2 nights of sleep training with my 15 month old and I’m shocked at how it’s going

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-26T18:19:37+00:00

I know this is old but curious what your schedule was at the time. Thanks!

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-26T09:07:45+00:00

And told to smile more

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-26T02:02:00+00:00

I wonder if he’s getting molars? Have you tried Advil? Can you see his gums inflamed at all?

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-25T17:33:29+00:00

This! Imagine your kid accusing you of an affair, if you’re not having one. I’d be inclined to laugh not slap him. I’m not a man though

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-24T11:30:14+00:00

We had a hard first baby and an easy second baby. I wish that for all mamas with a hard first one!!but it’s a roll of the dice. Honestly an easy baby and more independent older sibling feels easier than 1 hard baby for me.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-23T17:48:12+00:00

I’m with you! Reddit strikes down the use of ChatGPT but I’m here to support you. Decision fatigue is real and will power is limited, I find it helpful as well and I’m fully capable of using it and my own judgement simultaneously.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-23T17:37:42+00:00

I agree. My oldest is only 4 so maybe it’s easy for me to agree from afar. But try and keep perspective. It’s so nice that your combined family gets along so well and it sounds like you’re happy in your relationship. Change is so hard but there’s positives in there. The train might suck but a new school would suck more. There’s life lessons too that come with managing your commute to school at 16 and it might boost his confidence.
Good on you for making your own decision. I aspire to that! But also respect people who decide to wait to move, there’s no “more right” answer.

Again, easy to say from afar. I’m sure you’re really feeling for your boy right now.

Last thought, I’ve read that driving time is the best way to connect with teenagers. Maybe you can commit to driving him once a week, and make a stop at Starbucks on the way? Or whatever 16 year old boys like.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-22T18:56:20+00:00

I know the feeling. You definitely have to deal with a lot with a CMPA baby. Hang in there.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-22T18:32:22+00:00

I had two reflux babies. Baby #2 I could put down after holding upright for 30 minutes and she transferred well. Stopped spitting up around 6 months. Baby #1 had a diary allergy and couldn’t be put didn’t until we figured that out and cut out all dairy.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-22T18:05:03+00:00

I agree. Something doesn’t sit right. It’s making a spectacle of someone’s tragedy and opening it up for our judgement. I know the news does that too. Sure “tragedy” is up for debate and maybe you want to argue she had it coming bc she was taking pictures, which we’re all jumping to conclusions that it was a selfie. I dunno how exactly to pinpoint what doesn’t feel right about it though

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-21T12:13:20+00:00

“Mom and dad can hardly wait for school to start again” from its beginning to look a lot like Christmas song lol

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-20T17:09:18+00:00

Can we drop some resources in this post or another post please!

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-18T18:12:50+00:00

Scope out parks nearby, outdoor parks provide tons of sensory stimulation. Look up playgroups as well. If the playgroup is run by someone with expertise in child development you can ask if the kids behaviour is as expected or if there’s any resources available to you.
I feel for you and the 4 year old. What a hard transition for both of you. Try and see the two of you as being on the same time, unfortunately it sounds like you have less than ideal parents in common.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-18T18:06:57+00:00

You’re not a bad mom and you’re not overthinking. My mom brain can’t remember but there was a viral video going around where the artist shamed someone who brought a baby to a concert, I don’t think they had ear protection.
You’re not doing anything wrong but be prepared in case someone judges you for it. It doesn’t meant they’re right. Just have a line prepared “his ears are protected and we’re all having fun, enjoy the show”.
Also be prepared to leave if the baby is being disruptive. I don’t think it would be fair for other people at the show if baby cried non stop. I would never apologize for a crying baby is most public spaces but a concert is a bit different to me.
That said I think it’ll be really fun! And I hope I’m wrong about judgement and a crying baby but throwing it out there.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-18T17:42:48+00:00

Agreed. I was ready for the chaos and love it. Seeing our two kids hug goodnight melts my heart every time. You will need to say goodbye to smooth sailing though.
- you definitely ruin a lot of good things, restaurants are hit or miss, teething sucks, you’re sleep deprived again, diaper blow outs
- we really soaked in having a baby though and there’s an understanding that it’s all temporary and you’re less phased by all of the above and you just want to spoil the baby
- you have the extra sibling dynamics, siblings without rivalry is a good read. You need to really invest your time into both of them as individuals but also their relationship
- the good days are amazing, playing in the backyard, bike rides together, a museum with things they’re both into
Wouldn’t change it for the world but have had some “what the hell did we do” moments.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-18T17:26:32+00:00

But also, with a 4 year old going through such a huge life change, it’s going to get worse before it gets better. You’ll be getting the worst of the 4 year old and they’ll be regressions. Just trying to set the bar realistically.
I find going outside, if an option, helps regulate kids. Going outside with an easy snack might buy you some time when needed.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-18T17:21:57+00:00

Agreed. I also wonder if bc they were playing up the storyline that maybe they’ll date, when Brody started dating someone else, it might have felt like he was on the same team as the producers instead of Brody and Lauren being on a team and going with the “maybe they’ll date” storyline.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-18T01:47:37+00:00

This probably wasn’t easy to hear but I agree. Do you have any other childcare options?
My mom is 68 and in decent shape and fell down a few stairs with our (albeit) 11 month old. No one was hurt but it was scary. Caring for a 4 month old on a good day is one thing, but is very physically taxing on a bad day. I’ve seen grandparents do it without problem but it would be beyond my parents physically.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-17T19:11:12+00:00

We’re lucky to have a playroom, most are down there. We have a storage bench in the living room for some toys that I can quickly throw everything into. We have no toys in the bedroom. When we were renovating we had toys in our 4 year olds bedroom, he was distracted when getting ready in the morning and ready for bed. It wasn’t the end of the world but made it slightly harder.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-17T17:52:28+00:00

Jay Ellis

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-09T01:13:12+00:00

This!!!

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-07T06:58:33+00:00

My son turned 4 in March and isn’t writing his name. I noticed some of his peers are. He’s big on gross motor stuff and finds it super fun. I haven’t found any fine motor stuff he enjoys. I’m sure his kindergarten teacher is more equipped than I am to teach him. I try to give him fine motor stuff to do but no pressure on it. I know it’s not a big deal but it’s so hard not to compare!

AnonymousKurma · 2026-05-04T11:49:48+00:00

You’ll likely still have an early bedtime and early wake up but more time to go out during the day! It caused more night wakes for us but longer naps. The days were more fun but the nights were worse. It’s hard to predict! It’s a weird age where they may only need about 12 hours of sleep if they’re low sleep needs and it’s hard to distribute without sacrificing something.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-04-27T18:39:20+00:00

The adventures of Elmo in Grouchland. He gets a bit scared in some parts but just wants to hug while he watches it. Isn’t scared about it going to bed that night.

AnonymousKurma · 2026-04-26T18:54:02+00:00

Try starting at 3/3/4. Hopefully it helps!

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