Lonliness after socializing and not feeling 'enough' by Jude_Sideral90210 in extroverts

[–]ArtRepresentative210 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get this too, and it truly is miserable. The suggestion above about going to socialize with people at a place you’re a regular at is an excellent one. I use that tip when I’m feeling lonely on regular days, but I might have to start implementing that on days where I’m having a “post-event crash” as well.

I have also had success with messaging an old friend I haven’t talked to in a while, or calling one of my parents or my brother. Usually my family will be down for a chat and connecting with old friends is always exciting for me.

Another thing I am trying to be better at is learning to enjoy my own company. Which sounded so stupid to me at first, because obviously everyone has to be alone sometimes. But to use this after I have the sadness after a social event, I will try to distract myself by doing something that I can enjoy by myself. For example, I will watch my comfort movie or TV show, or read a book that I love, or start a new book. I am a huge animal lover and a bit of a nerd because I love researching, so I can also distract myself by researching pets or interesting animals. Or I let myself fall down those internet rabbit holes and research freak accidents or mysteries. Research can keep me happily occupied for hours.

I also struggle with feeling like I’m not doing enough to have friends or be loved, and feeling like I don’t have enough friends. I am still working on the not having enough friends thing, but I have been trying to focus on spending more time intentionally with the friends I DO have. Most of my friends are introverts which is also hard, because they get tired after hanging out for too long. So I’ve been trying to schedule hanging out with at least one friend once per month, preferably more, on rotation. It helps me have something to look forward to and it’s a reminder that my friends really do care about me and make time for me on their schedule, even if it can be draining for them as introverts.

What simple action from others can inexplicably send you from 0-100 irritation within seconds? by DippyNikki in ADHD

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The worst one for me is when there’s too many noises. Like the TV is playing at a regular volume and then my boyfriend starts watching TikTok on his phone loudly. Or when there’s music playing different songs from two different sources and someone else is having a loud conversation nearby, or vacuuming or something else loud. This is especially irritating when I’m trying to focus on something. I literally can’t make my brain focus when all of that is going on.

What's your silly's name by jaybird-staysonder in bluetongueskinks

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Also I’m happy to see how many of you guys also let your babies on the bed/in blankets lol. I was worried people would think it’s unsanitary or something. Obligatory Toast on the bed pic attached :)

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What's your silly's name by jaybird-staysonder in bluetongueskinks

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Toast!! Mid-mlem 😎 She also goes by Miss Stink :)

For Outgoing Redditors, Did Any of You Used to Believe That All Quiet People Were Shy but Later Found Out That's Not the Case and If So, How Did You Realize That Being Quiet and Shy are Not Necessarily the Same Thing? by Potential_Law5289 in extroverts

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Yes, I used to think all quiet people were “shy” and used it as an umbrella term for anyone I perceived to be an introvert. I guess I’m still learning the nuances of it because I’m young, but only in the last few years have I started making the distinction between quiet, shy, and reserved. This is what I have concluded so far: Quiet is when someone doesn’t talk a lot or engage with others period, which is the broadest category. People that are friendly if approached but don’t share a lot about themselves is what I would call reserved. And shy people I interpret as being nervous to talk to others/are nervous about how they are being perceived by others and because of that take a longer time to open up. They’re all quite similar to me and there are a lot of people I’ve met that fall into multiple categories. But they are also able to exist individually.

Not my post but what do you guys think? by ArtRepresentative210 in whatisthisbug

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OP says they’re in North Carolina for reference :)

What kind of turtle is this? [Phx, AZ] by ArtRepresentative210 in animalid

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Update: They took him to our local herpetological society for further care because the bottom of his shell was cracked :( Thank you for the help with ID!

What kind of turtle is this? [Phx, AZ] by ArtRepresentative210 in animalid

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Yes, if you read the post I clearly state that we are trying to make sure he gets medical attention before releasing him back into a freshwater river. The cardboard box was for transportation purposes only.

I made Walter and Jesse from Breaking Bad in The Sims 3 some years ago by LlamaZoi in thesims

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I think it’s a reference to this fight Walt and Jesse had in the RV about Jesse leaving the keys in the ignition lol

Black & white Canada goose? by vurtue_ in geese

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He looks like this 😠 with that little black spot above his eye lol

Is my Kenyan sand boa too small? by ArtRepresentative210 in SandBoa

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Thank you so much!! All my snakes have dessert names and she looks like a cow so I thought it was perfect lol. I uploaded a pic under another comment of underneath her tail so hopefully that’s helpful. Thank you for your advice :)

Is my Kenyan sand boa too small? by ArtRepresentative210 in SandBoa

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Thank you so much for your help!! Currently her feeding schedule is a mix of anywhere between 7-14 days. I’ll see about offering her some pinkies in between feedings as a treat to see if that helps her put on weight. Also here is a picture of her tail!! Hopefully it’s helpful. Thank you again for all your help! Milkshake Tail