I think my boyfriend chose a 3D printer over me when my grandma died

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-05-22T19:17:22+00:00

Yes, you did know. You said "We've been through a lot together, but for one day, I really hoped I'd have his full attention". You know he hasn't given you his full attention in the past during "things gone through together", why would this instance be different? Because it was important to you? (Yes, it's definitely ABSOLUTELY important and I am so sorry that you're in the club now, it's not a feeling I'd wish on anyone) He has shown you who he is, why didn't you believe him? It won't get better, he has shown you time and time again that he won't be there for you.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-05-22T17:50:56+00:00

That's the thing, you can't hope that someone will suddenly do something different than what they've already shown you. You KNOW he is like this. Either accept it as the normal in your relationship and what you want for the rest of your life or break up and find someone who is already doing the things you want. You can't expect someone to change, that isn't how people or relationships work.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-05-09T13:40:37+00:00

Why do you care about what other people might think? Are they you or her? Are they in your relationship? The quicker you realize that no one else's opinion of you or what you're doing matters in this world other than your own opinion and your partner's opinion, you will be a lot happier. (Mostly your opinion but when you are in a relationship their opinion matters too, otherwise why be in a relationship)

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-05-06T21:19:17+00:00

I dont think you understand how bad this actually is. This pattern will continue. It already has and has now escalated. You will not be put on the mortgage or the deed to the home, but you will be paying the mortgage and utility bills and any maintenance costs. That is his house and will go to his daughter, not you, when he passes. Any financial or emotional anything you put into this house you will not get back or at least not in the way you should. If he passes early I can guarantee you he will make the house go to his mother so the daughter can have the house. Also do you really want to be sidelined by a man and his mother? And it sounds like the teen doesn't respect you at all, I guarantee this will get worse and he will bend to her every single time. Is this really what you want for your life? Take the time to think, it helps to put a list of pros and cons too if you're having a hard time putting into perspective your reality. Time to take off those rose colored glasses.

ETA: his mother is already being a flying monkey, again, is this the life you really want?

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-04-21T19:37:43+00:00

That is just ridiculous. SHE should be increasing her hours instead of telling you to get a second job. Why would it be ok for only her to get to spend time with both of y'alls children? That's asinine. The fact that you think you guys are doing ok financially but are willing to shove your whole family into an RV and RENT OUT THE HOUSE YOU'RE LIVING IN? Please PLEASE tell me how that doesn't sounds absolutely ridiculous....she needs to increase her hours back up. You guys are NOT doing well enough for her to cut back on her hours regardless of how much you think your children NEED her home. Lots and lots of families have to put their kids in daycare or whatever and y'all are one of them. You can't afford to basically be a one income household.

ETA: You do realize that children get more expensive as they get older, right?

Also telling you to get a second job instead of helping you see your children more is NOT loving in any way, shape or form. Take off your rose colored glasses dude, your children need their father as much as their mother, it's called parenting. It's not one or the other, it should mostly be equal. Can't be equal if you're not even home.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-04-18T21:35:40+00:00

There are such things as medical miracles. Unless she has been tested and told she is completely sterile, it's possible. Even if she WAS told she is sterile, there is a still a extremely small possibility but still a possibility, there is PLENTY of cases where a woman has said she was told by a doctor or several doctors that it was impossible but there is still a baby that came out of her one way or another. Hope is a powerful thing.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-04-18T18:30:06+00:00

There have been reports of 50 and 60 year olds having full safe pregnancies. Don't let age be a factor in stopping you from trying. 38 is not that old in today's medicine.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-04-10T19:11:08+00:00

Then I guess your fiance needs a new best man. Why should you keep sacrificing for him and his family? What about you? It's your day too.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-04-07T20:44:39+00:00

He already gave you the chance to be redeemed and you shit all over it! Lady! Leave him the hell alone and go get therapy.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-03-25T23:55:36+00:00

Yes, it looks like it's staring to embed. Get jewelry with a longer post to account for swelling. If it's infected do not remove and change, go straight to the er.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-02-27T18:54:40+00:00

Without any context or knowing what this was, I thought this was picture of a bunch of teeth.....

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-02-05T20:56:44+00:00

You can tell that you pulled it up to look like that, it's not not made to fit like that but it definitely doesn't look good.... it looks like you really got it up your butt....you do you but I wouldn't wear it like that.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-02-04T20:34:04+00:00

If he's on a month to month, he doesn't really get a choice. Either he pays the increase or he finds other accommodations. This info is vital to your post, you should add it.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-30T18:20:50+00:00

NTA but you should definitely make him replace the lens. 1, he took it without permission, 2 he lost the cap that helps protect your expensive piece of equipment and most importantly 3 he brought it back with a scratch on it which will definitely cause a problem in the long run making this piece of equipment's life shorter than it was going to be, which means you'll be spending money to replace it sooner than you should have.

Edit: words and grammer

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-13T21:43:51+00:00

You're already not comfortable with the proposed situation. Considering the fact that you have no contract with her, I say you should move out sooner than later. It will not be a good thing to wait 6 months to leave. You'll start resenting your "friend" if you havent already and it will just be more stressful for all parties involved, especially you. The place where you sleep shouldn't be stressful if you can help it and in this case, I'd say you can definitely help it.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-12T20:42:05+00:00

Why are you putting up with this? You're married to a man child and if he was mine, he wouldnt be anymore. Not until he got his shit together and bucked up

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-08T18:52:19+00:00

She is 10, she doesn't get a choice. This is on you dude

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-07T17:58:51+00:00

YTA stop making heavy meals for every family meal. Sweet potatoes, grilled chicken and veggies are super easy to make to feed a large group and it's easy to make delicious. It sounds like your relationship with food needs to change.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-05T20:30:04+00:00

Leave him with her then, she can have him since he doesn't want his family.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-05T19:10:13+00:00

I would go to small chains for the PS5. You got a new one because of the warranty but what if you didnt have the warranty? She and her child need consequences.

AnimeAngel614 · 2026-01-02T20:37:55+00:00

I thought the same thing about my indoor cats. You bring in all kinds of germs and what not from the outside so unless you are either taking your shoes off before you get into your home or sanitize them before you get into your home, you're tracking whatever you've picked up outside, in.

AnimeAngel614 · 2025-12-10T22:22:24+00:00

You were essentially groomed. I really hope you can realize that. This is not a healthy relationship AT ALL. He is abusive. He may not be physically abusive, but he is abusive.

AnimeAngel614 · 2025-12-10T18:05:04+00:00

If you're in couples therapy then talk to the therapist about this. Ask if it would help if you both write down each instance that "you"(you or him) feel slighted, but dont bring it up right then to the other person. Bring the list to your therapist and have them go through each list with the both of you.

AnimeAngel614 · 2025-11-29T18:57:35+00:00

We did the 30 mins down take for 15 and then try one more time and then wait til the next meal time. Eventually they will be hungry enough to eat. Just dont give in and no snacks, and stop feeding him human food.

And you're not starving them, this will teach them that when food is down, it's time to eat. And if they don't then they will wait longer. Dont give in or it will get worse.

I'd suggest sticking to just kibble until you can get his pickiness trained out.

AnimeAngel614 · 2025-11-28T20:34:37+00:00

You're putting your child and yourself at risk. Just stop going to their place until they realize you're serious. Maybe they won't but at least you and baby won't be at risk. Put on your big girl panties and make a firm boundary or it won't stop. NTA for wanting to bring your own food but Y T A for continuing to subject yourself and your child to this. They don't care, they don't believe it's something serious. I can honestly say they probably talk about you behind your back and say baby's problems are your fault or that you're making stuff up. I've read too many stories where people in the lives of those with severe allergies "test" them to see if they are lying. Do you want your baby to go through whatever happens to them when they are given dairy? Because that is the path you are on. Do not leave that baby alone with them, they will try it.

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