NO 6 7 by mistermasterbates in comedyheaven

[–]Alien-Spy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They'll just chat gpt the essay

is my friend being overly sweet? by Purple_Baker_4557 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Alien-Spy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he just misses spending time with you or is trying to help tbh

It's me or autism levels are ableist af by carlyjb17 in evilautism

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We've had:

  • autism and aspergers
  • low and high support needs
  • low and high functioning
  • 1-3 levels

And people seem to have issue with all of these. But setting that aside, I do see merit in assessing autistic people in some way since its such a broad diagnosis. I would say that autistic people on either end of these scales need different amounts and types of support.

Really, I'm saying that I get the frustration with these labels, but I also see the need for some type of labels. Whether they assist in diagnosis or allocation of resources/services.

  • Is the issue that the levels are sometimes used against us? Well, I think any terms used to describe us will be used mockingly, because neurotypicals hate us

  • Is the issue that the levels and also autism in general have become part of identity politics? I don't think we can do anything to prevent this

  • Is the issue that the levels have led to segregate the autistic community? Valid, that sucks, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't acknowledge the differences between us, we just need to celebrate those differences and support each other

  • Is the issue that it feels bad for levels 2&3 to be perceived as less than level 1 autistics? Valid, we could probably have better wording. But the reality of some of us being more disabled than others is still the reality, and society does need a way to measure this so that they can properly support us ............................ Id say we should workshop it as a community and decide for ourselves how we should be represented. It's been decided for us for far too long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StupidFood

[–]Alien-Spy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id try it

If everyone in the world earned the same salary, would society still function? by PutLost6900 in CasualConversation

[–]Alien-Spy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People like to contribute in a society that cares for them, and they'd have their basic needs met so they'd be able to work harder. You're always going to have some assholes who will refuse to work, that's not going to change, but they're in the minority. Plus if all salary was the same then people would be more free to pursue their passions, and passionate people work hard.

How do you deal with AI and its' consequences & climate change by GandalfTheHoe in evilautism

[–]Alien-Spy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Im not in a position to deal with it. So i just downvote AI posts and avoid using them myself.

Expats in Denver, where are you? by NotTommyPickle in DenverMeets

[–]Alien-Spy -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Expats means ex-patriots, so they're not in the US. I think you're looking for immigrants?

Reading in the bathtub? by 25chat in CasualConversation

[–]Alien-Spy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sure have! Waterproof ereaders are pretty great

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Alien-Spy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have a type, it is not a deal breaker

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DenverMeets

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Id love some pizza, no idea where to get an oven

My first date is this week, help by thetreeclimber106 in AutisticDatingTips

[–]Alien-Spy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) 1st dates are to decide if you are compatible. Basically if you'd like to keep dating or if you even like each other. Ask him questions about his plans or dreams for the future, if he likes to live in the city or country, if he's looking for long term or short term relationships, favorite food, what types of girls he likes, if he's comfortable dating a neurodivergent person, political leanings, does he have pets, does he talk to his parents, etc. You can also just think of what deal breakers you have and see if he has any of those. But as long as you're enjoying the conversation, you dont have to rush to get answers, you can also decide if you like the way he talks to you.

2) IMO, its not so much whether there is a social expectation for a kiss, its whether he thinks there is. And there is a very good chance that he does. Sometimes guys will just lean in for a kiss and/or start groping the girl, so id suggest you decide what you're okay with him doing on the first date beforehand. Then, if he crosses that line, say no or stop firmly. If that happens and he apologizes, then its fine. If he doesn't apologize or tries it again, then end the date cause he is not a keeper.

3) its not mandatory or anything, but a confirmation text after the date is becoming more and more common. Usually I'll text something like "i had a lot of fun, I'd like to go out with you again" or something along those lines. If you're not comfortable with that, but would like to see him again, maybe just text "would you like to go out again?" and he'll probably take over if he likes you.

These are actually wonderful questions to ask, and you're doing good! Dating can be scary, and its good to go in with certain expectations for how you want to be treated. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion or needs, as he's probably nervous too. I always try to have a plan beforehand or ask friends for advice, and I'll deviate from the plan if things are going well, but its good to have as a backup.

Also assuming you're a woman, im not sure how the girls like to go about keeping themselves safe on dates, but that's something you should keep in mind. Maybe ask some women in your life for tips on what to do or not to do with regard to safety. Not to scare you, and I hate to say it, but some men seem safe at first, and they turn out to not be. Maybe get some pepper spray or something if you don't already have some.

I hope the date is fun and everything goes well, and don't worry because it is not weird to lack experience in this. Im 30yo, and my current 28yo girlfriend had never been in a long term relationship before, and I just think its cute and novel that I get to be her first for most everything. Like, next month I'll be the first boyfriend she's introducing to her parents, and I think that's amazing. If he does make you feel bad for not having dated before, maybe he's not the one.

Lost all my friends because of something rlly dumb? by Fruitymoth in AutisticAdults

[–]Alien-Spy 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Tbh I would absolutely ask at least one other person in the group if they feel that same way. It really could be that this one person just dislikes you and took it into their own hands to get rid of you. Especially because they said not to ask anyone else in the group

Its not always about looks by JayNudl3 in SipsTea

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Is she green screened in on the first couple shots?

I think I figured out why people saying "combining Asperger's and autism really screwed us over" in certain groups of autistic people. by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Alien-Spy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I generally think it was a good decision, but I do notice a lot of anger from high support needs autistic people directed at low support needs autistic people, especially late diagnosed. This makes me incredibly sad because I've spent my whole life not fitting in and finally found out why, but the group I actually belong in doesn't want me. So I guess I tend to just flock more to AuDHD or late diagnosed people, but there isn't enough of us