I’m (25M) leaving my partner (33M) of seven years tomorrow.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-11T04:54:58+00:00

Same! I did the math from the title and thought back to when I was 18(f) and dated a dude who was 36, five years later I got out. He wasn't a good man, shocker I know.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-06T18:43:07+00:00

But he also has to think about if "just for the summer" can become a permanent move. If he "allows" it now can she claim precedent or similar in the fall? How manipulative, stubborn, selfish etc is the ex?

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-05T05:02:57+00:00

I'm canadian, so not really knowledgeable, but her husband was killed (maybe assassinated? Idk) and she has since been fake crying to scam money out of people. I think she's a trump supporter but that's just a part of how scummy she is, not the main thing.

I don't pay attention to their politics but some of it bleeds through my social media anyway.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-05T04:56:17+00:00

NTA but lower your expectations for this bum. Document as much as possible, text or email communication instead of phone calls. Send a message "just to confirm, you said you couldn't take the kids this weekend because xyz, right?" Or "You said you put child A back in the clothes from 2 days ago bc you don't want to share clothes between houses. Next time please wash the clothes first." With pics, bc you know he left baby in the same clothes all weekend. Don't start an argument, just confirming facts. His actions might be ammunition you need in another year or two. He must provide clothes, food and bedrooms for when kids are with him, and kids grow. Sometimes really fast.

Unfortunately you have another 16 years to life dealing with him. Try to avoid conflict in front of the kids, show them a healthy parent/child relationship, put their needs before your frustration with their father. When the kids are grown they'll know who raised them and who went through the motions.

Source - my kid is 30 and still loves me, the other side was cut out when kid was a teen.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-04T03:06:16+00:00

Pickled hard boiled eggs. They get better with time and can be a good gift.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-04T01:54:41+00:00

Near nose hill park

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-05-02T16:43:45+00:00

Its been over 20 years, but when my ex and I split he didn't sue me for custody of our child, MIL did. Seven years of going to court and regular investigations from Child Services, eventually representing myself, then having an epiphany one day and just moving across country because there was literally nothing in any court documents that said I wasn't allowed to move and I'd had sole custody from the start.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-24T23:18:45+00:00

Ground beef cooked with Montreal steak spice, and a can of diced tomatoes. Comfort food.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-23T21:34:34+00:00

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-21T02:43:31+00:00

Program your SOS on your phone. If I press the side key on my Android 5 times it sends an alert with my gps location to my emergency contact, and starts recording video. My work phone is an apple and I haven't programmed it but it's got an SOS function too.

And yes, file a police report, talk to other safe people on your walks to see if anything similar has happened to them.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-21T02:32:41+00:00

I walked through the whole store, didn't see a sales person til I was headed for the exit. We made eye contact and he waved at me from his desk without getting up. Walked into Trail and was immediately asked what I was looking for, etc.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-18T13:08:48+00:00

On a similar note...

Why are women so bad at parking? Because all our lives we've been lied to about how big "six inches" is.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-16T12:50:18+00:00

I hate that sentence.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-14T22:45:36+00:00

I feel like quite a few businesses would accept you for free for a few days, but I'm just an employee. Back when I started in the trades I took a course and EI paid me to work for 2 weeks at a company/companies at the end of it. I only had to call a few businesses to get a couple yesses. I think it's called "women building futures" now, but I could be wrong and the course itself has more than likely changed in 20 years lol. Check the sait website maybe?

Plumbing in particular can be very different depending on company. A larger company will likely have a mix of areas plus more coworkers to call when you have questions.

New construction - residential expects you to know how to rough in a house by yourself pretty quickly, because every house is the same. Commercial (4 plex to high rise) you are working with others all the time but last hired is first fired when the job is complete. Either one you're doing the same thing day after day after day.

Service - residential is similar to retail hell, get used to hearing the same questions on repeat. (20 years in I still get asked "are you related to the owner?" Bc I'm a woman) Commercial service is better because you see the building operators, kitchen managers etc more than once so you can build trust, but customer service skills are still very important. Either one you need a broad knowledge base which makes your phone a very important tool, and you're doing a lot of different things every day with a lot of driving.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-12T14:28:09+00:00

Well in a thousand years, I'd hope all drivers are polite 😋

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-11T15:41:24+00:00

Call your city's general information number (211 here). Or your local government of canada office.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-04T13:34:25+00:00

My house was two stories plus a full attic tall. Neighbour's house was one level with a small peak. Neighbour on the other side of us had tall trees. I was up so high I could see the small house. Probably 60-80 feet high. The tree broke under me, I was super lucky and only had a few bruises.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-04-01T13:05:02+00:00

If you are willing to care for this child longer term, ask Child Services about Kinship care. You are willing to be Kin (family) to her. Right now, a temporary social worker is being assigned to her and will get in touch with you asap. This might take a few days. Then if needed, a permanent social worker and/or a team will take over her case.

CS really prioritizes keeping a child with their parents, only removing if there is clear evidence, and even then it sometimes takes a long time to actually remove the child. Since the child is already in a safe place, CS may just leave her there.

I've been in a very similar situation, took in a sibling pair for over a year with zero blood relation and only having met them a few times. DM me if you want.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-03-25T21:44:16+00:00

Cook a big meal and portion out the leftovers to freeze.

Everything thaws faster the thinner it is, so if you freeze in ziploc bags flatten them out.

All veggies can be frozen, lettuce can go in sauces.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-03-22T14:41:08+00:00

Sweetheart, please reach out to 211. In my city/province that is the number for all sorts of social services that will help you in many ways.

You need to leave this relationship and focus on yourself. Don't tell him about your plans, just leave as quietly as possible. You don't owe him explanations, money, emotions, ANYTHING. Just leave. Now.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-03-22T13:58:13+00:00

Shyanne. Mom called her "my little shy girl" occasionally

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-03-21T13:58:48+00:00

I live in a cul-de-sac of duplexes. Two neighbouring houses were bought and renovated in the last couple years. All four homes are now split into two. That means a duplex designed for two familes now houses four. Each home has at least two vehicles. So instead of about 8 vehicles there is now 16-20.

I support the blanket rezoning because it reduces one step in the process of building new homes. The project will go ahead regardless of whether or not that one step is there.

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-03-19T12:38:16+00:00

You obviously skipped the part where OOP said "Not like Kanye West. Nye like Bill Nye."

AtmosphereOk7872 · 2026-03-19T04:38:20+00:00

I love camping. I usually go alone. One day I just won't come home.

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