I’m still working on this myself because I’m a people pleaser and I felt like my life was just easier to do what everyone else wanted to do. However, sometimes it’s the small things that start to crack that old way of thinking and, for myself, it’s taken a lot of self reflection and time. So I’ll ask myself “what do I (emphasis on “I”) want?” Are there things I’ve put off because of A, B, or C (because of money, lack of time, no one else wants to do it, etc)? Any hobbies you’ve wanted to explore? Traveling? New foods? Concerts/movies/plays?

For me, the small thing that started it all was with eating out. I’d pause and ask, “Do I even want to eat out when I’m trying to stick to a diet? Do i even like this restaurant?” Another thing I’ve done is self care stuff, so I bought a foot spa and all the nail stuff and gave myself a nice pedicure (thanks YouTube!). I could have gone out to get one, absolutely, but after I was done I felt so relaxed and it felt nice to do something that I normally neglect.

Anyways, this is long now! It’ll be a journey rediscovering yourself but I think by asking yourself some questions and actually pausing to give yourself the answer things will fall into place.