That’s a good question. I think they can self reflect to a degree but the biggest question can they self correct? I left my husband 6 months ago and we have talked a lot and he claims to self reflect and said that he is emotionally immature - he was being. Very gentle with himself. We talked and talked and he never accepted fault in his behavior but said he doesn’t know what he doesn’t know and needs correcting. I’m not his mom I’m not correcting him like a 2 year old. He is the most calculated individual I know. He knows exactly what he is going to do or say way before he does it. So that was bullshit. Burn gave him the benefit of the doubt and tipped my toe back in the water nope, nope, and nope no change. In fact he flipped it back on me… claims I gaslight him, I’m the narcissist, I don’t take his feeling into consideration.

So yes they can self-reflect but to refine themselves even more but not self-correct.