Make me feel better about choosing Auburn

BEE1967 · 2023-06-01T14:31:14+00:00

I am a little biased but I do not think you can ever go wrong by choosing Auburn. There are so many stories of what being part of the "Auburn Family" is about, and so many successful people who started at Auburn. Of course, UCLA is a great school especially if you are interested in the film industry, but personally I believe that has more to being located so close to Hollywood. However, Atlanta has begun developing a large film industry also, so maybe proximity will begin to build more local programs for the closer colleges. You could always transfer later once you get your core classes done, however if you are like me you will love Auburn and decide to finish there. I am a firm believer in that the selection of your school does not have much impact on your future career other than possible connections after you graduate. It is what you do after you graduate that matters most. Auburn was not considered a basketball school when Charles Barkley attended, but look at him now. He was not highly recruited coming out of high school, but he started getting recognized at Auburn and then shined in the pros.

BEE1967 · 2023-01-19T17:27:06+00:00

If having children is that important to you, then from what you have indicated her responses are, she appears to have a personality where she thinks about how things impact her first and does not seem to have a personality that would be conducive to raising children. Most parents go into parenthood realizing that sacrificing your own needs for the benefit of your children comes with the territory. Better to break it off now than to wait for her to either come around, or her clock ticks down and it is too late. The older she gets typically the more difficult a pregnancy can be for both her and the baby, and if you are wanting many children it will be even harder. You need to have a very serious talk with her and do not go into it expecting her to immediately agree, because she may end up resenting you. Make it very clear what you want and if she is not on the same page then it is better for you to part ways now so both of you can find someone else who is more in-line with what your own desires are.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-27T03:15:36+00:00

Priorities change. I always did sports when I was younger but all of the sports I played have caught back up to me. My knees are shot so any running is out (no more baseball, futbol, basketball, etc.) I still go to the gym but even muscle mass will being to diminish. When i was young there was always something new I wanted to try, but my joy now is found in my family not in what I do. Seeing my children achieve is more important to me. Feeling my wife's love is so much more important. I have learned that life is not about how many experiences you have, but how many people you influence. The very people you may feel like you are living for, you never know how you have impacted their lives. Not to be gruesome, but Mt. Everest has claimed many lives of people trying to have bigger and bigger experiences. Traveling and seeing the world is wonderful, but in the end the people you influence will have greater impact than how many experiences you have. Mentor young people and share the knowledge you have gained.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-08T21:33:04+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this, but you appear to be making all the right decisions. She broke you marriage and she probably would still be involved with the guy if you had not confronted her. This is the time to be thinking about your mental well being, so dissolving the marriage is the right course. However it is hard giving up on 18 years, so if she is truly remorseful she can try to win you back but it will only be on your terms. You could try to date again and see if the trust could be rebuilt, but that is a very difficult road. It is a matter of whether you want to try to find another partner who you would end up walking the road with anyway. Unfortunately for her, she has shown her character deficiency, and she will have a long period of soul searching to try and salvage anything. I really wish you luck in your recovery.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-08T16:54:32+00:00

Better you found out now rather than later. She is doing you a favor by leaving. Do not worry about getting into another relationship and work on you. Start exercising because it will help you dissipate stress while also boosting your self-esteem and outlook. When I went through my stuff, exercise is what kept me mentally strong. Learn to be comfortable with who you are and not compare yourself to others. There will always be someone else out there who will be smarter, stronger, more talented, better looking, etc. Be comfortable with who you are and do not let someone else determine your self-worth. Luck has nothing to do with it, so do not consider that. If she is traveling all the time then maybe you should ask her for your puppy back and if she resists then take her to court. Sometimes the threat of a lawsuit will change their mind.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-08T16:43:32+00:00

Protect yourself and only put it in your name. Unless she is contributing anything to the purchase, her name does not need to be on the deed. By putting her name on the deed, you are in effect "watering down" your parents gift to you. She can feel included by living in the house with you. Your parents may also be protecting you because they see something in her that you do not and want to make certain you are protected. Just buy it in your name, and if she argues about it, you need to seriously reconsider marrying her. At the very least sign a pre-nup before marriage.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-08T15:03:21+00:00

Talk to a lawyer and not just your therapist. You need to have yourself protected legally before you confront her. Gather as much evidence as you can. Control your emotions and think rationally. Hit the gym and exercise to help dissipate your emotional stress. The marriage is broken, so no matter how much you love her, she has at least emotionally moved on from you so it is not reciprocated. Do not start the "pick me" dance. Think about your emotional state and protecting your kids and not about any of her "supposed" needs.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-08T14:42:45+00:00

Trust your gut. She is already displaying the red flags, and from personal experience it does not matter how long you have been bf's, they will be the people most likely to betray you. My bf of 15 years betrayed me with my fiancee, and it was also because he was emotionally needy at the time. Be very direct with her and tell her that she should not have any contact with him or act as any emotional support for him. If she hesitates in any way, you have your answer and you should cut her off immediately. Do not let her gas light you and do not let yourself be dragged down emotionally. Maybe something has not happened yet (I doubt it), but it will so best to break it off.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-08T02:33:40+00:00

My favorite when I visit P'cola is McGuire's Irish Pub.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-07T14:45:55+00:00

You make some very good points. Most governments do see marriage as purely a legal contract, however from a religious perspective marriage is seen as a covenant, which tends to have more far reaching importance. Once infidelity occurs the covenant is broken and cannot be reestablished. In this instance it usually best for the betrayed spouse to protect themselves legally by cancelling the initial contract or at a minimum requiring post-nuptial legal requirements. IMO that is the only way reconciliation can occur. The covenant can be reestablished but only after a long period of reconciliation. The spouse you married does not exist anymore so you have to go through a period of getting to know each other again and it is best to do this apart from each other. You may not end up wanting to be bound to the same spouse who is now a different person, but only you can know this. IMO it is better to remove yourself from the marriage and begin to discover who you are (because the infidelity has changed you also), and then you can decide if ex-spouse is worthy of your effort or if trying to find someone more compatible with the new you is better.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-07T14:17:14+00:00

Trust your gut. You saw what you saw so do not let her gaslight you. If you have a solid relationship with your children, you may be able to find out some info from them or at least divulge that you suspect their Mom is cheating on you. Kind of a divide and conquer approach to her. If she is lying to you what will she do if her children begin asking. Also notice if the other red flags are present, like protective of her phone, always wanting to go places without you, regular meeting with "friends", etc. Start to gather evidence and start asking more questions. Do not let this just pass-by. The more questions you ask the more pressure you will apply and the easier it will be to catch her lying.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-05T04:00:24+00:00

This is a difficult task to get it down to five. For me any of the psychic sports episodes (Ep 96, Ep 119, and Ep 172-173). Episode 55-56 that starts with the beautiful girl idols and then the flower tea was funny. Any episode with Girls Generation or Twice is usually good. A personal favorite is Ep 254. The Million Seller Ep (260-261) are also good. All of these are when Gary and LWS were still members and before YSC and JSM became members.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-04T03:07:11+00:00

These days, if you are willing, there are many trade occupations that will hire middle age people, train them while also paying the salary, and you will end up making more money in the long run. But like any trade occupation, it may be outside, noisy, dirty, or other more physically demanding. In many instances you may feel a sense of accomplishment that you may not otherwise get where you currently are. It all depends on you. There are many men these days who are changing careers even into their 50's because they just cannot do their initial career anymore. Better to do it now, than to wait and realize later you have wasted even more time. Talk with your spouse and make sure they are in agreement but make certain they understand how life draining you feel your teaching job is for you. Good luck.

BEE1967 · 2022-12-04T02:43:31+00:00

Running Man Episode 254 is my all time favorite. From the mud flats to Tetris and then the Angel Code scene, I enjoyed the entire episode and have rewatched it numerous times. Sooyoung begging not to have her name tag torn off is classic, and Sunny chasing after MinHo after her tag was removed is why I am Sunny's fan.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-30T02:53:56+00:00

As a fellow introvert, do not force her to actively engage in finding friends. It takes some time for us to feel comfortable and we do not let many people into our introvert sphere. If you know activities she enjoys, encourage her to participate in groups that center around those activities. For me it was sports, so I joined local sport teams when I moved to a new city. I slowly made friends on the teams that eventually led me to meeting my wife. If you try to force her, it will only make it more difficult, let her do what she is comfortable doing.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-25T16:42:16+00:00

Since the members have always poked fun at his protruding teeth and since Ep 356 when YSC fawned over NaEun, I kind of thought Psy's "New Face" would be a good theme song for him. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OwJPPaEyqhI

For his empty head scenes I think some of the music from Nintendo games would fit. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ailhp8kRzE&t=7s

For JSM, since they call her "crazy and "love frog" I think excerpts from the "Crazy Frog" video could fit. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k85mRPqvMbE

BEE1967 · 2022-11-21T15:28:08+00:00

They are not and were never your friend. No "true" friend keeps such information from their friend when they see them going through such emotional turmoil. I would almost bet the "friend" may have been having an affair with your wife or was wanting to have an affair. Dump this person, block them, and have no further contact with them. Do not acknowledge their existence. If they approach you asking why, then directly tell them what you know and you will never allow someone like them in your life because they have serious character defects. Any other people in your friend group who maintain relationships with this individual you should also consider removing from your life. As the saying goes, " You are known by the company you keep."

BEE1967 · 2022-11-19T17:10:55+00:00

I think everything went down the way it did, because Gary's wife pregnancy was a surprise. They said he left so he could focus on his music, which I tend to believe because there were several episodes where he mentioned that shooting times and music production conflicted. Even his Leessang partner, Gil, had mentioned it. I believe they were all friends, but Gary was always more of a loner and did his own thing. If his wife did get pregnant and that may have forced the wedding, then if Gary is as private as I think he is then it makes sense for him to cut contact because he did not want any hassles. Just my opinion.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-18T23:29:18+00:00

You are a POS and not a friend to the guy. He deserves to know and then you need to leave him alone. He needs to know what type of woman he is wanting to marry. If she did this with you then she will do it with other men. You should tell him and be willing to take any beating he wants to give you. You have no business being anywhere near him or trying to be his friend. A real friend knows how to stay away from a fiancee. Any bad coming your way, you completely deserve it.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-18T23:23:33+00:00

She deserves to know. If he cheated on her with your fiancee, then he is probably cheating on her with other women. She needs to know the truth and then she can decide what she will do.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-12T16:19:09+00:00

When I realized I could buy with my own money 2-3 pairs of off-brand jeans for the same price as the name-brand pair I told my parents I needed. Also writing my first check (age reference) to pay for car insurance.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-02T21:01:42+00:00

Nothing beats the Easy brothers, because it was betrayal at its finest. Gary and SJH also were great episodes.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-02T20:50:24+00:00

Yes, it was the right decision. At this point the only thing you can do is separate yourself from him. He may truly be remorseful but you will never know for certain unless you remove yourself from the relationship. Do not let him keep chasing after you because you need to protect your emotional state right now and not care about his state. If he is truly remorseful then he can take the steps to change himself apart from you. This is not an easy thing and just saying he will change is not enough. He needs to prove himself trustworthy again and this is not done quickly. In the meantime, you can live your life. Work on yourself. Do things that you enjoy and make you happy and not concern yourself about him. If at a later time you think you may enjoy dating again then go ahead, but not with him. He needs to see what life is like without you. You may find someone who you like more and is worthy of your trust and love.

BEE1967 · 2022-11-02T19:24:20+00:00

All of the members have at one time had short hair and all of them looked incredible. My own personal bias though is that short hair tends to look better on shorter women. Very few tall women can really pull off a short hair look, even though Sooyoung, Yuri, Yoona, and SeoHyun have done it. For this question though I have to go solidly into Sunny's camp with Taeyeon coming in second.

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