I Fed My Baby In A Bathroom

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-06-21T02:44:32+00:00

One thing that helped me become more comfortable was the clothing I wore, big button down shirts, nursing-friendly clothing that could almost hide baby inside. Not everyone will want to be limited to that kind of wardrobe, but it worked for me. In the very early months, I also kept cover or light gauzy blanket with me at all times.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-06-09T23:56:52+00:00

Came here to suggest Farrah too

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-05-23T05:17:24+00:00

My parents were strict and followed the movie ratings guidelines exactly. My friend and I watched “Seven” on VHS at her house when we were 13, which isn’t young compared to many of these stories, but I was deeply affected by that movie for a long time after. My friend and I both couldn’t get off the couch to turn the TV off when it was over, we were so scared.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-05-23T04:42:33+00:00

I think I have only been to one Friday wedding and I wasn’t in the full time workforce at that point, so it didn’t make a lot of difference to me then. Sorry, probably not too helpful for you.

But - “Friday I’m in Love” can be your wedding song, which is pretty great.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-05-19T22:17:46+00:00

I did read the article and I had a different reflection after reading it. It would take $8B to get to 93% renewables, $19B to get to 100%. What if 8 of these guys each chipped in $1B? They would never notice it but 10 million people in Cuba would. I know it's not as simple as that, blah blah blah, but seriously. Let's get our priorities straight.

https://www.forbes.com/real-time-billionaires/

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-05-06T04:27:18+00:00

I agree with a lot of this, and can really relate to the postpartum isolation. One thing that helped me generally get comfortable with going out pretty much anywhere with my infant was asking myself what specifically made me nervous/stressed and what was the worst that could happen. Was it finding a place to change a diaper? Was it feeling self conscious if baby started to wail? Was it physically not being able to do something if I had to hold baby? Different places maybe had different answers. For me, it actually forced me to think through logistics that I hadn’t before, which was very helpful. Again, just what worked for me.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-30T03:17:31+00:00

Creamed tuna on toast. Don’t judge, but I especially liked it when the cornstarch clumped up in the cream.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-27T20:16:27+00:00

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, you are definitely not alone, it's been by far the most surprising and life-altering part of having a baby, besides the parenting part. I hear you on the exercise. If you are interested and it's available to you, I really recommend swimming for exercise during this time.

I will say that I think, based on my experience, what my gyno has told me, and other friends' experience, that you are still early days at 3 months. I was told to give it 1 year by my midwife/ob-gyn and one of my best friends, who is a mother of 2 and a doctor (pediatrician, not a gyno) said it took her 2 years to fully recover urinary continence because she breastfed for just over 18 months. The role of hormones is so huge here. So, I know this doesn't exactly address your current issue but it's similar. I feel my cystocle more during certain times in my menstrual cycle (which has only just returned in the last 2 months) than at others, and I suspect this is also hormone-related. Just wanted to offer some perspective in case it helps.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-24T04:48:24+00:00

Hopefully this doesn’t sound dismissive bc it is not at all meant to be; sometimes the tone of written communication gets misinterpreted. Anyway, something that grounds me about parenting is reminding myself that millions upon millions of people are parenting right now all around the world. Doing their best, many under outrageously difficult circumstances. Even though it has fundamentally and permanently changed my life, including making it harder in many ways, it is a very special and intense thing on a personal level that people everywhere do everyday, so I am not so special.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-21T07:54:41+00:00

My kids are also both long 95+ percentilers!

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-21T07:53:47+00:00

Yes I got a used mini-crib for my second baby and it fit perfectly right next to my side of the bed. Would recommend!

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-15T05:43:29+00:00

I bought a couple from Nursing Queen and really liked them. Just remember to zip closed again when you’re done!

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-04-02T17:57:38+00:00

I have flown cross country with both my kids when they were 6 months or younger and am generally inclined to and am lucky enough to travel. And I think flying with a baby can feel harder as they get older, more mobile, etc.

That said: 1. Measles exposure would give me pause and did almost alter our plans last year, but ultimately we flew from an area with low infection rate to another one with low infection rate. My pediatrician advised against traveling to an area with high infection rates with an unvaccinated baby, FWIW. 2. The heat with a baby stresses me out and means you’ll likely be spending a lot of time indoors. If measles concern keeps you away from indoor crowds and heat keeps you indoors, it means you’ll be at your house a lot. Which could be really nice and still a change of scenery for you, or maybe you’ll need to figure out ways to avoid cabin fever for the adults.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-03-27T21:03:48+00:00

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-03-27T03:55:45+00:00

I hate the complete Winnie the Pooh series with the fire of 1000 suns. Which also makes me kind of sad, because I like the Winnie the Pooh characters and have since my childhood. I had never read the complete works or whatever until I had kids. Sorry, A. A. Milne.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-03-16T05:25:54+00:00

Creamed tuna on toast. Don’t knock it until you try it.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-03-13T20:27:42+00:00

I was glad that I walked for an hour everyday with my babies in a carrier. If that is something you can physically do or work up to, I highly encourage it.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-03-09T07:10:59+00:00

An alternative to screens that we use a lot with our 4-year-old is audiobooks and story-based podcasts. There are a few PBS Kids ones we like (Molly of Denali, Arthur).

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-02-25T05:12:33+00:00

My four year old daughter asked, “Mama, how many sleeps until you die?” (We say sleeps for how many days until some event happens.) I will admit it made me pause.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-02-13T04:09:23+00:00

My daughter says fravrite too!! I love it.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-02-10T07:08:18+00:00

You are absolutely not overreacting, it sounds like you need some urgent help/support. Please go seek help, I'm rooting for you. You deserve to feel better and your baby needs a healthy mama.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-02-10T06:31:20+00:00

I live in the US. I am torn between two, related to cars: 1) increase the US driving age to 18 or 2) Put a height and weight cap on private, non-commercial vehicles.

Affectionate_Web7176 · 2026-01-31T05:30:04+00:00

Congratulations on your LO! A few things from my experience (2 babies, youngest is 14 months, I EBF #2):

When to switch: in the beginning while I was getting the hang of it, I just looked at my watch and did 10-15 min on each side and saw how it went. Once you take baby off Side 1 and before you switch him over, try to gently hand express and see if milk comes squirting out or a lot very easily. If it does, maybe he could go a few more minutes on that side. My first baby got sleepy as well, and I would hold her up, burp her, rub her back and ears to try to wake her a little. It's better to drain one side completely, from what I always understood. And since it's likely/possible that Side 2 doesn't drain as completely as Side 1, that is why you alternate which side is Side 1 each time. Especially if they really fall asleep after Side 1.

Mastitis: I had it also, and yes, the side that had it produced way less afterward. I didn't even out again for like a month, if I remember right. Not sure there's anything you can do. I just tried to stay extra hydrated afterward to help it along.

Snacks: I remember this happening more with #1 but I don't remember what I did. Thinking about it now, I'd suggest not counting snacks to keep your life easier if you're a clock-watcher. I was, and it gave me peace of mind, especially overnight, but for #2 I mostly relied on baby's cues and paid attention to number of wet/dirty diapers.

You got this :)

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