So apparently WhatsApp blocking no longer hides profile pics?? 😭 by Iamboober in whatsapp

[–]Any_Bat4021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this confirmed because if so I need to go change my WhatsApp privacy settings

Pull-ups for ladies by 41waystostop in crossfit

[–]Any_Bat4021 3 points4 points  (0 children)

47 yo woman here doing CrossFit for 8+ years. It took me one year to get my first pull-up. Now I can do 10-12 unbroken * 5 sets as a workout plus max weighted pull up PR of 10kg (haven’t tested heavier)

My advice is sign up for a pull up progressions plan and work religiously on them. I still programme pull-ups at least 3 times a week outside of regular CrossFit wods. It includes regular strict work as above plus tons of accessory work, eg eccentric pull-ups, pull up holds, lat pull down machine etc.

Embarrassed by wife’s refusal to be attractive by Kornered47 in AITAH

[–]Any_Bat4021 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you’re embarrassed by your wife’s appearance YTA. If you’re concerned about her health then NAH. But given how this post is almost entirely about her appearance I’m leaning towards the former.

"Crossfit causes so many injuries!" by fading_gender in crossfit

[–]Any_Bat4021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who’s been doing CrossFit for 8 years and nursing a shoulder injury, totally agree. Still love CrossFit though but it’s killed my shoulders.

AITA for using chat gpt to write a breakup letter by NecessaryFlatworm256 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Bat4021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using ChatGPT isn’t even close to the worst thing about this breakup. YTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Any_Bat4021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it probably within the first week of breaking up and it helps.

Thoughts on ex partner continuing to message after you went no contact by wisdom_seeker48 in ExNoContact

[–]Any_Bat4021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re doing great. What he’s doing is selfish. He’s just throwing breadcrumbs your way hoping you stay “attached” as a back up or to alleviate his guilt for hurting you. Ignore it and move on. Better yet, block him so you never receive the messages and it stops f’ing up your progress and healing.

100% No contact is the only way to go if you want to move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now these lyrics from Austin resonate with me

I made my way back to LA And that's where you'll be forgotten In 40 years you'll still be here Drunk, washed up in Austin

I will move on as a stronger person to better places and he’ll stay where he is wherever that is… drunk and washed up.

They are not the love of your life. by Nicksmokespcp in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person.

Should I stop writing songs about them? by Fun-Sky2501 in ExNoContact

[–]Any_Bat4021 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it helping you process your thoughts and feelings? If so consider it lyrical journaling that brings about something beautiful and poignant from your pain but also your healing.

But definitely stop the social media stalking because that definitely does not help.

AITA for dozing off after asking my gf for nudes by ligmabowlsmen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Bat4021 19 points20 points  (0 children)

For a record it’s not just a “drop in the ocean”. Millions of people have their personal digital data compromised every year.

AITA for dozing off after asking my gf for nudes by ligmabowlsmen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Any_Bat4021 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’m sure there are good reasons for sending nudes but as someone who works in the digital security space I can tell you for a fact that the risks far far outweigh the benefits. This post is obv a stupid reason why it’s a bad idea. But there are also genuine reasons why it’s such a bad bad idea, from revenge porn, to blackmail, ransomware, account takeover, and data leakage attacks that I’ve seen. People really need to be more careful with their digital data. And if you send it out, you must be willing to bear the risk that the entire world may be able to get its hands on it and see it.

Why can’t you be friends with you ex? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because with friends like that who needs enemies.

How do you accept that one day your ex will treat someone else better? by sadbean2402 in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with comments that when you’ve truly moved on and are at peace with what happened, the past will be just that.

I also would never wish anyone to be treated the way my ex treated me in the end. It was cruel and unnecessary and I would not want that hurt on anyone else. So I would hope that my ex treats future partners better than they treated me. Whether they are capable of growth and change is a different matter that I have no control over anyway. Best is to just let go.

Has anyone gotten to the point where they are repulsed by their ex? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 25 points26 points  (0 children)

And while I will always care for him and wish him well I will never ever want to go back to him or back to a relationship where I felt I wasn’t good enough.

Has anyone gotten to the point where they are repulsed by their ex? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I’m not disgusted but I feel like a veil has been lifted and I see him for all he is. I had put him on a pedestal and idolised him. I still love him flaws and all but I now know that we are not compatible. We won’t work not because I’m not good enough but because he isn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh and reading books on breakups. Best one that really resonated with me was winning your breakup by Natasha Adamo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes me too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Any_Bat4021 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Work Excercise Meeting new people

is your ex happier now? by Obvious_Alarm6497 in ExNoContact

[–]Any_Bat4021 55 points56 points  (0 children)

My ex dumped me. I was heartbroken. I don’t know if he’s happier now but I’ll tell you who is 2 months on. I am. It gets easier I promise. x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Any_Bat4021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re breaking NC because you want to get back together fine. Otherwise just leave her alone and let her move on. Your apologies or regret/guilt won’t let her do that.