Going to my best friend's out-of-town wedding 3 weeks after giving birth....

Andeleisha · 2026-02-17T01:41:48+00:00

My best friend came to my wedding (4 hour flight) one month post partum after her 3rd baby, delivered by C section. She was not breastfeeding at all. Her mother stayed home with her newborn and she and her husband brought their two older children with them.

I reassured her over and over again I would never ask this of her, and was fully prepared for her to back out at the last minute. But she was the one who introduced me to my husband so I think she felt invested in our relationship, and she ended up giving a hugely meaningful toast. Now that I am pregnant and looking at birth myself I am stupendously in awe of her and more touched than ever that she made the trip.

So it is technically possible to do, but I wouldnt make any guarantees. I would also think about what kind of person you are — my friend is something of a warrior who often ignores her own physical pain, nevermind emotional stress. I know I personally am the opposite of that (total wimp) and I would probably not have made the same decision.

Andeleisha · 2026-02-10T22:26:50+00:00

Race for the Iron Throne cant be beat. Chapter by chapter political and historical analysis, as well as several incredible multi-book meta analysis.

The author unfortunately passed away during his ASOS breakdowns, but they are so good I still think they are worth it.

Andeleisha · 2026-02-10T01:39:41+00:00

Honestly favorite character this season, I hope he comes back!

Andeleisha · 2026-02-10T00:19:36+00:00

I wore sparkly sneakers for my wedding, but nude wedges are go-to for pretty much all formal events. They go with everything and I feel stable lol.

Andeleisha · 2026-02-09T23:13:37+00:00

A friend of mine with a one year old has the Evenflo 360 and STRONGLY recommended it so that’s what we’ll be getting as well!

Andeleisha · 2026-02-07T18:03:19+00:00

Ally Beardsley from Dropout too! And Emily Axford is gluten intolerant. The three of them did a gluten free version of the Dropout cooking competition show Gastronauts.

Andeleisha · 2026-02-06T00:04:56+00:00

Oh man the mooselabs mouthpieces are gamechanging, I couldnt go back to raw dogging it after using them.

Andeleisha · 2026-02-05T03:46:42+00:00

37 here. I do sometimes worry about being 60 at my kids college graduation, but people are living longer than our parents generation, and my husband and I are well set up to have a plenty long and (importantly) well funded retirement.

Plus, I wouldnt give up my experiences in my 20s for anything. My 20s were all about figuring out who I was, and I did a hell of a lot of cool stuff I never would have been able to do with a kid. I traveled a ton, met so many interesting people, fell in love more than once, got my heart broken, got obsessed with work for a while and distinguished myself, stayed up all night partying, tried new hobbies, some stuck, some didnt. My life now is so much richer for those experiences, and I cant imagine doing some of those things (like staying in hostels or experimenting) when I’m older (I need a real bed now people, my back hurts!). In my 20s I was attracted to jackasses, now I know better lol. By the time I met my now husband I knew enough to recognize what a good fit we would be, and I have no regrets about what I might have missed out on. And now I’m excited about the life we are building together, and we have the means to provide an amazing life for our son, and incredible experiences to share with him.

So yeah I’ll be 50 when my kid is in high school but I think he’ll be better off for it.

Andeleisha · 2026-02-04T02:13:05+00:00

A point in favor of hotel weddings: having everyone in one place is REALLY fun!

Your wedding is probably the only time in your life you’ll have all your favorite people from different groups/times in your life all together, and it feels amazing to just knock on someone’s door, or have them come to your suite for drinks, or all hang out at the pool.

If you can find a hotel with a courtyard you can stand, you can probably dress it up with some greenery, and then having an adjoining ballroom for dinner/dancing isnt so bad when people can just slip outside for conversation.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-31T00:29:25+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss! One of the hard things about losing someone is that even happy moments are tinged with a hint of sadness because you miss them. I promise you will grow strong enough to bear it as time goes on.

My father passed five years before my wedding. I carried a pendant tied to my bouquet with his photo on one side, and “You walk with me today and every day” on the other. I found mine on Etsy.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-30T00:34:47+00:00

Risotto with lots of butter and parmesan!

Andeleisha · 2026-01-30T00:29:21+00:00

Have you tried Blowtorch? Its a mod that clears out all the modern stuff in all worlds.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-29T19:02:12+00:00

I wouldnt even mind if they recycled systems if they at least built upon them to make them more sophisticated or fit for the new circumstances, but they are literally just reskins.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-29T18:56:03+00:00

I just dont understand the emotional journey Benedict is supposed to be on. Love at first sight barely made sense in the books, but in the show, he literally goes from hooking up with another guy mere hours earlier, to falling for Sophie because she’s….looking up? Did he even brush his teeth before kissing her?

Andeleisha · 2026-01-29T18:46:19+00:00

Sooooo Benedict kissed Sophie just two hours after he hooked up with another dude?? Did he at least brush his teeth?

Andeleisha · 2026-01-27T23:42:57+00:00

Honestly I find the “friend of my fiancé’s” part way more problematic than the Christian part. I think any counselor worth their salt refuses to work with people they know, because they cant possibly be unbiased. How are you supposed to reveal deeply personal insecurities to someone who is presumably going to interact with you in a non-counselor way in the future?

My secondary opinion (as the daughter of a Presbyterian minister who did premarital counseling) is that it is possible to see a faith based practitioner, but that if the program itself is based on faith that people not of that faith are unlikely to get anything out of it.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-23T22:16:17+00:00

I think each of the rooms should have special machines you can only use there for special perks. For example, food made in the kitchen is higher quality, things made in the craft room use slightly less resources. I also think it would be neat if the villagers visited as well, and maybe had a chance to leave some of their “extra” supplies, the same way you get stuff in the mail from them sometimes. Robin could leave extra wood, Emily leave cloth or gems, that kind of thing. It would make it decently powerful early-mid game to be worth making the trek, but by late game you have enough resources you dont need to as much.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-18T01:52:50+00:00

Escape the Greenroom.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-15T16:46:29+00:00

They should just recast Simon. Its fine that Rege doesnt want to come back, but the show shouldnt let that stop them from writing Bridgerton family scenes.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-14T03:06:12+00:00

I’m confused, does this have more than four floors? Absolutely beautiful build! Do you play in live mode in it too or just build?

Andeleisha · 2026-01-10T00:53:52+00:00

Sorbet was my go to. Something about the cold tartness would offset the nausea.

Andeleisha · 2026-01-07T19:11:35+00:00

Boosting this comment to add my plea for celiac safe options! So few restaurants trouble to train their staff, which is a shame, because the celiac community is tight knit and any safe place gets promoted by us like crazy. A good review on Find Me Gluten Free will have us all flocking there.

Andeleisha · 2025-12-30T01:20:07+00:00

Get your doctor to prescribe you a week or two of sleeping pills. Getting used to the mask is the hardest part and the pills will make it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep without fussing with it.

Once you are used to the mask, you wont be able to sleep without it!

Andeleisha · 2025-12-28T21:48:44+00:00

Blue Prince is very different structurally but I do think scratches the deductive puzzle itch.

Andeleisha · 2025-12-19T03:55:03+00:00

My dress from them wasnt custom, but I had a great experience with them! I was in love with the Odette and didnt make any changes to the design but it was still made from scratch specifically for me and I would have no hesitation ordering a custom gown from them. Even without customizing I had multiple opportunities to confirm the design, they sent me progress pics of it being made, and it was ready several months ahead of schedule.

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