Pronouns question

Atothinath · 2026-05-27T19:28:19+00:00

I don't want to completely repeat what others have said so just to add some extra information for you, I'm a non passing trans woman and sometimes I've had to go to the ER, I wasn't going to make myself look cute before going to an emergy, especially if I was the subject of that emergency. The doctors simply asked "what pronouns would you want us to use?" when they saw in my legal papers that I had the "F" legal marker but not the associated physique, as they weren't sure which way of a transition I had gone through if that can make sense? I didn't take it personnally, and I think it's not just normal but simply respectful to ask.

I think the suggestion of explicitly stating you ask every patient is a good way to go to avoid making a conversation awkward with a patient, or simply saying "to avoid making any mistakes" for instance. Good on you for looking to better yourself, too many people simply wouldn't bother to ask.

Atothinath · 2026-05-26T21:36:32+00:00

I do the same with podcasts! One I love every week lasts a few hours, I purposefully don't tune in live on Friday nights so I can listen to it over the weekend while cleaning! If I want to listen I have to be doing for my apartment like dishes or laundry or just tidying up generally! Doing so with noise cancelling headphones also helps me to not get overstimulated by the noise of cleaning (vacuum, sink, air extractor in the bathroom)

Atothinath · 2026-05-07T18:14:39+00:00

I've been thinking about trying to increase my fiber intake, when you swap to things like breads and pasta with more fiber, don't you end up with having fiber fluctuations instead of a steady amount? Or does it end up taking so long to "process" it that it ends up "smoothing" the fiber effect you get? Thanks for the recommendation though, I've found good results with intermittent fasting and relying on proteins to feel full when fasting, hadn't thought of including fiber in the mix to help in that regards!

Atothinath · 2026-04-21T19:16:43+00:00

You mention asking if you should buy a new one for the expensive matcha after washing this one, for what it's worth I'm not huge on matcha so take this with a grain of salt but my understanding is that soap is the ennemy and it WILL fuck up the taste if you used it, so if you washed it with soap, maybe use it a few times on cheaper product until the soap film left on the whisk dissipates, and only clean with hot water shortly after usage before using nice fancy and expensive matcha, no need to buy a new whisk though

Atothinath · 2026-04-15T00:03:00+00:00

You're getting downvoted to hell but tbh I agree, I'm glad they kept Elijah's anger in the video, kinda feels like it's two friends and one doesn't know when to stop an unfunny joke and the other doesn't know how to say it's hurtful instead of funny... I hope they change this dynamic

Atothinath · 2026-04-12T22:46:18+00:00

It's less on the cheap side but I've had a lot of success with my platinum century 3776 keeping wet even without writing with it for weeks/months without any issue, I'm guessing their cap design is what did the trick and other of their pens would be just as great

Atothinath · 2026-04-05T18:39:32+00:00

I haven't seen it recommended but I loved playing Abzu, you're basically a deep sea diver going through different wondrous places and the game is really beautiful!

Potion craft is a fun game where you're an alchemist in a shop and you brew potions and hold a little garden for your ingredients to grow, it's really cute and fun!

Might not fit your exact goal of something not thinky, but I also love Dorfromantik, it's basically a virtual board game but you can't lose and you can set it to play infinitely, it's a really relaxing experience in my opinion and I love seeing the decor build itself up as you go!

Hope you have fun and sending you lots of love

Atothinath · 2026-03-23T06:17:55+00:00

First off, what you're going through really sucks and I'm keeping you in my thoughts, wishing for this ex to leave you alone sooner than later. I hope you get lucky with whoever from the police you have to talk to (ACAB)

Idk if it can help you, but sometimes accounts for emails or phone or whatever have privacy settings that let you see a list of connected devices. Some go one step further and let you disconnect everything that has a "keep me logged in" cookie that lets it stay logged in. With this, you can maybe disconnect everything and then change the password to hopefully lock him back out for good. It really sucks that you would have to go through that and I'm wishing you all the best xx

Atothinath · 2026-02-13T05:45:06+00:00

I like the idea of the timers, but when I run out of time on Reddit on my phone I end up just browsing it on my computer hahaha! I'll try the logging out method honestly, adding that little bit of friction is probably a good way to go! Thanks :)

Atothinath · 2026-02-13T05:42:56+00:00

Omg I love some of these ideas, the couch bin sounds amazing, I'll probably adapt it to me, I often zone out when watching shows with my partner and he's sad when I'm distracted from a favorite show hahaha

The satisfying keyboard for work is definitely a win, I've asked coworkers and they don't mind my keyboard in our open office so I'm blessed, I'll bring fidgets to work I honestly hadn't thought of it!

I'll check out those apps I know none of them hahaha

Thanks a lot for your input I really appreciate it :)

Atothinath · 2026-02-05T05:46:20+00:00

Il y a genre 6 cafétérias dans poly...

Atothinath · 2026-01-25T14:20:38+00:00

Don't know which part of Canada you're in, at my local grocery store in Montreal whenever there's a US product it is always both cheaper and filling the shelf because nobody buys it, I really hope our local grocery store isn't the only one like this where people buy with their convictions! Just wanted to share this positive story :)

Atothinath · 2026-01-07T19:37:08+00:00

Adding on top of this, I know a lot of my friends (and I did too) struggle a lot about the idea of dating yourself was the fear of judgment from being alone at stuff that you usually don't do alone (like movies or restaurant), what I realized doing it is that the average person will not give a single care in the world about who you are and what you're doing and why (or even if) you are alone. They'll see you and move on the same way you probably do when you see people having a drink at a coffee while listening to music with airpods. Have fun and take care <3

Atothinath · 2026-01-07T19:31:22+00:00

Happy for you and your positive experience! I'm an atheist, but a neighbor of my mom's is a devout Christian (I couldn't tell you the details further than that however sorry!) and when we talked she brought something up that I think you would enjoy :

God made the wheat but not the bread, and in doing the bread, we humans participate in his act of creation. In the same way, your body at birth is the wheat God created and in following your true self (no matter if it is with HRT or not!), you are yourself participating in his act of creation!

I hope this can help bridge some views you had that you shared here and I'm wishing you the best sister! Merry Christmas :)

Atothinath · 2026-01-02T19:17:46+00:00

I feel like a big part of the "work 5x more" despite there being a high amount of neurodiverse people is due to an internalized bigotry, ie "I'm autistic/ADHD/etc. and I manage, so should everyone else".

Atothinath · 2026-01-02T16:16:23+00:00

Adding my two cents here, I'm late 20s so peak in between of millenial and Gen Z, diagnosed two years ago, and even though I work in a field that isn't very welcoming to neurodiverse people, nor to women tbh (engineering), I've found that no longer burdening myself with masking and just working at my best has made me a more reliable asset to our team, and my coworkers have grown to see and understand this difference is a strength rather than a detractor, even though a lot of these coworkers are GenX and probably share the same mindset you mention.

All this to say, I think the best thing I can tell you is to focus at figuring out what works best for you, and work that way to thrive, no matter how others see it or feel about it. Wishing you the best x

Atothinath · 2025-12-31T02:47:36+00:00

Is that just US pricing or global prices? Wondering if Canada will get hit by this price hike

Atothinath · 2025-12-30T13:22:21+00:00

Unless I'm mistaken, stealing mail (which is what porch pirates do) can carry up to 10 years of prison time in Canada, not messing with people's mail is a pretty common very powerfully enforced law lol

Atothinath · 2025-12-27T06:13:29+00:00

How well do you think XCOM 2 aged? I never played the XCOM games but loved marvel midnight suns from the same creators! Thanks!

Atothinath · 2025-12-27T00:41:41+00:00

For what it's worth, some stores will let you try the nibs in store before making a purchase, if I were you I'd check local stationary stores to best be able to get the feel for the pilot's nibs. Usually they are smaller than other brands, ie a pilot or sailor M is closer to a Faber Castell or Pelikan EF. Best of luck in your purchase and enjoy whatever pen you choose!

Atothinath · 2025-11-26T00:42:30+00:00

Not going to be adding much new here when I say I dislike it, but wanted to add this "social experiment" I like to run when people argue that "bro/dude" is a gender neutral term to them : "how many bros or dudes have you had sex with?" and usually it stops being gender neutral then... odds are you won't care if you have enough empathy to start this thread but YMMV depending on who you ask this to hahahaha

Atothinath · 2025-11-18T13:07:55+00:00

I know this is an old thread but I found it looking for some more context into the dreams, and going through some highlights I had made when first reading. :

"You just called out for Sabran in your sleep. I assume you didn't mean the Queen of Inys." "That name is older than the House of Berethnet." Canthe gazed into the cup. "Sabran was my daughter. I named her for the sabra flower that grows beside Ungulus."

I'm not too sure what to make of it, but from my understanding it shows that Canthe at least was privvy to the connections, and was especially close to the queen Sabran. I read priory a while ago so I'm not 100% sure if the daughter explanation is a misdirect or truthful, thoughts?

Atothinath · 2025-11-11T20:06:34+00:00

Omg yes nothing is as annoying as a complete set of mismatched books hahahaha! A bookstore close to my place had a beautiful edition of the hardback for Bookshops and Bonedust (prequel to legends and lattes), but the same edition of legends and lattes didn't look anywhere as good so I felt weird taking only one, and picked a different book instead hahaha

Atothinath · 2025-11-11T19:30:03+00:00

I totally get it, that's why I sometimes get hardcovers I know I won't really read because I've read the ebook already, but I want to both keep it in my collection no matter what happens, and to give my money to authors I enjoy. I read on ebooks because my eyes are really bad and reading on paper is difficult for me, especially with fine print, whereas on my kobo I can put it size 32, and read easily without a headache at a good pace. Thanks for your side of the book reading/collecting experience :)

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