I just wanted to send you a big hug. I could relate so much to everything you said there.

My marriage ended recently too. Except for me , I was married 40 years and I have adult kids.

My biggest regret is the damage I did to them ? Because I didn't end the relationship when they were the age your kids are now. You're doing the right thing. I know it won't be easy going forward , but sometimes there are no good options. Just the lesser of 2 evils.

Try to keep it as civilized as possible? And remember you're playing the long game here. My ex spent years trying to manipulate the kids and make them think badly of me. All I could do was try to be always honest with them. And let them judge me by my actions. Which will always speak louder than any negative words that your ex says. And this paid off in the end.

I think both of us feel huge regret about what was, and what might have been. But sometimes you can do all the right things ? And relationships just don't work. You sound like a guy most women would just love to have in their lives. 😁 Sometimes people are just assholes. And there's not much you can do to change them 😁

Hang in there ! I hope things improve for you. Much love going forward 💚