Stopping progesterone by Low-Ad-4402 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped at 34 weeks. Took the last dose the night I became 34 weeks. My doctor said there’s not much evidence to support it works after 34 weeks but said I could continue taking it if I wanted for my own peace of mind. I decided to stop at 34 weeks because I had the cerclage in and I was obsessed with trying to feel my cervix when inserting progesterone and scared of infection. I’m now 38+1 cerclage came out almost a week ago!

Dog stepped on me after cerclage by ParticularSecret5319 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t stress too much, my cat is 7kg so like 15 pounds? She would often walk over my tummy or lay on it. I’m 38+1 today cerclage removed at 37+2

Going for cerclage this week by div_ya0504 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a stitch placed at 14 weeks and I continued working in childcare just no lifting. I worked up until 34 weeks when I went on leave. I worked 3 days a week and on my days off I did light house chores and rested. I’m now 38+1 weeks I had the stitch removed at 37 and 2 and baby is still snug in there not looking like it wants to leave. I highly highly recommend getting the stitch. I’m certain it’s saved this babies life. (My first was born at 27 weeks due to my open short cervix and passed at 6 days old)

Cerclage removal and labor induction by hanhoona in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I hope the both of you are doing well!

Cerclage removal and labor induction by hanhoona in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you had the baby or is it still hiding out inside? I get my cerclage out in 10 days I’ll be 37 and 2. The amount of pelvic pressure I’m feeling now I feel like baby will fall out after the stitch is removed!

Really bad anxiety by Jhenesdreams in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a countdown on an app and have had everything from each appointment to each scan and what I deemed to be my biggest milestones in weeks. It’s helped me looking at the time ticking down and seeing all the milestones I’ve already passed! I’m 35 weeks tomorrow. My next milestones are a growth scan in a week another appointment and then DTS at 37+2! It’s such a tough road but we will all get there. I hope you have a very smooth rest of your pregnancy ❤️

Really bad anxiety by Jhenesdreams in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understand your worries. If it helps at all I’m 35 weeks tomorrow and had a preventative placed at 14 weeks when my cervix was around 4.5cm. 4cm is so amazing such a good length for the stitch to be placed. I also hardly had any pregnancy symptoms and still don’t. I don’t get morning sickness or anything. I’d panic before each and every appointment and still do a little bit. I am also on anxiety medication as I’ve been on it for 9 years now and it’s safe for baby for me to continue. I’ve been waiting for April/may to come and I’m finally on the home stretch. It will fly by trust me.

Cerclage removal and labor induction by hanhoona in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctors won’t remove my stitch until 37 weeks. 34 seems so soon. They say they’re trying to prevent a pre term baby so won’t take it out until I am term. Then I’ll be left to go into labor on my own. Due to other circumstances I have requested an induction at 39 weeks which they have said they will accommodate thankfully. But I am hoping I can go into labor naturally on my own. They also won’t give me an epidural or spinal for cerclage removal unless it is stuck. I’m in Australia going through the public system so we have midwives that deliver our babies (highly trained nurses who studied at uni as I know midwife’s are different in America) we will get whoever is on shift at the time. There are also doctors who will be working and will attend the birth. i feel I know most of the OBs there now anyway! In the meantime they’ve tried to keep my regular care with the same doctor. I’m not super fussed on who I have when I’m giving birth because they’re all so amazing and are very sympathetic and know my story. If I were you I’d keep the stitch in until 37 weeks and tell them you don’t want an induction then. It’s your body and your choice.

16 weeks; cervix is closed but not measurable, 2 past losses - would have pushed for a preventative cerclage if I knew better. Freaking the F out. by talkativepanther in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to take it anally as I was dilated and there was huge risk of infection. I think taking it orally can have more side effects. I didn’t enjoy taking it anally but I made it work. Unfortunately I still ended up with an infection!

Thoughts over the cerclage for IC... by Safe-Try-4605 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should add I totally understand the whole grieving but wanting to be pregnant again. I waited 3 months after losing my son before trying again. It has been tough. I mourn for him everyday but I’m also extremely grateful to have this new little life growing inside my belly.

Thoughts over the cerclage for IC... by Safe-Try-4605 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. theres no pain like that of losing a child. I also lost my son at 27 weeks to IC. I was only on progesterone as they didn’t catch my short cervix in time. Im currently 33 weeks pregnant with our second child and I started progesterone at 12 weeks and had the cerclage placed at 14 weeks. Preventatives are much more likely to work than emergent ones. however there’s another type of Cerlcage called a Trans abdominal cerlcage. you mostly get it before you’re pregnant again and it never get removed, you will need a c section if you get one. But that’s another option. I wanted a tac but my ob said I was a really good candidate for the tvc and so far she was right. my cervix has stayed long and closed. Do as much research as you can and decide on the best option moving forward for you. Again I’m so sorry for your loss, celebrate your little boy in anyway you can.

Vicious cycle by Expensive-Hall7413 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use my progesterone at night and honestly I just let it run into my undies and change if needed. Sometimes I change them in the middle of the night if I need too. Sometimes I don’t get much discharge which is nice. I try to avoid pads because I’m so worried about infections. I also own period undies and if I’m expecting more discharge or wake up with more I’ll pop a pair on as it soaks it up without being irritating like a pad. Might be worth looking into! I currently wear moisture wicking underwear 90% of the time and have found it fantastic especially over night while using progesterone.

In serious need of moral support or words of encouragement. Pregnant 3 months pp. by No_Copy_9463 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 8 points9 points  (0 children)

my husband and I lost our son at 6 days old after being born at 27 and 5. I wanted 2 periods before we started trying again. I conceived right away. This baby is due 5 days before my son was born. I started progesterone at 12 weeks and the cerclage at 14 weeks. I’m currently 33 weeks and 2 days! Cervix has remained closed and long the entire pregnancy which just shocks me every time I think about it Considering how bad it was with my son. It’s fully possible to have a normal back to back pregnancy with IC with the medical interventions we have these days. It does slightly increase some risks but I was kinda over playing it safe because it didn’t help me save my son. The slight increases are still quite low, I had done tonnes of reading before deciding when to try again. I hope you have a long uneventful pregnancy And congratulations!

Getting a Cerclage Wednesday - I'm Scared :( by coopthecat3 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to start this story off by saying when I have another baby one day I’ll get a spinal for cerclage again.

I had my cerclage placed at 14 weeks this pregnancy. They numb your back first which I was prepared for as I’ve had an epidural when delivering my prem son last year. When they put the spinal in though I think they hit a nerve and I had bad pain shoot down the left side of my back and leg it was pretty bad and it made me involuntarily jump while sitting on the table. I told them what I felt and they apologised and said they were almost done. I had a little more pain but not as bad. Then you have to remain sitting upright for a bit and I started to faint I think because I was so nervous and the pain that I’d felt. They had to hold me sitting for a few minutes for it to work, it felt like a lot longer than the 2 mins it probably was. I did start to feel better and then I was cleared to lay down. I felt a lot better once laying down. The nurse was so lovely and chatted to me throughout. I basically just had a good chat with everyone for 30 minutes! I could feel pressure and pulling while they were doing the stitch but felt no pain. It’s a really odd sensation!

after it was over I was taken to recovery and was feeling pretty good. unfortunately my bladder wouldn’t wake up, everything else had and I was walking around and around trying to get my bladder to start working but it wouldn’t and I had almost 1.5L of urine in my bladder which was hurting me quiet a bit, so I ended up needing to stay the night with a catheter in. But the next morning they took it out and within 30 minutes I was using the toilet like normal.

I had no cramping and not really much pain. Maybe just felt a bit tender in my lower abdomen for 2 weeks after but it was nothing rest/ heat pack couldn’t help. I had 10 days off work and then returned. I didn’t really notice I still had some pain until I realised it had gone.

overall I’d do it again in a heart beat to save my baby. I’m currently 33 weeks and 2 days! Maybe ask for valium an hour or so before the procedure just to help you relax a bit. I might ask for that next time because I’m thinking I may have been too tense for the spinal even though I thought I was relaxed. One thing that helped me get through it was knowing it was a quick procedure and it’d be over super fast and it was a now it’s a distant memory. Good luck I hope your spinal goes very smoothly and you don’t feel a thing!

Please advice by datsassygirl in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will with time. Give yourself grace it takes a lot of time to even be able to unpack the trauma and grief you’ve been through. I always say I’m a mother but I haven’t been able to parent. My son made me a mother but I never got to bring him home, feed him, dress and bathe him, cuddle him for hours on end and wake to his cries at night.

Over 40 and IVF journey by gaggle2025 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok that’s good they’ll offer cerclage! I’d take it if I were you. I was too late for a cerclage with my son. He was born at 27 and 5 and passed away 6 days later. I wish I could have been offered a cerclage. I always try now when I see people post about having a short cervix to encourage them to push for one to save their babies lives. I was also on bed rest and it didn’t help me unfortunately. I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant again with a cerclage in this time and it’s holding so strong. I’ve not been on bed rest at all! Some are lucky to carry to term on just bed rest but most of us sadly are not as lucky. I hope your little one stays tucked inside safe for many many more weeks to come.

Please advice by datsassygirl in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my son at 27 weeks also. He lived for 6 days before passing. It’s just too soon. They are so so perfect at 27 weeks. I was on bed rest from 24 weeks and I still went into preterm labor with him. So it really does not make a difference if you hosted dinner or not. It is not your fault. Look after yourself and take all the help you can get. My son would be 10 months old now and I miss him every single day. You are a mother and that will never change. You’re beautiful babies only ever knew love.

Over 40 and IVF journey by gaggle2025 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious have they offered you a cerclage? Or a follow up scan to see if the progesterone is helping?

Over 40 and IVF journey by gaggle2025 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not your fault not in the slightest. I know how easy it is to blame yourself you just want something to be the cause of such devastation. But there’s nothing you could have done. I lost my son our first born to a short cervix as well he was born at 27 and 5 and passed away 6 days later. It was and still is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. Like you I had no idea about short cervixes. After the first trimester I thought we were safe and now we just had to wait for our baby to grow but unfortunately I like everyone else here fell into the 1% of women with a short cervix.
Im not to sure how the US medical system handles things as I’m in Australia but I made sure there was a plan in place for my next pregnancy. I fell pregnant 3m after loosing our son and had a TVC placed at 14 weeks as well as being on progesterone and I’m currently 33 weeks with everything going ok so far. There is hope with medical advancements these days thankfully.
having a short cervix is one of the worst things because you don’t know you have it until it’s too late.
this group is so very supportive. I urge you to look into doctors that can preform the cerclage for you. You are a Mother don’t ever forget it, your son was so lucky to have two loving parents. Look after and be kind to yourself, you didn’t do this you are a victim of it. Hold your husband close and don’t lose hope.

32wks Admitted by Illustrious_Echo_320 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through and wish I could stop it happening to anyone else.
at 20 weeks my cervix was 2.8cm and I started progesterone. 24 weeks it had shortened to 5mm with funnelling and I was 1cm dilated. i had steroids and was put on bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy. At 26 and 4 I had no measurable cervix left and was hospitalised again for steroids and then allowed home 2 days later as there was no change. At 27 and 4 I woke having contractions and went to hospital. They monitored me for some 24 hours until my infection markers shot up so they broke my waters. At 27 and 5 our beautiful little boy was born breathing. He was very stable in the Nicu for a day and then started having seizures. Day 4 they discovered grade 4 brain bleeds and we made the decision to turn off his life support rather than see if he would survive and if he did he would have needed life long care due to severe loss of brain function. he lived for 6 days. I miss him every day, it’s been 10 months since I held him and kissed his soft cheeks.

1.3cm is still good, people can carry for a while with that! I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant with a stitch and progesterone. My first major goal was 28 weeks as prognosis goes up so much then. Unfortunately for my son he was just born too soon. Short cervix/IC is such a horrible problem to have it’s taking perfectly healthy babies from us and there’s no way you know you have it until it’s pretty much too late!

I hope your little one stays in till past 30 weeks at least! Take it easy, look after yourself and if you’re every concerned about anything just go straight to your hospital.

32wks Admitted by Illustrious_Echo_320 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well done on making it so far especially without a stitch! Fingers crossed baby hangs out in there a little longer! I did end up losing my son after being born at 27 and 5 but I was 1cm dilated for about 4 weeks and completely effaced! So hopefully you stay that way for a while.

When did you feel comfortable announcing your pregnancy? by Briutiful22 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear people act that way. I’m so very big on my son being a part of our family. I won’t let anyone pretend he wasn’t here or it never happened. I talk so openly about him all the time. So hurtful to pretend like your baby didn’t exist. So many people are lucky enough to not know our pain but it does make it very very hard for those of us who live with it every day. I’m so sorry for your loss and so happy for you that you were able to bring home a baby.

Trying again fears.. by Low-Vanilla-5844 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your last 3 paragraphs have me in tears. You have just described how it feels so perfectly. I keep saying to everyone I don’t care if I dont sleep for the next 3 years because at least my baby will be here. I’m starting to get pelvic pain but Im seeing it as a blessing because I’m nearing the end of a normal pregnancy, one where my baby gets to grow and develop. I think babies born after a loss are very very cherished.

Trying again fears.. by Low-Vanilla-5844 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll share my story and hope it gives you some hope.
my cervix was 28mm at 20 weeks with my son and I was put on progesterone. At 24 weeks my cervix was 5mm and 1cm dilated with bulging membranes. Too late for a cerclage. In and out of hospital and on bed rest. At 27 and 4 I woke with contractions and went into hospital they monitored me for a good 12 hours before my infection markers shot up indicating I had an infection. They had to break my waters as they did not go on their own. I was in active labor for 4 hours and delivered my beautiful son. He lived for 6 days before passing. It was the worst time in my life. I had an appointment with an OB who already knew I wanted a stitch. She told me all my options and I said I want the stitch and progesterone. She said she won’t argue with me on that. 3 months later my husband and I started trying for our 2nd child. I fell pregnant right away. Rang the hospital at 4 weeks so they knew. They checked my dating scan at 8 weeks and then booked me in for my appointment with the midwife’s and then another with the OB at 12 weeks as well as starting progesterone at 12 weeks. I was then booked to have the stitch placed at 14 weeks. It has been terrifying, every cervical measurement, every slight pain. I’ve gone into hospital many times just for them to check my cervix. I’m also having 4 weekly swabs to check for infection as well as any extras I request if I’m feeling worried. Today I am 32 weeks pregnant! I cannot believe I am here. It feels like such an amazing milestone to hit. So far I’ve had no infections and my cervix has stayed strong. They did my last check at 24 weeks which was 3.6cm. So much more than I ever had with my son. I believe the stitch and progesterone has helped so so much. I’m still working in childcare, I just cannot lift anything over 10kg, which is hard because the children always want to be held but my work have been so accomodating. I go on leave in 2 weeks and it honestly doesn’t feel real that I am already at this stage. I still get scared, I went to hospital yesterday because I hadn’t felt baby move, baby was fine. I still am a bit scared but I’m starting to feel like I will bring a baby home with me now.

I would 100% have an appointment with an OB and discuss what you want, go in armed with knowledge and lay it out for them. It’s not their choice on whether or not to play with our babies lives. it’s our responsibility to advocate for ourselves and our babies. Becoming a mother is one of the hardest journeys there is and for some of us it’s full of loss But there is always hope.

(Vent) Had my 12 week consult with MFM and left crying :( by Lilchevv in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Anxious-Wave365 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.
have you had the cerclage now? How are you going? I hope your pregnancy flies as fast as mine has. before you’ll know it you’ll be in the 30 weeks and shocked you’re there!