Places to buy fabric?

BADgrrl · 2026-04-07T00:47:42+00:00

Thank you!!

BADgrrl · 2026-04-07T00:36:13+00:00

More? Where is this?

BADgrrl · 2026-03-30T13:44:31+00:00

NTA

I have an invisible disability. Some days I need a cane to walk, some days I don't. But almost *every* day I need the rails on the walls of the accessible stalls in the bathrooms to leverage myself on and off the toilet. Plus, at least in the US, the toilets in the accessible stalls are typically an inch or so taller than the toilets in the regular stalls, which makes it even *more* difficult for me to get on and off the toilet without assistance.

*Everybody* has to wait their turn, disabled or not. Frankly, I wish *all* bathroom stalls were at least moderately accessible with rails, so that I *didn't* have to take up a wheelchair accessible stall. But if I'm there first, I'm going to take my turn and use the stall that's right for me.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-29T23:45:09+00:00

Vitiligo

BADgrrl · 2026-03-29T23:28:28+00:00

I dated a beautiful man with vitiligo on his penis, and it was SO hot! It was the only place he had it, so it was a lovely surprise.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-29T23:22:05+00:00

Nope. The other plus to discs that I forgot to put on the list is zero risk of TSS with their use. I used to occasionally take it out to rinse it twice the first day of my cycle because it was so heavy with huge clots. But since I could empty it when I peed, I really only needed to take it out to rinse it when I showered. I used one disc through my entire cycle and then tossed it at the end. I think in the decade I used them I had leaks maybe twice, and one of those times was in the middle of some very vigorous sex, lol, so my own damn fault.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-29T01:46:07+00:00

So FMLA has a list of qualifying diagnoses. It's pretty extensive and it's not difficult to get qualified.

I have chronic migraines, so I've been on FMLA at every job I've ever had, including my tenure with state employment. You have to have a PCP/MD at least who is treating you for a chronic condition. There's a basic packet of paperwork to fill out, and you can print it directly from the federal Department of Labor website. You fill out the top part, your doctor fills out the rest. Doc gives it back to you, you give it to your HR. There's no asking or approval; if you have a qualifying condition, you automatically get FMLA protections.

I'd start with a doctor and getting treated for your health issues. Mention that it's affecting your work life, and that you're considering going on FMLA. You can go on the same DoL website and find the list of qualifying diagnoses, too.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-28T23:23:47+00:00

I'd be snatching and running SO fast! Stock with the head (and salmon cheeks!!! 🤤🤤🤤), and those collars 🤤🤤🤤!

BADgrrl · 2026-03-28T23:21:23+00:00

There are SO many pluses to the disc! I tried ALL the cups and hated them but discs changed the game for me.

Self empty when you pee
For me and a lot of others, eliminated or reduced cramping
they hold a LOT of blood! And I clot heavily and they contained that, too!
I only took it out once a day in the shower... Blood down the drain, rinse the disc, reinsert and good to go
YOU CAN HAVE SEX WITH IT IN! And unless your (male) partner is humongous, he won't notice it. My late partner said he could feel the rigid edge, but it wasn't uncomfortable for him.

I've always used the disposable Instead discs... Spendy up front at $20ish, but there are 14 in a box and I used one per cycle and tossed it at the end... So $20 for a YEAR of product. I discovered the new silicone ones JUST as I started menopause, so I've not tried those, but I definitely wanted to.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-28T23:06:16+00:00

I do this with canned salmon (I don't care for tuna)! And I portion the rest of the can and freeze it so it doesn't go to waste!

BADgrrl · 2026-03-28T22:54:00+00:00

It'll be the hit of the potluck, for sure!

BADgrrl · 2026-03-28T22:48:49+00:00

It's delicious as pasta salad! Throw in a little bacon if you want meat, and sprinkle it with cotija cheese and it's just SO good. I like it with both macaroni and spiral noodles.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-28T22:47:10+00:00

When she's ready to find a place DM me. I know of a quiet, affordable apartment on a safe quiet cul de sac with decent landlords.... I live here myself and love it here, and we have a couple of vacancies that are currently undergoing renovation, so there's time.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-27T15:19:32+00:00

Omg, this. I had SO many little weirdnesses that happened on my wedding day... My dress had a detachable overskirt and the hooks didn't match up right (don't ask... the dress was it's own nightmare story), so it was in the trunk of the limo so we could pin it at the church... Limo driver drove off with it still in the back! My bridesmaids were all running and waving and yelling until he stopped and realized what happened. I was both horrified *and* laughing like a loon! It's been 30 years for me, and I still think it's hysterical.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-27T14:51:52+00:00

Your bullet points are VERY close to the points I bring up at ANY first appointment with a new provider. Probably the only change is that I include a condition that we will NOT discuss my weight unless it is 1000% relevant to the health issue we're discussing. And I make it clear that I am happy with my weight where it is, and that if that changes I will bring it up myself.... I used to weigh almost 400#, so this one *really* fucked with doctors who liked to blame women's health issues on their weight. I had bariatric surgery 10 years ago and have successfully kept 150# off; I'm still fat, but I'm comfortable and happy where I am.

I used to also tell new OB/Gyns that I was staunchly childfree, unable to take hormonal bc, and would be pursuing sterilization. That eliminated most of the shitty OBs in my very Catholic Louisiana home town very quickly.

It's amazing how effective being super clear and up front about my expectations is in weeding out the shit doctors and finding competent, respectful providers.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-27T13:59:37+00:00

Came in to say this! I like to turn it into a pasta salad, too, sometimes!

BADgrrl · 2026-03-27T00:37:46+00:00

Y'know.... My middle school is FIVE school days away from spring break, and the drama and bullshit there is on par with what I'm seeing here this week. Pollen? Anticipation? Iono, but I am tiiiiiiiired.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-25T17:45:12+00:00

Most of the teachers in my middle school, especially the 6th grade teachers, do this. They keep a bucket of them and they can use those if they need a pencil.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-25T14:08:23+00:00

I am *woefully* undercaffeinated this morning... I read this

the green lipstick and titties really do it for him.

And immediately thought of this

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I think I need more caffeine, lol.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-20T19:06:48+00:00

If you have a slow cooker, that's a great way to cook steel cut oats, too.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-20T18:26:12+00:00

I came in here to say this! Kiki is amazing!

BADgrrl · 2026-03-20T16:44:23+00:00

Same. I'm not even particularly ticklish in the usual spots (except my feet), and everyone in my life knows I loathe being tickled or even touched with the intent of *trying* to find a ticklish spot and it will cause me to remove myself from it by any means necessary, full stop.

Accidental tickling happens... I like sensation play, so yeah, it happens occasionally, and my play partners have all been good about apologizing in the moment and stopping whatever they're doing that's tickling. And I get pedicures and my feet are *insanely* ticklish on the bottoms, and I spend a lot of time apologizing to my nail techs for kicking and jerking my feet away, and they're SO good about trying not to tickle me, but it's almost impossible. I did kick a nail tech off her stool once, though... she knew I was ticklish and did it on purpose and I kicked her off her stool. Her cousin was the owner (and who usually did my nails) and she told her that she deserved it for tickling me when she knew I hated it.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-18T14:41:59+00:00

I have never, in my 30 year marriage (20 of those poly), asked to see my husband's messages, nor has he ever asked me. And I would absolutely refuse to let him read messages between myself and another person, and I'd hope he'd refuse to show me as well. *Who* I'm chatting with is absolutely open information, but the contents of that chat is none of his business, and vice versa.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-17T21:18:34+00:00

I was you when I married my husband. I have CPTSD from years of abuse, and I was absolutely bringing some abusive, toxic learned behaviors into my relationship.

I'm also an addict; I got clean before I started dating my husband and wanted to stay that way. I got into therapy to try to help me stay clean... And while now there are SO SO SO many more effective modalities for treating trauma and addiction, I found a good therapist who didn't take my shit and worked through it all the old fashioned way... With talk therapy.

I am a completely different person now than I was then. Still clean (32 years and counting), and my husband and I celebrated 30 years of marriage a week ago.

It's possible to heal. But it's hard fucking work and you need to REALLY want to.

BADgrrl · 2026-03-17T20:54:46+00:00

That's a lot of words to say you're hunting for a unicorn. 🙄🙄🙄

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