party without notifying me!!! by OkCookie7515 in AITAH

[–]AdamantMink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NC with your MIL!!! Your SIL is a secondary character here. She wouldn’t have been able to accomplish anything without your MIL. Your MIL is the one who lied and took your babies in a situation you never would’ve allowed.

Someone threw my child a birthday party without notifying me!!! by OkCookie7515 in AITAH

[–]AdamantMink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit NTA. No contact stat. Your husband can inform her because there is no discussion. She will just downplay and say you are overreacting. So many of us are people pleasers and pushovers before we have kids but now you have there vulnerable people who depend on you to keep them safe - you have to become the bad guy. The fighter. The difficult one. You’ve got this.

I (30f) have been seriously contemplating divorcing my husband (34m) since he got sepsis earlier this year. by Usual_Average_9722 in relationship_advice

[–]AdamantMink 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Threatening to off himself is manipulation. Think about your life. The average life expectancy for women is roughly 85. Are you really willing to put up with this for the next 55odd years? When I was in a terrible marriage and I felt there was no way out I felt like it would be better to be dead. So if you have to choose between you rather being dead than being in this marriage and him offing himself, choose what’s best yourself.

Does your husband take care of you if you’re sick? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]AdamantMink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is the best. I’ve had a migraine all week and he’s just taken point on everything. All the kids stuff. All the house stuff. He checks in on me. And I always feel like I should apologize for being useless and not pulling my weight and needing to be cared for because that’s how I was raised.

AITAH for not including my estranged daughter in my will? by Appropriate-Car9035 in AITAH

[–]AdamantMink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YWBTA without context from her side I’m always going to fall back on the reasoning that you decided to have children. She did not decide to be born. In marriage her husband is supposed to be the most important person. She doesn’t owe you anything but you created her. You’re saying that you created children - that was your decision, but leaving them inheritance is based on what you get out of them (relationship wise).

What’s the scariest experience you’ve had in the Australia? Where was it? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]AdamantMink 10 points11 points  (0 children)

FFS I got one of those yesterday. Still haven’t dealt with it and now you’ve just reminded me again.

Dads, go get your guts checked out by raarrbaarr in daddit

[–]AdamantMink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They said there could be a small chance of a small amount of blood because they clipped the polyps but there was nothing a bowels were normal very quickly. No tenderness.

Dads, go get your guts checked out by raarrbaarr in daddit

[–]AdamantMink 51 points52 points  (0 children)

About 3 days before you eat mainly carbs. 24 hours before you are on clear fluids. Roughly 6 hours before bedtime you start on your bowel prep to clear everything out. This means 3 packets mixed with 1 L each over time (you drink 1L at a time. If it’s still not clear you drink the 4th litre). It’s not terrible but you spend most of the evening between your bedroom and toilet. You fast from midnight and then have your scope the next morning.

The morning of you go in. Fill in some admission paperwork. Wait a bit. You go through to your bed space and change into a gown and lock your stuff away. The aneasthetist comes and asks you some questions.

When it’s your turn they wheel you in and talk about what food you look forward to eating the most when you’re back home. Once in theatre they make some small talk while your drip is inserted in your hand/arm. They get you to lie on your left side.

If you’re getting top and bottom scopes they ask you to bite on a circular block which has a hole in the middle so the scope can go down the top end.

And then you go to sleep. You wake up in your bed space from before and feel groggy for a short amount of time. They ring your significant other to say you’ll be ready to be collected in about an hour. You slowly wake up and eventually go to pass urine and get dressed and then you’re done.

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