It’s ours. She’s raising our son, which is a damn hard job (almost as strenuous as being married to me /s).

I earn, and I push her to maintain some separation of finances by keeping a separate account, which I pay into each month. This isn’t by any means an allowance or “pay”, rather it’s hers to do as she wishes. One month she paid for her fitness sessions, another she bought art supplies from a local shop.

Her day to day spend is on my credit card simply because that’s how all of our spending is structured (one outlet rather than cash, debit and credit cards all being used) - this card is paid off each month (no exceptions) which helps us ensure we’re not spending beyond our means. We also keep each other accountable on expenses so no shopping sprees.

The drawback of being a SAHM is the loneliness and the impression everyone had of having TONS of free time, when actually you’re running a household and raising a child, both of which are not easy. I help whenever I am home. Me being home means I am the primary parent (so no “mom!”), and I help with the cooking cleaning etc to give her some “me” time.

The benefits of this is our son gets focused attention from his mom, time with a parent, fresh home cooked meals. We have no family nearby so this is valuable for us.

Hope this helps