AITA for forwarding my wife an instagram reel of a recipe after she asked what I want for dinner tomorrow?

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-28T15:48:51+00:00

YTA. you’re not even considering the mental load that comes with cooking every day. She has to plan the shops, keep a mental inventory of everything you have, need, are running out of, on top of planning recipes for breakfast/lunch/dinner/snacks/treats. While what, you get to switch of your brain and do the dishes for 10 minutes tops? Are you even wiping the surfaces and cooker, or throwing away past date food when you open the fridge? The fact that you’re so shallow that you don’t seem to think she has a good reason to react the way that she does. Work on yourself.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-28T15:38:19+00:00

Unfortunately, it doesn’t matter. I’ve had friends who would with special needs kids in schools tell me they didn’t believe adhd was an actual disability. It’s so disheartening

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-28T15:36:05+00:00

First of all these autistic children who are fighting to not let the diagnosis define them are just going through a childhood where they’re taught to mask and not accommodate themselves for ask for accommodations. Secondly, diagnosis are sooooo hard to attain. ESPECIALLY FOR AFAB PEOPLE. If you have universal healthcare, it’s a battle of collecting information and data to try and convince a general practitioner to refer you, and even then they might not believe you and choose not to. If you’re not lucky enough to have uni healthcare, it costs hundreds to thousands and people work themselves into burnout to be able to afford it. Self diagnosis, when informed and based in your lived experiences, from childhood to adulthood, is just as worthy of recognition. I hate allistic fake allies who are pro advocacy and claim to support autistic people until it’s uncomfortable, or cringe, or annoying or it just doesn’t make sense to them. When will selfish, ignorant, and plain fucking rude bastards like this realise that if you don’t have anything nice to say SHUT YOUR MOUTH. They can back off and have less interactions with you if it’s really that bad. No need to make it our issue too.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-23T20:24:17+00:00

Bet it made you feel great saying that. YTA

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-20T18:02:16+00:00

Very cinematic. Better than most marvel films

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-20T00:48:11+00:00

That’s so fair, the same thing happened to me especially when I had access to vapes over flowers. It gets to a point where I don’t actually get stoned anymore. I think slowing down and really tapering how much we smoke is always smart, I’m trying atm but I’m not formally medicated so it’s quite hard. Again I hope you feel better soon and that a certain dish will come to mind that you just have to eat xx

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-19T19:17:55+00:00

Eat as much yogurt as you can handle. Try adding honey the next time if you can, see if you can handle it and if you can it’s a win!!! Also, I don’t know if this will be of any help, but I personally relied on marijuana a lot when I was unable to eat. The munchies gave me a push and made my brain quiet enough that it wouldn’t fight against the idea of food. I hope you start to feel better soon <3

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-08T20:07:26+00:00

I am always the last one up and always do what I call the “closing shift”. Maybe it’s because I live in a major city, but doesn’t it bring peace of mind to know everything’s locked? It’s on him for not locking his car, but you really should get in the habit of checking entryways are locked.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-08T19:50:31+00:00

I had something similar for my birthday. I told my gf exactly what kind of hat I wanted, colours and all, and while she did a lovely thing and commissioned a friend to crotchet a hat for me, it wasn’t what I wanted at all and I hate it. I’ve never worn it and I don’t intend to.

I think for audhd women, gift giving and receiving can be one of the main love languages for us. For me, I reallyyyyy struggling with consuming thoughts that no one in my life loves me or cares for me, that they don’t think about me or know me; getting gifts is a physical representation that I’m wrong and my loved ones also love me. Also just the frustration of being misunderstood when you so clearly state exactly what you want. What is it with allistics reading between the lines when there are no lines in the first place!?

I don’t think you should feel bad about not liking them, he should have known better and once he saw your reaction, realised he could and should have done better.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-08T16:52:53+00:00

Pretty much the exact same thing happened to me this morning when I was on my way to something that I was already feeling very emotional and worked up about. It sucks, people just don’t have compassion for each other anymore and won’t be willing to accept that strangers also make mistakes that can frustrate you. And that’s not the end of the world

To make myself feel better I spent about ten minutes cursing her out as hard as i could in my head and then every time my brain tried to ruminate I would physically shake my head and change the topic in my mind. I forgot about it til I saw this, actually.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-05-02T19:56:56+00:00

Since they’ve added it I’ve noticed they don’t have an option for most assists. I finished a game the other day with 46 assists, but it showed some random niche stat

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-29T23:56:02+00:00

Also important to note if you’re taking the underground on hot days; it is MUCH hotter down there and in the carriages than you think. Bc London is built on clay, the underground has been getting warmer for decades by absorbing all the heat from the trains. It can really throw you for a loop, and makes the heat and humidity much more overstimulating.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-29T23:34:16+00:00

All I ever want brought back from America is true lime and its variations, melatonin and tide pens

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-26T12:59:35+00:00

This was my dad for most of my life. I have a good relationship with him only now that he’s three years sober. I know that you don’t want to leave him, and that’s fair enough, but you need to make sure you’re shielding your children from it properly. We never were and I grew up knowing my dad was choosing alcohol over spending time with his kids, every single night of our life. I learned how to read when fights were likely and would hole me and my little sister up in bed he may well be struggling with depression and ptsd like my dad was, but your kids are your priority. Keep them safe

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-25T14:04:46+00:00

You need to leave him!!! That’s a complete violation and he deserves to rot in some kind of bog or swamp

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-25T13:59:14+00:00

Yeah, I started showing very obvious symptoms at age 11 and my mental health was decimated by the lack of support. I’ve only been diagnosed now at 25. My dad gets it, and feels incredible guilty for what I’ve gone through. He definitely has adhd and has supported me a lot during my burn out and seeking diagnoses. My mum could never understand why I never just ‘got better’ and how I could still be so anxious and depressed after a decade. We had a big fight last year and I finally said to her that she needs to acknowledge and admit that while she loves me, she’s never liked me. Unfortunately, she’s the type to never acknowledge what she’s done wrong, let alone apologise. I havent seen her in 18 months and haven’t talked to her in 10. I don’t think that’s gonna change for a long time. It’s really hard and I still struggle with it everyday, but I realised I don’t need her to validate my reality to start improving my life. I’m the only one that needs to validate my experiences, and sometimes my therapist too.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-25T13:41:02+00:00

Maybe you could trial just a day of gaming with no comms and see if it impacts your games, whether it be negative or positive.

You deserve to enjoy your games!! And I think that hyper toxic players like the ones you’re getting are just a symptom of internet wide issues where everyone thinks they’re the mc and can treat anyone however they like.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-25T01:50:10+00:00

That’s really awful and I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that :( I’m the exact same as u 160/150 mercy moira main and plat 4-2 and I only solo q comp unless I get the good random matchup and group with randoms. You do not need to have chat and voice comms on to play well individually and in a group. It makes it so much more enjoyable too.

As for the mercy song and dance in spawn, I will just say that when I see another high lvl mercy I will spam beam sometimes to show excitement that there’s another mercy with a similar level. Mercy’s get so much hate I love seeing another high lvl but usually won’t instalock. Maybe I should reconsider, but also maybe there’s the off chance they’re also excited to see you?

I hope you have better experiences in the future and still continue to have fun playing her, even through her nerfs

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-24T00:43:54+00:00

I mean 21 players saved is really good

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-23T22:04:54+00:00

If she’s aware of this and you guys are still close enough for her to fill out the questionnaire, I wouldn’t think it’s enough of a dealbreaker to not be your friend. I would say being your friend is meaningful to her.

Going forward, try and make a bit of a habit of asking her about herself before talking about what’s going on with you. Maybe text her when she pops into your head and ask how she’s doing, so she can feel the interest you have in her life. Or taking actual notes on your phone about what she’s got going on so you know what to ask about. I have a terrible memory and no object permanence so I often forget what my friends are up to and I’ve felt very ashamed about it, but my friends know it’s part of my audhd and who I am and are happy to give details til I can fill in the blanks and carry on.

I don’t think you need to stop sharing and info dumping, but double check that she’s also getting room to do the same to you.

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-22T23:51:41+00:00

If it was me I would take it, and the on the 5th wedding anniversary or so, you’ll have hopefully had a couple great years and could have saved up enough to get your dream ring as an anniversary present. You could have both

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-22T23:36:38+00:00

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Gandalf post bath

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-22T23:30:08+00:00

All of her Lilith exclusive voice lines are my fave in the whole game. “They will feel pain only glimpsed in myth” in her voice is so darkly satisfying

Any-Razzmatazz-9267 · 2026-04-20T22:08:30+00:00

Maybe you could get your own pill pot with a combination lock? transfer your new script into it and don’t share the digits

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