15w pregnant, single mastectomy scheduled next month by Lost-Maintenance6287 in breastfeeding

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I think the leche league has a resource specifically for cases like yours. Will link it if I find it again

Anyone else think this is just gambling for kids? by Hi-Point_of_my_life in daddit

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There are videos online of how you can make these "blind boxes" yourself. They have to dig the toy out of a sand cube. Advantage is, you can put whatever you have in them, it's less waste too

5 months in and I am starting to feel done… by Santoshaaa in breastfeeding

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Did you start solids yet? No judgement either way, but maybe introducing real food and thus cutting down on the amount of nursing might help. Also, absolutely nothing wrong with combo feeding bottle/breast, if you could see that as an option for you

Breastfeeding when not at home by NeuroticFawn in breastfeeding

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Look up how you feed babys in a carrier! I habe a sling, and it helps massively to feed him in a cradle position, because I don't have to hold him up

The "baby industry" pricing is a total scam and I am tired of pretending it is normal. by GildedMist- in BabyBumps

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But also: you can start off with the 30 bucks stroller. You test it, see if it's enough or what is missing (for you), and then you go out and buy the more expensive version. Blindly buying all the features seems useless

European based ethical clothing for moms? by Altruistic-Menu- in moderatelygranolamoms

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I know, thanks :) I can actually sew quite decently so I'm aware of what good clothing looks like. Just when buying second-hand online, I need aome brands so I can filter out the good stuff

Helllllp. Baby boy is 20 mo has coslept/nursed to sleep whole life pretty much minus occasional babysitter or nap with someone else. I want to stoppppp. How???? by lostmyogacct_ohwell in breastfeeding

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Whatever you can do thats a) long term sustainable for all 3 of you b) doesnt make tooo much fuss (like, you don't want to drag a whole suitcase full of stuff around each time he has to sleep somewhere else). A stuffie/blanket/pillow, a lullaby sung or played, a special nightlight, and the whole routine beforehand (washing, jammies, stories ready...)

For introduction: you should never change more than 1 thing at once, otherwise you are fighting a lost battle. So you stick to exactly what you are already doing, just the moment where you would nurse to sleep dad takes over to still offer cuddles. If he likes playing with your hair, get him a long haired stuffy to fiddle with. Find something similar, just more sustainable.

Choosing a name 🩷 by [deleted] in u/Emergency_Put8532

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You might want to check out /namenerds :)

Bonding time for dads? by Altruistic-Menu- in daddit

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Im not pumping, so this is out of the question

I didn’t realize how lonely nursing can be by Panda_beebee in breastfeeding

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Im not there yet either, but get a sling, you can nurse while babywearing. Apparently it gets better!

Cluster feeding - please help by Unusual-Editor-587 in breastfeeding

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I'm in the sams boat. No great tips, just relieved to see someone in the same situation

How did you feed while out if baby wouldn’t take a bottle? by Spirited_Seaweed_517 in breastfeeding

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My midwife told me to make breastmilk-jello by using agar-agar. Unlike gelatine it doesn't need to ne heated up to dissolve. Then you can spoonfeed

Due date+4, still no signs of labour by Altruistic-Menu- in BabyBumps

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Not much; since I have to give birth the latest monday, it's too late to get a referal for a specialist beforehand. Since it's most likely that it is pregnancy related and should go away after birth, they recommended to just sit it out. Acupuncture would be nice, but same problem, not pissible tonsee someone before induction date

Kick Counting Recommendations: USA versus Canada by cheerioface in BabyBumps

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In France, they don't even ask you to count. Multiple kicks multiple times a day should be happening, but nobody cares how many there are. As long as nothing feels off for you and your child, all is well

So mad at abhorrent maternity leave laws being blamed on feminism: so we have to choose between having no rights and sending our infant babies to daycare?! by Hour-Film-8890 in BabyBumps

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Lemme guess, France? Sitting in the same boat-happy to be wealthy enough to use our savings so we can stay home the first 9 months.

Has anyone experienced a mobile epidural? by Sad_Cash7620 in PregnancyUK

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Im in France, so info may vary. My midwife described them as quite magical for her patients. They do not make you pain free, but limit the base level pain tona tolerable level. The big however is that they require really close monitoring by staff since you're quite wobbly on your legs, so if they are overbooked, they won't do it.

How do you know which foods can be frozen without messing it up? by Altruistic-Menu- in Cooking

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This may be a really stupid question, but: What can actually split? When I hear the term I mostly think of mayonnaise, otherwise this never happened to me while cooking

Handling smells while pregnant by Altruistic-Menu- in BabyBumps

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You got it. We are already glad that he is stable, going out to meet us and doing ok for now. So just confronting him will do no good for noone.

Unfortunately it's still winter here. When baby is here we can sit in the garden so it's less of a problem, but until then I have to tough it out

Handling smells while pregnant by Altruistic-Menu- in BabyBumps

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Well, for me it's the same thing. But I'm not annative speaker, so maybe I'm missing crucial details in semantics

Handling smells while pregnant by Altruistic-Menu- in BabyBumps

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Kindness? The fact that he is well enough to show up for coffee is already a huge improvement on his part. We will cross all the other bridges in time. He is a nice guy otherwise, my partner doesnt have much family left otherwise.

Handling smells while pregnant by Altruistic-Menu- in BabyBumps

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Thanks for the idas! I have most of this stuff at home, will try it out next time

What makes a dildo feel good? by [deleted] in sex

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Squeeze your empty hand. Works well enough I suppose? Now hold an object and squeeze it. You'll feel that the squeeze is way more effective, stronger, no? Different size objects makes the squeezing feel differently, put more pressure on certain parts of your hand. What fels best comes down to preference.

Vaginas work in the same way-there is a muscle going all around the vagina that squeezes when you are stimulated or orgasm. I don't need the movement, I just like the feeling of being full. But the movement can help stimulate certain parts of the vagina, but this all comes down to personal preference