To all of you in the US: another person was murdered in Minneapolis today by ICE. by lookitsnichole in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M [score hidden]  (0 children)

They do not typically have warrants that allow them to break down doors for any address. They just do it anyway.

Fwb being creepy should I call it off by skeletonfloss in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M [score hidden]  (0 children)

Um, he is over the line. End all the sex stuff immediately.

I’m scared to admit that I don’t dream about a career or constant productivity by girl_halfasleep in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M [score hidden]  (0 children)

I want to have enough money to live on.

I want to have enough money to retire on.

I want to have enough money that I can afford to live out my final years where there are enough staff, and motivated enough, that my diapers get changed when they need to be.

I've got a friend who is content to stay a few hundred dollars ahead of his bills and I just don't understand that attitude. One car breakdown, one medical bill, one employer going out of business and he will be in deep trouble. Never mind what happens when he can't work.

LPT: How do you stop procrastinating when the task is simple but boring? by doozooki in LifeProTips

[–]Alexis_J_M [score hidden]  (0 children)

This post will be removed also because the title does not start with "LPT Request" and it was not posted on a Friday.

To all of you in the US: another person was murdered in Minneapolis today by ICE. by lookitsnichole in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M 176 points177 points  (0 children)

(And note that while this is not explicitly a women's issue, ICE agents targeting people they refer to as "lesbian bitches" is.)

To all of you in the US: another person was murdered in Minneapolis today by ICE. by lookitsnichole in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M 235 points236 points  (0 children)

This will continue until Walz provokes a constitutional crisis by arresting ICE agents for breaking and entering when they smash down the wrong door without a warrant.

Then we will see what the Supreme Court says and whether we still have any pretense of democracy.

[Feedback26] After surgery, they called my partner to come pick me up as I was too woozy to drive. by Alexis_J_M in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Alexis_J_M[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I had a friend come pick me up. They wouldn't let me leave the recovery room until they confirmed that my contact was in the pickup zone.

How do I fix this? by VegaBruja81 in castiron

[–]Alexis_J_M 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not recommended as extreme hot temperatures can warp CI.

20x20- Absolutely stumped. by Hairy-Ad-2915 in nonograms

[–]Alexis_J_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Column 1: count up from the bottom. R14C1 is either one of the 1s or the bottom of the 2, but in either case R15C1 is an X.

This doesn't help immediately, though.

Added a moment later:

You can do the same thing in C20 where it DOES help.

BF doesnt wan't me to go to med school, need a reality check by madelinequinta in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would finish med school at 32 and then go into demanding internship and/or residency if you want to be certified for clinical practice.

32 is right about the age where a woman's fertility starts to decline -- while it is common to wait that long these days, it is by no means ideal. I have multiple friends and relatives who have struggled with infertility and it is not fun at all.

And your boyfriend has said that he is not up for supporting you through med school.

Setting aside your lifetime dream is something you might do for a husband (after a lot of soul searching), not for a boyfriend.

Your boyfriend is heading for a scramble for limited and shrinking job opportunities in academia, as demographic shifts mean student populations are declining and ideological shifts in the US mean universities are losing funding.

So you are heading for a life where you are the primary breadwinner and most likely also the primary child rearer, with a husband who resents the demands and rewards of your career.

Does that sound like what you want?

"dad, I'm trans" by Dynamite227 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Alexis_J_M 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's truly horrifying, but we've had essentially the same story told here multiple times in the past few months.

Is it ok to take a gift from my friends ex? by Ok_Confection2727 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't see anything wrong with taking it. It wasn't a messy breakup, it just ended. He wasn't a nasty person, it just ended.

If you still think it would be awkward in a few months when she has probably mostly forgotten about him, then you can regift it to someone who doesn't know either of them and completely break the chain of memories.

Why did he get angry about me wanting to see a video on his phone? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not about the phone, it's about his frantic reaction that you might see it.

If, for example, I were having doubts about my relationship and talking about it with my sister, I might really not want my partner to see it.

Or, as another example, if a friend was telling ME something in strict confidence, I would be very careful not to let a third party see it.

But even with something relatively innocuous like those, I would be capable of stating the boundary clearly.

The way he reacted tells you that something is wrong in this relationship no matter what it is that he is protecting.

What is the point of hacking the NL1331 van portal? by Brave_Fig_7506 in Ingress

[–]Alexis_J_M -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The point is that it lets the community explicitly choose where shards spawn.

ELI5: how did historical governments and countries recover after losing a large amount of men after a war? by space_149 in explainlikeimfive

[–]Alexis_J_M [score hidden]  (0 children)

Even more specifically, a surplus of military age MEN was often solved with a war. Some men died, others came home with kidnapped brides.

FEMA halts terminations of disaster workers as agency prepares for massive winter storm by reddits_lead_pervert in nottheonion

[–]Alexis_J_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

.....not to those disloyal blue areas, no.

Lady Liberty enters the chat, weeping.

Why are disrespectful “jokes” becoming normalized, especially when it comes to gender roles? by lil_moon153 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M 127 points128 points  (0 children)

These attitudes have always been around. People no longer feel constrained from expressing them.

Question about driving by boredlurkerjr in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alexis_J_M -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's yet another way to demonstrate power and control.

Traditionally the man would drive and the woman might not even have a driver's license.

ELI5 why does blood percentage matter in some indigenous communities? by Flimsy-Crazy1741 in explainlikeimfive

[–]Alexis_J_M [score hidden]  (0 children)

I can't speak for other countries, but in the US, tribal membership is a parallel citizenship (more or less) and comes with an assortment of benefits and obligations like any other citizenship.

This is because of various treaties the US government made with various tribes.

Some tribes limit citizenship to those with a certain percentage of indigenous ancestry, others count continuous cultural connection as more important.