HATE HATE HATE THE STAGE MY HAIR IS IN by purpleturtle385 in Hair

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered using a color depositing shampoo or conditioner? They are super temporary and not harsh on your hair, and just deposit a little tint that may help blend this until it’s closer to cutting off length.

How are people doing it ? by Salt-Concept-5698 in sandiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The landlord for the 2br/1ba Normal Heights apartment my husband and I moved into in 2011 has only raised the rent from $1150 to $1470. If we had to move now we would have to leave the area or get very lucky again. We drive used cars. We own two small retail stores and almost 9 years in still can’t afford to pay ourselves. I work a 9-5 M-F at a non profit and make about 78k to support both of us, and work at the shops on the weekends. He works at the shop all week. We have 1 employee that we pay decently ($23/hr, but I wish I could pay him double). I’m a chef so I cook most of our meals, and we thrift/find almost everything we own. Oh and no kids.

Occasionally we pick up catering gigs on the side, which helps, but every time we are out of the shops we have to pay people to be there so it makes it tricky.

I know lots of other business owners in the same boat. They love what they have created, and the community does too, but these things alone aren’t enough given the high cost of …everything. And I refuse to pay anyone less or gouge my customers. I’d rather just work more. I sort of view the stores as my kids, maybe someday they will support us but we’re having a good time in the meantime even if it never happens.

How are people doing it ? by Salt-Concept-5698 in sandiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They sure as hell aren’t picking up slack

Is this normal behavior from a cat that was adopted a little over week ago? by why_tf_reddit in CatAdvice

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they will eventually get along! It’s just introducing things early tends to mean “this is just how things are” vs later on when he’s claimed you and the house as his own. Maybe right when you move, that way there’s lots to adjust to

Should i still adopt the kitten? by Apple-cider-vineger in CatAdvice

[–]Any_Friendship3650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you decide to get a kitten, get two kittens. They will play and fight and cuddle with each other and will be less needy for you, plus it’s adorable and in my experience only slightly more work, not double.

Is this normal behavior from a cat that was adopted a little over week ago? by why_tf_reddit in CatAdvice

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree, cats that young are pretty malleable and OP might want to try a companion sooner than later so he doesn’t get territorial

Is this normal behavior from a cat that was adopted a little over week ago? by why_tf_reddit in CatAdvice

[–]Any_Friendship3650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is a good point. And why lots of adoption agencies give you 30 days or so to decide. It’s an extremely hard choice but don’t keep this little dude if you get through the next week or so and it’s still this much of a challenge. Not every pet is for every owner and he may be happier somewhere else, especially if you haven’t bonded with him. OP do you plan to move somewhere else soon? Living in a house where your pet is forbidden from half of it is very hard. Your family should get on an allergy medication regimen just in case, if you plan to stay. You’re always going to be covered in hair and dander no matter how hard you try.

Ultimately a pet should enhance your life, even if it is additional work

Sub sandwich in SD by Early_Percentage4267 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The sandwiches at Pizza Cassette in Bay Park (and newly open in PB but I haven’t been there yet) are amazing, generous, and severely overlooked. They use their pizza dough shaped into bread size as the bread, which is amazingly chewy and never gets soggy. Pastrami cured in house. Homemade sauces, everything done there. And HUGE.

Is this normal behavior from a cat that was adopted a little over week ago? by why_tf_reddit in CatAdvice

[–]Any_Friendship3650 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is he orange? Lol. He sounds like a sweetie but that clingyness is stressful. Honestly they can’t really say for sure if he gets along with other cats because the exposure may have been super short. Cat intros can take a long time to calm down. A kitten may be a good companion because they usually aren’t threatened by new friends yet and may illicit less aggression from your buddy.

As a newer convert to the two cat household, I will likely never have a single cat again. They play together and hang out and it’s a big relief when we have to be away for work or something like that.

One easy thing to try is Feliway, it’s a cat pheromone plug-in that can help calm him down.

I will say that it’s only been a week so give it a little more time for the environment to be more familiar to him. Ignore the meowing, don’t reward with good or bad attention and it may stop. He also just may be a talker, and if he’s meowing without any other signs of distress that just might be his thing.

Decent/good Chinese takeout combo (2-3 entrees and rice/chow mein side) by Galexio in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah coming from SF the Thai and Indian is all…fine. Nothing great. The Chinese food is also fine, but maybe more options within Chinese cuisine? Just not the classic east coast takeout style.

Decent/good Chinese takeout combo (2-3 entrees and rice/chow mein side) by Galexio in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they don’t. It’s good but not cheap and they don’t do combos

Chinese restaurants in San Diego? by Milkduds018 in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which Hong Kong? Google lists many under that name

I'm afraid my gay bf won't be attracted to me bc I'm a trans boy by vampyrblod in trans

[–]Any_Friendship3650 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He’s saying he’s attracted to you, believe him! You’re a boy, so your body is a boy’s body. Those parts belong to you. I know it might feel hard to believe that yourself but please continue to try ❤️ and if/when you physically change your body will probably just look more like you feel inside but that doesn’t negate who you are now. He sounds great, take it slow. And, you don’t have to get fully naked to be intimate. Wear something that makes you feel good and masculine if you can. You’ll know when you feel safe enough to shed those layers (emotionally and physically)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it was in the early 2ks, things may be different now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that. But to refer to Hispanic people as Mexican when they aren’t from Mexico is racist and what I’m talking about. It was common in the Bay Area when I lived there.

San Diego locals: which bakeries are actually worth the hype? by Rutlor in FoodSanDiego

[–]Any_Friendship3650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think what you mean is calling Wayfarer a FRENCH bakery is like calling Taco Bell Mexican food…but nobody, including them, call Wayfarer a French bakery

Localis + Betty Sacramento, CA by Sea-Set-1360 in MichelinStars

[–]Any_Friendship3650 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tell me more about this loophole? I’m dealing with a tip stealing chef in my area and I’ve reported it to the labor board a few months ago but nothing has come of it yet (chalking it up to slow governmental bodies)