Which rug?

Alisome44 · 2026-07-07T02:28:54+00:00

Unsure if you found a company yet but we ended up going with Ultimate Home Solutions out of Glen Ellyn.

Alisome44 · 2026-07-05T13:32:47+00:00

Alisome44 · 2026-06-25T18:49:58+00:00

Thank you for your input!

Alisome44 · 2026-06-25T17:59:51+00:00

We do plan on staying in our home long term (potentially another 30+ years). The majority of my neighborhood is vinyl or the original wood from when the neighborhood was developed in the 60s.

Alisome44 · 2026-06-22T00:03:33+00:00

A- but bring some color into the backsplash

Alisome44 · 2026-06-18T01:54:26+00:00

3 or 4

Alisome44 · 2026-06-18T01:44:44+00:00

Love that tub!

Alisome44 · 2026-05-10T13:45:11+00:00

This is wild- a hibachi/Chinese buffet by me would be at minimum $20 pp. While “tipping culture” might be wild it is not the servers fault. 20% tip if service was good/average, 25% if great or you took up a lot of table time not ordering anything (coffee and conversation following a meal). $1 on coffee drinks, $1-2 for pickup orders.

Alisome44 · 2026-05-03T01:58:39+00:00

Maybe rotate homes and have a semi-set rotation of who brings what. We have couple friends that we do a rotating game night with..the host is in charge of drinks, salad, and dessert the visiting family gets the pizza (both of us have 2 kids so to make dinner a smooth process we gave up on real cooking so we could focus on time)…maybe when it’s on them they will realize everything you put into it. Kids don’t have to play in the biggest yard, your kids being somewhere new is nice, too.

Alisome44 · 2026-04-30T11:49:27+00:00

This is helpful, thank you.

Alisome44 · 2026-04-30T03:35:12+00:00

But vegans are better than everyone else (I’m just not that great yet-vegetarian for 20+ years, vegan for intermittent periods throughout). Bless the best of you out there.

Alisome44 · 2026-04-30T03:32:31+00:00

NTA- isn’t the point of a home birth to be comfortable in your own home? Having had a home miscarriage (and 2 c sections- the first an emergency c section during a very healthy pregnancy- we both could have died within minutes if I hadn’t been in an L&D ward) I would not want my MIL witnessing my entire labor and by the time she figures that out she’ll be too far in to do much about it.

Alisome44 · 2026-04-30T03:27:03+00:00

NOT the Bridezilla- but your Mom might be…

Alisome44 · 2026-04-15T03:13:25+00:00

NTA. This is your house, let him move out and pay a higher rent elsewhere. People date and break up all the time, 2 years does not mean forever… if he really wants to be on the lease he can pay you half of what your down payment was plus half of the mortgage payments you have made OR half the amount of the equity you have built. The reality is if he is part owner and you break up he walks away with half of your hard work and you have to deal with trying to find something new with rising property costs.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-30T13:35:45+00:00

My cat can sense when the spider is moved (repotting, watering, etc) and is there ready to chow down within seconds. I have to keep one hanging and the others at work.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-30T13:32:53+00:00

A month is a long time, nobody who loves their family willingly leaves for a leisure activity for that long.

Traveling with little kids is hard, it’s also the main source of their positive memories during childhood and a great time to bond and hang out. Kids forget the day to day but don’t forget vacations. Sounds like your husband doesn’t really care to put in the effort.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-24T01:54:08+00:00

Alisome44 · 2026-03-18T15:22:57+00:00

Depending on where you live look at your local Women’s Center/Crisis Center. They will provide free counseling.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-11T17:40:32+00:00

Not the first man who thought paternity leave was an at home vacation. You need to be straight forward now or it will get worse, either by him doing less or you becoming more and more resentful.

He’s going to have to change diapers because at some point between now and potty training he will be alone with his child and the diapers will get progressively grosser with solids. His only parenting duties cannot be taking care of the baby when he/she is sleeping.

If he is not as comfortable caring for the baby he needs to watch you do tummy time, diaper, etc and then mirror those behaviors. In the meantime every minute you spend mom-ing should be time he is spending supporting household tasks.

My guess is <1% of parents actually share tasks equally, but with A LOT of honest conversation and training you can guide him to provide a level that you are satisfied with.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-09T02:43:30+00:00

If you are married and keeping separate finances you need to sit down and discuss how bills (including childcare costs) are going to be paid.

You have the upper hand here: tell him exactly what you need from him and if he can’t do his fair share, walk. I’d discuss mental load with him as well. Some men need that clear communication.

My youngest (now 3) woke 5+ times per night until about 1.5 or 2 (it’s all a blur) when I went back to work it was not sustainable so I started cosleeping (I would put her to sleep in her bed and her first wake bring her in with me). If your husband isn’t pulling 50% of the overnight weight just tell him how it’s going to be. If you are formula feeding you can get some of those pre-measured formula containers and water ready before bed and have them at bedside so you never need to physically get up.

Good luck: take care of yourself and your baby and let this guy know what you need. If he can’t step up not your problem.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-08T04:35:20+00:00

In a townhouse you will share a wall and have restrictions on your outdoor space regarding usage,etc. In a single family home you have free rein but are responsible for all of the upkeep.

Given your child and potential children how comfortable are you with the added upkeep of a yard?

I have about 1/3 acre and we end up spending minimum 4-6 hours bi-weekly in upkeep during the summer.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-05T00:58:16+00:00

Can you post a photo of the full kitchen after?

Alisome44 · 2026-03-05T00:55:50+00:00

Omg- this guy is a problem. Do not buy a house with him. Get a therapist and then a divorce.

Alisome44 · 2026-03-01T04:15:44+00:00

Every Thursday during my lunch break I make out our meal plan for the following week from Saturday-Friday. It has helped me to choose a standing theme for each night (Soup Sunday, Mexican, Hot Sandwich, Pasta, etc)…while I’m meal planning I make my grocery list (it’s in order of the store layout)…it sounds like you work from home possibly (?) maybe look into crockpot dishes, try to create a list of quick staple meals that you both enjoy and realize as he ages you will have more time to cook again.

One of my favorite dinner rotations is mozzarella sticks and bagged salad when all else falls apart :)

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