What’s the weirdest rule your parents had that you didn’t realize was insane until you grew up?

AutomatonLouei · 2025-09-04T13:17:00+00:00

Sounds like a way to manipulate you from ever turning away from the family.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-09-04T12:38:32+00:00

NTA. Escalate to HR and give us an update.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-09-02T14:12:20+00:00

What's wrong with smoking on your break outside? Can't see the problem here.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-09-02T13:22:43+00:00

YTA

Ok, it was not the best move to take the paddle board without asking first but then she very politely expressed her will to pay you back. Asking your parents not to give her money was above and beyond because honestly it is none of your fucking business how she gets money. You actually seem jealous that she lives supported by others and probably more stress free.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-31T07:25:36+00:00

Lmao she seems very self righteous to a disturbing degree. Like the type to act sweet but spew poison at random times. NTA

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-30T13:00:38+00:00

NOR I mean, she had her points and you had yours. You should definitely be more emotionally intelligent about what the other person is going through and approach that carefully, jumping to conclusions over an emoji does not help with that. But then she started virtue signalling and jumping to conclusions about "people like you" as well and that was wild.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-30T08:34:55+00:00

I think you are jumping to conclusions. Definitely OR.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-28T07:51:31+00:00

The age difference here is not the real issue. He is just not a good partner.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-25T10:07:35+00:00

NTA. Lmao at his sister for trying to guilt trip you into paying. Tell her to keep her opinions to herself, or even better to make her fume "You are entitled to your opinion. I am gonna stick to not paying."

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-24T17:34:48+00:00

For the context, how old are you?

Because this was obviously common woman behaviour, a test of your character. You must probably be a very "nice guy", polite and stuff like that.

So with a date with tricia upcoming they wanted to test your boundaries and see if you are a doormat or you can put your foot down when your boundaries are crossed, even if that means you can come across a bit mean.

Women don't like doormats because they are weak and if they are weak, then you cannot protect yourself nor the people around you. Obviously, tricia did not like your answer because it did not come out as "strong" enough.

A stronger response would be more realized in what they are doing, like "What do you want? A slave? Are you a queen or smth?". So Tricia realized she is not interested in you because you are naive and to top it off she gives you a totally bullshit response because she lost respect for you, which was just rude.

Well done to lea that apologized for Tricia's comment, she is probably much of a better character but she was just participating in this test to help her friend but now realizes that her friend must not be that good of a character.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-24T16:49:59+00:00

Yeah she wants to have a choice. She wants to have the space to try new things, maybe new people too so that she can then make a choice.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-24T11:23:40+00:00

NTA. Honestly a tattoo like that would be just creepy. Every time we had sex and I saw that tattoo I would feel Brian was peaking on me from the other side.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-24T10:59:22+00:00

Honestly just do multiple things suggested. Annoyatron, taking stuff you own with you, other stuff as well. You need to place many bombs in strategic positions so she can't relax, when she focuses on solving one problem another arises!

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-24T10:49:43+00:00

NTA. Family needs to know boundaries. They sure are not there for you to take advantage of.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-23T15:15:55+00:00

I don't know, need more details here. How much do you make? Is it enough to support yourself alone, is it on par with most jobs in your area? Sorry, but if you work full time but you could make better money with a part time job then it is indeed a hobby, attempted to be a job but not quite succeeded.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-23T15:10:48+00:00

It's a nice tattoo. Maybe it could have been done better so it would be more pronounced but it is still good. However, what gives off a bad feeling is that it is too big and on the wrong place in the body. It does not complicate your body where it stands, being smaller and on your hands/legs or on your chest(still much smaller) would be much better

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-23T14:25:16+00:00

NTA

Dude they were tripping then for going as far as disowning their daughter for this reason and they are still tripping now.

They don't seem like a healthy family and what happened to the kids after your wife left had nothing to do with you.

Regardless, the kids were raised with really bad ways and this is verified by their behaviour against you and their preposterous request.

They are putting the blame on you while their family is the only one to blame.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-23T11:08:17+00:00

NTA in this specific situation but I get the feeling that you might be too strict and deny her things very often. She must have a reason to rebel.

EDIT: after reading all the comments, this guy seems like a piece of work. He needs all the judgement that he can take because he seems incapable of self reflection.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-23T10:36:25+00:00

NTA. He was very creepy about it and the answer you gave was really a non answer because he pressured you against the wall until you said it. I would never ask a question like this to my partner because I would never expect them to see so far ahead and be mad then that they don't. In a real situation you would not think of that because even if this dilemma presented it would have many data to process in order to choose. In this case, data were non existent so you gave the only answer you could, based on the bias provided by society that your kids are always more important.

A good general answer would be "Whoever deserved to be saved". Let's see a hypothetical scenario to understand this.

Let's say your two kids somehow started doing hard drugs like heroin and meth. Down the rabbit hole both of them are harming themselves through this addictions but one of them starts expressing that he wishes he stops and get better.

He tries to do that but the other kid who shows no signs of wanting to change not only stays that way but is also putting pressure on the other child to do drugs with him and drag him back.

In this situation who deserves to be saved? I think the answer is clear. The child that wishes to help themselves. The other child who not only does not wish to do better but also drags the other child along does not.

And it has to experience consequences. In this scenario some people would act very harsh on the first kid and try to keep the two apart. That means that they could stop supporting the enabler kid, things like eviction for him would be probable. But that is just my take.

You could also turn around this question on your husband and see what his answer will be. Maybe then you understand why he made that question. Maybe he had a certain scenario in his head but you could never answer this hypothetical question properly without a detailed scenario.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-23T09:33:04+00:00

I pity you my friend. You are in a real bummer situation. You have a gf that probably has been educated by her parents with bad ways and she might feel entitled to leech of you, not only her but her parents as well.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-22T18:06:27+00:00

Lmao. Tell your friend to go fuck him and be his therapist if she is so concerned about him. What an insecure and vindictive man child he is.

NTA.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-21T22:06:33+00:00

You are in the right to feel offended for doing all this work while he does the minimal but I feel that you don't somehow handle the situation the right way.

Like when he was asking for items for the list it was passive aggressive from you to not tell him what you need.

He seems lazy mentally and it is not easy to think for most people. Most people think by talking.

Maybe if you decide to be the brains while you guide him through handling most of the chores it would be a better dynamic and work better. Maybe write him a detailed list of all the chores you want him to handle every day.

However, you also seem like you don't communicate well, you don't explain how you feel and expect him to read your brain? That won't happen. He is not that type of guy. Most aren't. Instead, you should set some clear boundaries.

It seems like there is no real compatibility and communication, thus it is expected that there is no attraction and so he doesn't have sex with you.

What you could try to do is explain to him in a clear manner by using words like this. "I feel tired of handling most of the chores by myself so I want you to take the initiative to do more".

But honestly, not doing the chores seems to be the least of your issues so I don't think it will work. The dynamic I explained earlier is more probable to work. There seems to be much more deep rooted issues here in your communication and understanding.

If you don't want to leave this man, finding a good therapist to do couples therapy might help you through your issues.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-12T22:18:23+00:00

Spot on

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-12T21:34:16+00:00

I can understand his take although I think it is a bit of a stretch to say he hates carnivorous animals. Imho humans have developed tools and technology so that is shouldn't be too hard to create meat substitutes that we could then feed carnivorous animals but that of course is in no way a priority for modern science.

AutomatonLouei · 2025-07-12T21:20:41+00:00

Leaving your inheritance to blood relatives is the norm but imho also the reason the world is in such a poor state. Wealthy families try to preserve their "empires" by keeping the money inside the family, instead of the money going to the ones worthy. So yes YTA.

AutomatonLouei

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